In the 1980s a one Sam Hashimi, a powerful investment fund type, had a sex-change procedure to become “glamorous interior designer Samantha Kane,” a woman so convincing he says he had no problem attracting men. I use the pronoun “he,” because Samantha is now Charles Kane. Yes, he’s had two gender reassignment procedures, spending hundreds of thousands of dollars to switch genders twice. And he now believes the entire practice should be outlawed.

Life as a lady was all fun and games, until he realized he “hated the way female hormones made him moody and emotional,” the Daily Mail‘s Helen Weathers reports. “Shopping bored him and sex was a disappointment.”

So in 2004 Samantha (pictured) became Charles, spending another bucket of cash where, three procedures later (goodbye breast implants, hello penis), he became a heterosexual man whose “attempts at dating women … had met with outright rejection and humiliation and he feared he would never find anyone brave enough to love him.”

But now the divorced father of two is engaged to a biological woman, a single mother named Victoria, and yes the two have sex. She says Charles is a better partner for having once lived as a woman. Though that’s an experience Charlies wishes on no other human.

“I feel very philosophical, rather than bitter about what happened to me,” says Charles. “Based on my own experiences, I believe sex-change operations should not be allowed, and certainly not on the NHS. People who think they are a woman trapped in a male body are, in my opinion, completely deluded. I certainly was. I needed counselling, not a sex-change operation. In many ways I see myself a victim of the medical profession. Even with the glamour of Samantha Kane and the £100,000 I spent on myself, I had people shouting abuse at me and builders throwing stones at me from rooftops. I became a woman. It didn’t work for me. I changed my mind. It’s only a fool that doesn’t change their mind when they know they are wrong. It took tremendous courage to say: ‘No, sorry, I will change back.’ I feel very lucky to have found Victoria, but always in the back of the mind there is the thought: ‘Why should she want me when she could have a real man?'”

He’s currently searching for funding to produce the documentary The Sex Change Delusion. An autobiography, I assume. [Daily Mail]

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