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Lesbian Daughter Of Billionaire Responds To Father Who Tried To Buy Her A Husband

Gigi_Chao_1_0_2-360x368Dear Daddy,

I thought the timing was right for us to have a candid conversation.

You are one of the most mentally astute, energetic yet well mannered and hard-working people this humble earth has ever known.

Your confidence, quick wit, and charisma brightens any room you enter.

I love you very much, and I think I can speak for my brothers also, that we have the utmost respect for you as a father and role model in business.

I am sorry that people have been saying insensitive things about you lately. The truth is, they don’t understand that I will always forgive you for thinking the way you do, because I know you think you are acting in my best interests. And we both don’t care if anybody else understands.

As your daughter, I would want nothing more than to make you happy. But in terms of relationships, your expectations of me and the reality of who I am, are not coherent.

I am responsible for some of this misplaced expectation, because I must have misled you to hope there were other options for me. You know I’ve had male lovers in the past, and I’ve had happy, albeit short-lived, relationships. I found myself temporarily happy, buoyed by the freshness, the attention, the interest, of someone physically stronger than myself.

But it was always short-lived, as I quickly lost patience, and felt an indescribable discomfort in their presence. It usually made me frustrated, and I would yearn for my freedom again. I’ve broken a few hearts, hearts of good, honest and loving men, and I’m sorry that it had to be so.

But with Sean, a woman, somehow it was different. I am comfortable and satisfied with my life and completely at ease with her. I know it’s difficult for you to understand how I could feel romantically attracted to a woman; I suppose I can’t really explain it either. It just happens, peacefully and gently, and after so many years, we still love each other very much.

My regret is that you have no idea how happy I am with my life, and there are aspects of my life that you don’t share. I suppose we don’t need each other’s approval for our romantic relationships, and I am sure your relationships are really fantastic too.

However, I do love my partner Sean, who does a good job of looking after me, ensuring I am fed, bathed and warm enough every day, and generally cheering me up to be a happy, jolly girl. She is a large part of my life, and I am a better person because of her.

Now, I’m not asking you to be best of friends; however, it would mean the world to me if you could just not be so terrified of her, and treat her like a normal, dignified human being.

I understand it is difficult for you to understand, let alone accept this truth.

I’ve spent a lot of time figuring out who I am, what is important in my life, who I love and how best to live life, as an expression of all these questions. I am proud of my life, and I would not choose to live it any other way (except also figuring out how to be gentler on the planet).

I’m sorry to mislead you to think I was only in a lesbian relationship because there was a shortage of good, suitable men in Hong Kong.

There are plenty of good men, they are just not for me.

Wishing you happiness.

Patiently yours,

Your daughter, Gigi.


Gigi Chao, responding to her billionaire father, who is uncomfortable with her sexual orientation and who offered $165 million to a man that could seduce, marry and impregnate her, in an open letter published in South China Morning Post

By:          Editors
On:           Jan 29, 2014
    • Charlie in Charge

      A very sweet note.

      Jan 29, 2014 at 2:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SteveDenver

      Wow. A loving, intelligent, sensitive daughter: what father could ask for more? So what if she’s lesbian: think of all the rich dads who have nightmare bitches for daughters — who put up with ignorant, self-absorbed, spoiled brats.

      Please Dad, see who your daughter is, not who you’d like her to be. You might find out you’re incredibly fortunate.

      Jan 29, 2014 at 5:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Scribe38

      She handles her father much better than I would have. Much love.

      Jan 29, 2014 at 5:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • GeriHew

      Let’s be honest about this. Gigi’s “girlfriend” dresses and looks like a guy and has a boy’s name.

      And I think Gigi would probably still love Sean if Sean was actually a guy.

      Jan 29, 2014 at 5:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Charlie in Charge

      @GeriHew: No Sean dresses like a woman in a suit. A lot of lesbians are women who like to wear suits (and look rather fetching in them). She doesn’t have to dress differently to please anyone.

      Jan 29, 2014 at 8:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • GeriHew

      @Charlie in Charge: People have different points of view. Gigi and Sean are a very butch-femme looking couple.

      I’m not knocking them for that but I can understand why daddy thinks his little girl could be happy with a man. If they were a femme-femme couple he might be more accepting of the situation.

      Jan 30, 2014 at 2:52 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mark

      Is that Sasha Baron Cohen movie based on her and her dad still happening?

      Jan 30, 2014 at 3:15 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • felecia jones

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      Jan 30, 2014 at 9:38 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dakotahgeo

      Don’ it jus’ figger?! All best wishes to Gigi and Sean for a long, peaceable, and happy life together! As for the father… @Charlie in Charge: pffffffft!

      Jan 31, 2014 at 5:49 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dakotahgeo


      Don’ it jus’ figger?! All best wishes to Gigi and Sean for a long, peaceable, and happy life together! As for the father… pffffffft!

      PS: Sorry CiC, I don’t know what happened.

      Jan 31, 2014 at 5:52 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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