A tweet challenging the use of the term ‘daddy’ went viral over the weekend. Posted by Twitter user @chlostrophobic, it said:
‘Saying ‘yes daddy’
– boring
– overused
– reinforces patriarchal ideals
Saying ‘yes chef’
How about we take this to the next level?
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https://twitter.com/chlostrophobic/status/1172861846216486913?s=11
In less than 48 hours, the tweet has received over a quarter of a million likes(!), 50k+ retweets and thousands of comments.
Some comments came from people who already use the term for the actual father.
Wow the fact I call my real father Chef makes this even harder to read without choking
— Frigousse (@Frigouste) September 14, 2019
Many tweets came from those who work in kitchens or are studying to cook for a living.
This makes my kitchen job feel very different all of a sudden ?
— Lucas Grange (@QuieterInPerson) September 14, 2019
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Others just saw an opportunity for a joke and ran with it.
“Toss my salad”
“YES CHEF!”i can’t stop laughing.
— The Joy Of PESI (@thejoyofPESI) September 15, 2019
There’s a joke here about chefs saying ‘behind’ as they pass someone but it’s too early for me to make it good.
— Mid Life Earth Crisis (@warrenssongpt8) September 15, 2019
Some suggested ‘chief’ as an alternative to ‘chef’, and others – perhaps taking it all too seriously – questioned whether other professions could also be used. But the biggest response? Lots of gifs and memes featuring notoriously volatile British chef, Gordon Ramsay.
— Jackie (@jackiepink777) September 15, 2019
wiredpup
Soooo lame.
Carlos Primero
A bit more awkward, but maybe my Significant Elder.
Wolfie
Millennials have too much time on their hands. They should do something. Like get jobs to keep busy
Bob LaBlah
Tweeting and retweeting s#$% like this while waiting for the bus to take them from one less than living wage paying part-time job to the other has become the order of the day. It really makes them feel important and makes them feel like that phone that cost nearly as much as their half of their monthly WEHO rent was worth the sacrifice (having to turn tricks with older men in their late thirties and early forties to get the money to pay for it).
CenterRight
The millennials I hang out with in San Francisco live a pretty comfortable life. We hang out at nice wine bars, go to trendy restaurants, and buy expensive clothes and wear Apple Watch. Granted, rents are exorbitant but I have yet to meet anyone that is financially struggling. Life is good here.
Bob LaBlah
I find it very interesting how you didn’t say what you did for a living to support all those pockets filled with disposable income you have but I am not shocked and actually surprised that you admitted the situation with rents. Over the weekend I compared rents on Apts.com for the cities of S.F. and WEHO. I found WEHO much, much more cheaper than S.F. but that notwithstanding $2500 per month for an 800 sq ft apartment with no pool was a bit much in my book. Ok, there were efficiency apartments for $1900 or so and if you lower your standards you can get something around the Rampart section for around $1500 or so but you KNOW what comes with that area (and speaking Spanish is something you will learn to do whether you want to or not). Its a mess out there but hey, you said its no bother to you so I wish you luck and congratulate you. By the way, what kind of car do you drive and what is your insurance rate on it up there? How much are you paying to park it because there street parking is on the same level as NYC almost. Dude, you MUST be making some bucks because the cheapest two bedroom I ran across up there was $2900 per month in an old building. Run down neighborhoods in S.F. no longer exist which isn’t such a bad thing unless your one of those who don’t make enough money to live by themselves?
Brian
If you don’t mind dodging human poop and needles and homeless people everywhere, I guess life in San Francisco could be considered good.
CenterRight
Certain areas near downtown SF are terrible and filled with druggies and homeless bums but since the city is so compact, you walk two more blocks and you are in a nice neighborhood again. I realize that my post is not really a objective observation but everything is relative here. Yes you can afford a lot of finer things in life but if you want to buy a house here, then you have to live a more frugal life style. It doesn’t mean you stop dining out altogether but instead of spending $100 for dinner, you spend $60 and skip the dessert 😉
Bob LaBlah
Sixty dollar dinner with no dessert? I remember when I lived in Los Angeles and decided to go to Olive Garden one evening for a dinner out on the town. I never did it again. I am from the midwest and the FIRST thing I noticed was how small the plate was. I don’t eat off of a dinner platter but being from the midwest (Ok) I’m sure you can imagine how disappointed I was. Car insurance was so damn high I kept my license and car registration at home instead of California. One hundred thousand per year qualifies you for lower middle class in S.F. You must be a real mover and shaker or learned to manage in an 500sq ft $3k per month efficiency pretty well. Either way I wish you and everyone else out that way all the best with your plans for a future with a partner you can not financially afford to get rid of nor can they afford to get rid of you.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
HEY QUEERTY STOP THE AUTOMATIC PLAYING OF VIDEOS ON THESE THREADS!! OF I WANT TO WATCH A VIDEO I WILL CLICK IT ON. FORCING THIS CRAP IS A SURE WAY TO LOSE CLICKS DUMBARSES
Rex Huskey
shut up fool
sfhairy
No.
bonbon
No thanks. I don’t use daddy now and I ain’t using chef in the future.
Brian
Can I call you “parent with non gender specific role”? I’ll bet that makes you hot.
skeldare
I thought people nowadays were trying to get rid of labels.
HenryCameron
It’s a beautiful thing, the destruction of words.
RIGay
Oh, for F*CKS SAKE – we can’t spend any energy trying to overcome racism in the gay community, but we can make sure some snowflake can feel comfortable with a newly invented definition to make them feel secure about their sexual feelings?
How about this – let go of your therapy duck, cancel out of goat yoga and rejoin the human race to address the larger issues… again…
Aires the Ram
Bingo!!
GentlemanCaller
Yeah, some folks clearly need something serious to worry about.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Probably one of the most inane dumbarse ideas ever heard of….how do you get to “Chef” from Daddy? There is absolutely no correlation.
Might as well choose “Spatula”. Makes about as much sense. Only proves that 250,000 people are in desperate need of a life…
Rex Huskey
huh? shut up fool.
Vince
Now get on Grindr or scruff and start calling guys hot chef and see how many confused looks and ignores you get. Ha
Jon in Canada
I rolled my eyes so much, I mapped my entire brain.
Listen up kids, not everything or every word needs to be gender neutral. It’s actually OK to say Daddy, Mommy, Girl, Boy as well as “gender non-specific parental unit” or Xe. Seriously, get a grip.