A man says his friend is cheating on his wife with other men, and he’s not sure how to handle the situation, so he’s turning to Dear Abby for help.
“I have a friend, an acquaintance really, who once confessed to me that he is bisexual,” the man begins. “This is not a big deal because I am as well. The problem is, his wife doesn’t know he’s bi or that he secretly meets men for sex.”
The definitely sounds like a sticky situation, especially if they hang out together. Talk about a major elephant in the room.
The man continues, “I have repeatedly advised him that he shouldn’t be doing that and he needs to tell his wife. But all that got me is he ceased talking to me. I don’t know if he’s still doing it, but I’m assuming so.”
Now he wonders: “What, if anything, should I do or say? Should I tell his wife?”
In her response, Abby tells the guy she needs to get in touch with this man’s wife ASAP and let her know what’s going on.
“Put yourself in the wife’s situation,” she writes. “If your spouse or significant other was having sex with multiple partners, wouldn’t you want to know?”
Moral arguments aside, Abby says this is really about health. If this woman’s husband is sleeping around, regardless of whether he’s doing it with men, women, or both, he’s putting his wife at risk by not being honest with her.
“If you tell her, she can have her doctor test her for exposure to any number of STDs — all of which are on the rise,” Abby adds. “Please don’t wait.”
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