In San Francisco, the Mission District Police Station is apparently popular with gay officers because it serves the Castro? And gay cops love patrolling areas where their own kind live? But for Lori Dutra, a fuzz now on maternity leave, all the gayness meant she was victimized by colleagues — because she’s bi and started dating a man exclusively. “Dutra, 33, alleges she suffered reverse discrimination at the Mission District Police Station at the hands of Sergeant Marta McDowell, retired Sergeant Kimberly Reynolds, Sergeant Lynn Reilly, and retired Sergeant Carri Lucas–all but the latter identify as lesbians. Dutra has also filed suit against the City and County of San Francisco for allowing the discrimination to take place. ‘This is a case about discrimination,’ Phyllis Andelin, Dutra’s lawyer said in her opening statement on Monday. ‘Dutra is the minority within the majority.'” Dutra contends she was dismissed from the Mission Station after the three defendants wrote memos claiming she was “too emotional” to perform her job. [Mission Local; photo via]
Avarcirwen
How can you harass something that doesn’t exist? Seems to me she’s just a hasbian who was probably being rightly called out on her bullshit about being bisexual. Like Dennis Miller said, before he went crazy, “I don’t care what you fuck, but you fuck it regularly.”
j
@Avarcirwen: Typical biphobic remark, it’s shocking how regular these remarks are and they certainly carry on into real life as I’ve personally witnessed biphobic behaviour in so many gay bars. The same arguements against gay people by straights are used by gays against bis and its sickening. Nature is a wonderfully diverse thing and its time we fully celebrated that fact.
Avarcirwen
@j: Hey “bis” bring this upon themselves. They want to have their fun when they’re young and then run back to hetero land to settle down.
alejandro
@Avarcirwen: even if your argument was true. why does it mean she deserves to be discriminated against because of it. cuz what your saying is because she enjoyed herself in one thing and then later on changed, it makes her a bad person?? i dont get it.
Avarcirwen
@alejandro: She doesn’t, but like I said this was probably just ribbing about her hopping the fence and she took it personally.
Andy
@Avarcirwen: Well, no. Bisexuals don’t “want” anything more than gays. And even so, what if they settle down into a heterosexuals relationship? What’s the problem?
Andy
@j: I agree! It’s like if you don’t like just one sex, it’s suddenly a choice. How ridiculous.
Avarcirwen
@Andy: Why is it ridiculous? You can’t make an honest argument that being gay/lesbian isn’t a choice and then say, “By the way here’s a bunch of people who have chosen to be straight”. All you’re doing is strengthening the argument of the ex-gay movement.
PirateFaafy
@Avarcirwen:
They didn’t “choose to be straight”. They happened to fall in love with someone of the opposite sex, which is prone to happen when the majority of bisexuals will have lower Kinsey numbers and societal pressures to deal with. It doesn’t make them any less bisexual.
You remind me of the triplets from Lemony Snicket’s Series of Unfortunate Events. One of them died, and all the ignorant people started referring to them as twins – even to the point where the author’s clear satire came out in the character who plainly said that their sibling’s death changed the children’s birth identity.
missanthrope
“@j: Hey “bis” bring this upon themselves. They want to have their fun when they’re young and then run back to hetero land to settle down.”
Evey bisexual person does this? You know, you could probably apply Occam’s Razor and conclude that she just happened to fall in love with a man. But I guess it’s much more fun to reinforce your fragile ego through a stupid high-school mentality purity test.
Why don’t you go and join other hypocrites who like to judge people based on their sexuality, like pat Robertson.
Signed,
-Bi & Proud
biguy
@missanthrope: Great comment, being bi myself I always wonder why our straight and gay friends can’t all be a little more open-minded, lol… The best thing I ever did for my mental health was to convince myself that if somebody objected to my sexuality it is *their* problem, not mine!
Avarcirwen
@missanthrope: I’m not judging anyone for their sexuality, I’m judging them for lying about it and then getting butthurt when called out on it. Look she straight alright, she chose to pursue a man, chose to pursue a serious relationship with that man, and chose to have his child; that’s what straight women do. If she didn’t want to get ridiculed as a hasbian then she should have thought about that before masquerading as a lesbian.
biguy
@Avarcirwen: Seriously fuck you, why don’t you accept that some people can be sexually attracted to both sexes? You’re a fixated homosexual that is great for you, I’m happy for straight people that never get the gay urge too. I hate bi-erasure. Fuck you.
missanthrope
“I’m not judging anyone for their sexuality, I’m judging them for lying about it and then getting butthurt when called out on it. ”
Newflash: Calling someone who isn’t straight a straight woman and telling them that they can’t be in the cool queer kids club because they also happen to like men is not only judgemental, but it’s basically telling people what they can and can’t identify as, something that gay and lesbians have fought against for decades.
Why you, as a G or L person, doesn’t get why it’s wrong to go around telling people whom they can sleep with and identify as is simply beyond me.
If you want to waste your time obcessing over who is or is not homosexual enough for you, then don’t bother us with it. Nobody gives a shit who you think you think is “really gay” or not. Have a great time being irrelevant while I continue to identify and have relationships with whomever I choose too.
Lady James
NO! Lori was NOT harassed. I was a juror, and we unanimously found her claim to have absolutely no merit. We all believed Lori is a liar, is a pathological attention-seeker, a gambling addict, and a poor mother. These are my opinions, of course. I don’t want to be sued.
The charge of sexual orientation discrimination was flat out dismissed early on. The jurors believe it’s because there was ZERO evidence for this claim.
The claims of defamation and intentional infliction of severe emotional distress remained, but were found to be without merit.
I feel soooo much sympathy for the defendants, who seem to me like wonderful women who were needlessly dragged into this mess (which threatened their stellar reputations) by a misguided self-destructive plaintiff. As someone said, this case was Lori’s “biggest gamble yet.” Like in Reno, she lost it all. Good riddance.
dar
@Lady James: that was a wonderful comment. i observed and knew the circumstances. but it is so nice to hear that the jury got it, loud and clear. thank you for a just verdict.