Dating apps. They’re not just for dating anymore. People use them for all sorts of things–to make new friends, connect with old friends, find housing, explore job opportunities, you name it.
A gay man from Minneapolis recently received a Tinder message from a random straight guy regarding the upcoming Super Bowl and shared it on Facebook.
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“Dude, I need to be straight up with you,” the message begins. “I’m not gay. I’m going to be in Minneapolis for the Super Bowl and I can’t afford to stay in a hotel.”
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The man goes on to offer food, alcohol, even shoveling his driveway in exchange for letting him crash on his sofa.
After making the ask, he introduces himself:
“My name is Eli, I like football, music, and sushi. I dislike spicy food, bad vibes, and people who leave their shopping carts in the middle of the parking lot.”
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He concludes by asking the man to “please help me out with this act of kindness” then promises to pay it forward in the future.
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Would you take this deal? What would you ask for in return?
Frank
These are NOT dating apps…Scruff, Grindr, Tinder, Adam4Adam and countless others…they are for hooking up
ChrisK
Ha. True but it can lead to other things like dating.
Frank
HIGHLY unlikely but one can dream that dream
DJRM
No, they are what YOU choose to use them for. I am NOT on Grinr or Scruff or Tinder for hooking up…I find the practice disgusting. I am there in the hopes of meeting someone decent and respectable with dignity and morals who want to start with a chat and see where it could lead to. If you even hint that you’re there for sex, I have zero interest in wasting any time with you.
So, if you’re a slut, you’ll use them to help your sluttiness. If you are a decent person, they are simple one of a million dating apps. Grindr, Scruff, Plenty of Fish, Match, Gay411…they are ALL the same…and YOU choose to use them as YOU decide to.
Frank
I do not go to the store and believe that an apple is a potato but if you want to you GO for it…
ChrisK
@DJRM. Wow. If I’m ever in the market for a holier the thou smug asshole I’ll be sure to hit you up:)
jimmycurry01
Frank, they really are what you make of them. I used it as a dating app, and am sitting next to my husband, whom I met on grindr. We did not hookup on our first date, or second, or even third. We dated, just dated. Sure, that lead to sex, but it also lead to marriage. If you use grindr to find a quick f*ck, then that is what you will find. If you use it to make other connections, then you will make other connections.
LegalMaestro
I met my husband on scruff…
Donald Trump
Grindr is dating app? LOL. It’s like calling hardcore double fisting porn for ‘erotic art’.
sdd
A straight guy asking for a couch to crash on from a complete gay stranger just because he needs a place to crash….I don’t buy it. That super bowl fan might consider asking straight guys on straight apps..
chryso
??? Except that he will never match with dudes on straight app being a guy himself, and i seriously doubt any female would accept the deal.
Ergo: trying to cruise for a room on a gay dating site seems to be the most obvious and cheap solution.
I really dont see why the OP is troubled by, that, he could chose to laugh of it instead of being scandalized by it.. But then, Americans right…?
Navalator
EXACTLY! You just have to distrust the motivations of two straight guys wanting to crash on a gay man’s couch. The gay man who goes with this plan is out of his mind. He does not know the motivations of these guys nor their backgrounds. This is shameful exploitation that is fraught with personal danger. How come these “straights” are not canvassing straight sites? Is it because there is another agenda other than just having a floor to sleep on? Could the agenda incude robbery, bashing, physical abuse, burglary, free-loading, rape? If the gay guy buys into this plan then he deserves everything that happens to him.
Lookyloo
@chryso – Re-read the guy’s post.
He wasn’t scandalized merely by the ask. He seems frustrated by ALL the upheaval the Super Bowl is bringing to his host city – and this was just a new scammy twist to add to his exhaustion.
AlbertW
The guy could be very hot, 6’4, great body, deep blue eyes, and 8 1/2 ”, and after a few drinks, or what ever, and to show you his appreciation he just may…………show you more than his appreciation. i’m getting hot just thinking about it. The two day old beard, the cleft chin, the lether neck tattoo, and while your down on your knees looking for that contact that he told you just came out and fell on the floor…………..he hits you over the head giving you a major concussion, rob you, and even kill your cat who could have been you.
Let’s use our heads for more than just giving head and think. There are a lot of crazies out there so do think twice or more before making yourself that valnurable. XOXO
Frank
Sadly TRUE….so true…it is sad that technology and the promise of a quick “liason” has circumvented common sense
Nowuvedoneit
You lack common sense Frank. You post on the evils of social media apps over and over. Are you one of those people that fear the dark web? Are you afraid of microwaves messing up your pacemaker? Who hurt you on the web?
If you were so scared of posting online social networks or apps you should stop posting here. Because if they really wanted your information they could get through this site as well. Odds are some website you ya e your information on has been hacked and guess what? Your wasn’t worth much because you’re still around to grief guys about hooking up.
Buie
Something screwy about that story. Grindr and Tinder are not for dating; they are for a no strings or frills hook–up.
chris33133
I have a straight friend who went down on someone in order to score some drugs. So this doesn’t seem all that far out there as far as things that desperate people will do.
Frank
Your straight friend has a DRUG PROBLEM…
chris33133
Oh I agree on that. He’s now in AA and recognizes his addictive personality. ….. My point was what desperate people do. And this guy’s as desperate as my friend was. ….. We often forget that the Super Bowl is to straight men what the Academy Awards are to gays.
Jack Meoff
I’m not surprised that this guy received a message like that in Tinder or Grindr or any other app. I do however think that he should run a mile. When you hear so many stories about thieves hustling guys on these apps you want to be very careful.
Jaxton
Yes – I would accept a straight guy…straight into my arms.
Navalator
…… and then straight into the emergency room or even the morgue. Jaxton must be profoundly intellectually challenged otherwise known as a moron..
Mmmrrrggglll
Not sure I would let them stay with me, but c’mon, it’s not a bad pitch. Not all straight guys are gay-bashers.
Daniel-Reader
Tell him to find a campground at a state or national park within driving distance instead.
JasonMarquez-Eddy
Well I only see this two ways… One he’s got warped kinky perverted sex games in mind. In which you could be raped or murdered… Or two he’s sick and demented and plans on beating you up and robbing you… Or there is always three in which he will beat you up, rape you, then murder you and after all that then he’ll rob you… Which one do you like? Anyway you look at it, it don’t look good for you…
GayEGO
I dunno, something fishy here! What if the gay guy responded with – “Sure, come on over, it will be a good get together with the rest of my friends, cops, etc., see ya later!”.
He BGB
Hope he’s not a serial killer. Remember the Craigs list killer? Letting sone strange person stay in my house and offer food, booze, etc. No way
mrmeowmeow
I moved out of loring Park a few months ago I lived there a year that neighborhood was horrible long before the super bowl it’s like Sesame Street for tweakers.
Jaxton
A lot of you are prejudiced. You are very negative to men who are attracted to women. You are anti-male sooky calves.
I would welcime – yes, welcome – a strapping straight brute into my home. I would appreciate his masculine qualities for starters. I would appreciate his sense of masculinity as well as his reproductive swagger…..as he waltzes right into my spare bedroom.
You won’t meet these kinds of guys on the gay scene because the gay scene is for fems in search of a dance song with bad lyrics.
Tobi
Yes, Brian, but he can already get all the girly action he wants with a real woman, so why on earth would he be interested in you?!
ShowMeGuy
…..because airBnB is SO last week and Craigslist is skanky.
myrdraal2001
I call b.s. on this story. How can the guy afford Superb Owl tickets yet not afford a hotel?
Herman75
Have the Rooskies taken over KwearTee or are we just nearing the end times?
jcoberkrom
Well, the usual “be careful on dating apps” caveat.
But why not. He was up front and as far as we can tell honest.
Can’t gay guys be friends with straight guys?
Bob LaBlah
What ever happened to that place called Motel 6?