READ: Robbie Rogers Says “One Day You’ll Be Happier Than You Ever Thought Possible”

rogersAs the first out active athlete in a major sport Robbie Rogers is already an amazing role model for both children and adults but now he offers some solid advice… for his 14-year-old self.

ESPN asked a dozen athletes to write letters of advice to their younger selves and the 26-year-old midfielder for L.A. Galaxy has penned words to himself a dozen years ago in which he said “God made you this way for a reason” and to disregard homophobic comments in the locker room. Read Rogers’ full letter to himself below (and see his handwritten note here):

Dear Robbie,

You’re walking around with a cramp in your stomach. You feel trapped within yourself. The pressure of being a high school freshman and playing for the U16 national team is stressful enough. But on top of that you’re worried that you’re different from everyone, especially your teammates. And you think that if they figure out who you are, you won’t be able to play the sport you love, or your family won’t agree with it. Sometimes you pray and think: I don’t wanna live through this. Why can’t I be like my brothers and sisters?

I’m not going to tell you to come out at 14 years old. I’m not going
to tell you what’s going to happen in the future either, because the journey is important. But I want you to realize that God made you this way for a reason. You’re not damned or going to hell. You didn’t have a choice in this. But you do have a purpose in life, just as everyone does.

When guys say things in the locker room, remind yourself that most of them don’t actually feel this way. They aren’t really homophobic. These are people who are trying to please others, or think that’s what they’re supposed to say. Everyone is dealing with something whether they’re gay or straight. You don’t have to feel like you’re alone. Which brings me to this: If there’s any great advice I can give you, it’s to find someone you can speak to about what you’re feeling inside, someone you can trust who won’t judge or expose you. Because you can’t walk around with a burden like the one you’re carrying. You’ve got to share this with somebody.

I know I said I wouldn’t tell you what your future holds, but I will tell you that everything’s going to be fine — one day you’ll be happier than you ever thought possible. And while you can’t envision sharing your secret now, the world is changing. People are becoming more accepting. And when the time is right, the day might come when you’re ready to face the world as the beautiful person you truly are.

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  • crowebobby

    Brought tears to my eyes.

  • alterego1980

    Two thoughts, 1, That’s a well-crafted amazingly inspirational letter. 2, he thinks REALLY highly of himself.

  • yaoming

    @alterego1980: Because he’s “happier than [he] ever thought possible”?

  • mz.sam

    In conclusion: What an inspirational role model for young people and athletes….AND what a hot dude!

  • EvonCook

    Beautiful man, beautiful advice, beautiful human being.

  • Katbox

    ugh…what’s with all that god bullshit. jeez. boring.

  • 1EqualityUSA

    Young people need to hear things such as this. There is so much negativity out there that youngsters may feel isolated and not be able to see beyond their circumstances. It’s a good idea. I hope others follow suit.

  • balehead

    Definitely self centered….

  • startenout

    @balehead: “Self centered”? In an inspirational letter he was meant to write to his 14 year old self? Well, that’s just ridiculous. Maybe more people should write one JUST to figure out why some of us are so angry at everyone and every positive message people put out there.

  • yaoming

    @startenout: Yeah, I didn’t get it, either.

  • Fidelio

    I love this guy, Robbie, but if I wrote a letter to myself I would be like, “You know that kid that keeps picking on you ‘cuz you’re different? Next time he picks on you, just kick his ass. Seriously, just punch him in the face and let the chips fall where they may. That kid has it coming. Don’t be afraid of bullies. Make them afraid of you. And join the football team, for Chrissake.”

  • miagoodguy

    And he forgot to mention in the letter to his 14 year old self that gay men will find you “hot” so don’t worry, it will get better and gay men will drool over you.

  • NotStr8Acting

    Beautiful guy. Heart warming letter. I sincerely look up to him and consider him a hug LGBT pioneer and role model. Keep it up Robbie. You are a class act!

  • Billysees

    @1EqualityUSA: No 7

    ” Young people need to hear things such as this. ”

    Good comment.

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