A woman in Canada only discovered her abusive husband was actually a woman after she fatally stabbed him and paramedics had to remove his clothing.
The incident occurred in 2003, but police decided not to press charges against Elizabeth Rudavsky (right) because of the extent of the abuse she suffered at the hands of Angelo Heddington—who starved her, whipped her with a horse crop, violated her with a metal pipe, and threatened to kill her and her family. As a result, Rudavsky suffered a collapsed lung and lost 70 pounds.
“We all come across terrible cases of abuse on children and on spouses but I’ve never in my career seen one as horrific in nature as this particular case,” said an officer covering the case.
Rudavsky tells the Discovery Channel, which devoted a recent episode of Fatal Vows to her story, that she had no idea her partner was female and using a prosthetic penis. He insisted on keeping the lights off during sex, and claimed his genitals had been burned by an ex-girlfriend.
Heddington, whose real name was Angela, first began posing as a man at age 14, and previously abused both male and female lovers in the past.
I am so confused by the commenters here. Which is it then? Is it none of our business that a person born with physical female biological markers and DNA idenitifies and lives as a man or are we supposed to recognize transgendered people? Cause I don’t think we can recognize you as transgendered, if as is recounted in the story, someone goes out of their way to convince folks they were born with male physical female biological markers and DNA .
The observation above that the woman probably knew her partner was transgenered aside for a moment: Is there no difference in the eyes of the commenters between a person who realizes they are transgenered and lives their life as they see fit and someone who goes out of their way to deceive their own partner of the reality?
Stop seeing people’s reactions to this awful human being as anti trans when its anti-evil schmuck.
So there’s no difference between a mentally ill person who might not be transgenered but decides to pretend to be a man and an actual transgendered person? Do you not allow the possibility of that? You’re not allowing for that possibility is taking this story and injecting transphobia where it just isn’t present.
I supposed the old “I love Lucy’s” where she dressed as a man to sneak in the club, or the 1980s movies where high school girls dressed as boys for reasons other than being transgendeer were also really situations where I was missing the transphobia.
Honestly, this knee jerk reaction does a lot to hurt trans people.
I guess this is where I need to be educated. If a person is living as right gender for them, what’s the point of self-labeling as “trans” or “trans-identified”?
It seems to be a case of having cake and eating it too, and a trap for folks. Do folks want to be considered the gender they want to live as, meaning the transformation is complete for them, or do they want to be knows as “trans-identified” forever. Doesn’t the latter, make doing the former very tricky for all? (In terms of knowing what terms to use and when a trans person would be offended.) It kind of strikes me as a case of having the cake and eating it too and often the reactions to non-trans folk trying to understand the “right” thing to say/do are so hostile, it’s hard to continue to be compassionate and supportive.
@Thedrdonna: hogwash. the govt doesn’t determine it, but it does record it and if one doesnt take an effort to update the record, one shouldn’t have an expectation that everyone else will be on board. . With that logic I should be able to say I am now right handed even though I am not or blonde when my hair color was brown (before it all fell out when I was 20) and everyone should just honor that despite the physical evidence presented to them otherwise ? No effort on my part to match my hair or hand dominance to match the jargon I want to use? Hogwash.