Were you the best little kid in the world? Don’t wanna make any waves? Maybe rebelled from an early age and now don’t take any shit? Either way, pacifying or aggressing are two sides of the same defensive coin that stem from our own underlying fear that we’re not really worth caring about.
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In a world where we learn both emotional needs and queerness are wrong, trying to find a nondefensive but strong voice to use for ourselves can seem impossible. Watch my new video, “Why Gays Should Be Needy,” to see not only how but why we should speak up when are needs are going unmet.