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Disgruntled Baker Won’t Apologize For Homophobic Message on Lesbian’s Anniversary Cake

A bakery in Virginia refused to apologize for making an anniversary cake for a same-sex couple that mocked their relationship.

According to a report published on Advocate.com, a woman who identifies herself as Sarah, ordered a carrot cake that said: “Happy Anniversary Lindsey! Love, Sarah” from an Arlington, Virginia bakery.

But when she went to pick it up, the bakery instead handed her a sloppily made chocolate cake with the words “Lesbian Anniv. No Ballons.” scribbled across the top.

Ballons?

So not only is the baker who decorated the cake a homophobe, but he or she isn’t a spelling bee contender, either.

After seeing the cake, Sarah says she was “appalled.” She asked to speak with a manager, who she claims apologized for the sloppy text but not for its homophobic messaging, even after she pressed him on the issue.

Rude!

After some back and forth, he eventually offered Sarah a refund and a “less sloppy” cake but still refused to address the cake’s content.

“It’s disappointing to know that when I want to honor the most important person in my life, I have to worry about some intolerant person ruining the surprise I had planned,” Sarah told the Advocate.

She turned down the offer for a “less sloppy” cake, but she did accept the refund. Then, with her money in her pocket, she took the cake anyway. She and her partner ate it on their anniversary, refusing to let one disgruntled baker ruin their special day.

Congrats to the couple. We hope their free cake was delish.

By:           Graham Gremore
On:           Nov 25, 2013
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  • 52 Comments
    • 2eo
      2eo

      The direct correlation between homophobia and misogyny and lack of intelligence continues, like the pro-life lunatics who proclaim “stop aborshuns not assult rifles”.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 1:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dixie Rect
      Dixie Rect

      If you want to send a homophobic message, at least be clear on what the message is!

      Nov 25, 2013 at 2:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • littledicksboreme
      littledicksboreme

      Honestly I would prefer folks to be this plain spoken however distasteful. No one was physically injured and Sarah & Lindsey can share their experience with anyone who will listen so that the business can be avoided. Education is not a priority for everyone across the land. However misguided that may be, mocking someone’s lack of education and most likely opportunity only compounds the resentment. The world would be an extremely boring place if we all shared the same POV. That bakery’s mgmt chooses to be homophobic, avoid it and share that information. @ the end of the day who are these people to Sarah & Lindsey other than hateful bakers not likely to earn profits from gays and lesbians? Lead by example! Living well and looking good doing it is arguably the best revenge for nearly anything.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 2:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      They shouldn’t have eaten the cake, honestly I wouldn’t trust anything baked by that person.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 2:34 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dakotahgeo
      Dakotahgeo

      I would suggest that the Dept. of Health be called regularly to report unclean conditions at the offending bakery. Sooner or later the general public will be wary of anything they sell, thus closing the place permanently. Disgusting business persons!

      Nov 25, 2013 at 2:41 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Merv
      Merv

      What is the deal with cake decorators? They seem to be some of the most anti-gay people around. If I ever have a wedding, I’m going to order pie.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 2:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mlbumiller
      mlbumiller

      Lindsey is a gender neutral name, how the hell they know it was for Lesbians?

      Nov 25, 2013 at 2:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Texasteacher
      Texasteacher

      Merv, well said! Everyone who went to work today had to leave their opinions about controversial subjects at home and use the professional mouth that goes with their professional clothes. When we’re home again, we get to change into our casual clothes and be more casual with our speech. For example, if I called a student’s parents and gave my unvarnished opinions about him or her, I might be out of a job. The baker doesn’t get to give the customer an opinion on their cake. That’s not what is being sold. Wait until after work and visit with a friend over a beer about it like everyone else!

      Nov 25, 2013 at 3:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daveliam
      Daveliam

      So the Advocate article gives some important information that helps makes sense of the story. Apparently Sarah chose a cake design that comes with balloons drawn out of icing on the top. She asked for the design without the balloons. Hence, “no ballons [sic]“. It seems to me that the no balloons request was written on the top of the cake instead of the happy anniversary message. I also bet that the person who took the order wrote lesbian anniversary in their notes and that ended up on the top too.

      Of course, that being said, I can’t imagine why on earth, if it was a genuine mistake, the manager wouldn’t apologize too. I wonder if there was a language barrier in play . Or, maybe the place is just mind-numbingly homophobic.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • TheBigOne
      TheBigOne

      I don’t think that I would have eaten it, you never know what they could have put in it.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Hillers
      Hillers

      Yeah, if they were willing to write a homophobic message in plain view on the cake, God knows what they put in the cake. Probably should’ve avoided eating it. Blech.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jim
      Jim

      We will outlive all these ass-wipes. That’s the best revenge.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • pauleky
      pauleky

      @littledicksboreme: I can tell by your name you’re a real classy individual. I’m just glad those in the Civil Rights movement didn’t have your attitude, and thankfully our brothers and sisters on the front lines of the Gay Rights movement don’t, either..

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Liam
      Liam

      ” I also bet that the person who took the order wrote lesbian anniversary in their notes and that ended up on the top too.”

      Outside of their being homophobic, they would need to do this why?

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • D P
      D P

      What @littledicksboreme: you say about avoiding this business I agree on. Problem is, does anyone have the name of the business other than the couple? I’d like to pass along the word to friends & family in that area.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:32 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Nickadoo
      Nickadoo

      To quote the great Louis Virtel: “You can always predict what antigay protesters will say. But never how they’ll spell it.”

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:34 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dxley
      Dxley

      “littledicksboreme”. That name though!!

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AuntieChrist
      AuntieChrist

      I think if a person pays for a service then that contract should be honored… This trend of messages on receipts and cakes and botched orders to make an anti-gay statement is a childish attempt to assert dominance… A twisted form of protest… It only proves that we are getting to these idiots… It is not unlike previous civil rights movements… We may be unable to avoid taking it on the chin once in a while, just keep moving forward and be strong I guess.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:49 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      I would NEVER get something like a cake without consulting the “Pink Pages”! Especially if I lived out the sticks, in a homophobic-until-proven-otherwise area like the former Confederacy. (I wouldn’t even try it in New Hampshire or Maine, frankly.)

      @Merv: Yeah – seems like there is a homophobic cake-decorator story nearly every week. You’d think they would go into a more “butch” profession, like florist??? I don’t get it.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 4:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mmedesevigne
      mmedesevigne

      “A bakery”? Which bakery, exactly? Just so the rest of us will know better than to ever go there.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 5:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bellamy
      Bellamy

      Hey Queerty, don’t tick us off with a story like this, and then fail to tell us who the Nazis are that did this!

      Nov 25, 2013 at 5:34 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Volvoguy
      Volvoguy

      Sounds like a new boycott case, really dude this is
      2013, please get a friggin grip.
      I wouldn’t accepted anything from this bakery
      and let him eat that leftover cake.
      A-hole!!!!!!

      Nov 25, 2013 at 5:58 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Darrellx
      Darrellx

      @Cam:totally!

      Nov 25, 2013 at 6:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jwrappaport
      jwrappaport

      Can someone find the name of the bakery? I live in Arlington and have the week off…

      Nov 25, 2013 at 6:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AmericanWolf
      AmericanWolf

      I agree with everyone wanting the Bakery identified. I also live near Arlington VA and would like to make sure I don’t shop here and perhaps even stop in and tell the manager why I won’t. This is unacceptable behavior that the business decided to engage in and then refused to apologize for and protecting the business doesn’t serve our community well.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 6:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Stache1
      Stache1

      @littledicksboreme: Yes I can imagine how this cake will now look on Yelp or Angies list.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 6:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • nwmann
      nwmann

      home schooled christian bigot. funny how those words always go together……

      Nov 25, 2013 at 6:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • corey
      corey

      There can’t be that many bakers in Arlington VIrginia. I’ve got some extra time to web search. Too bad I’m not in the area though, a little rock action to glass may be in need. Yes, I believe violence is the answer sometimes, so don’t waste your time posting “We should be better than them” bull crap. People that say that have generally never been beaten up, thrown down a flight of stairs, had objects like pointy scissors thrown at them….etc

      Nov 25, 2013 at 7:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • erasure25
      erasure25

      If it were me, that cake would be on the manager’s face (or at least accidentally dropped on the floor). Not really for the message, but for the sloppy work. Do you think I pay people for sloppy work? No, I do not.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 7:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • vacasey
      vacasey

      I live in Arlington and certainly would appreciate the name of this bakery. Will SOMEONE PLEASE provide this name? Thanks

      Nov 25, 2013 at 7:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mezzacanadese
      mezzacanadese

      I think it is very ignorant of that person at the bakery to be so mean and spoil what was to be a happy occasion. If the name of the bakery is ever revealed, people should stand outside with pickets signs saying “Homophobic Bakery”.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 7:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hotshot70
      hotshot70

      I think the gay community should launch a boycott of this bakery. Let them lose business and fire that old bat.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 8:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AuntieChrist
      AuntieChrist

      407 Bakeries listed in Arlington VA. no mention of the name that I can find. As yet, still looking.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 8:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tjr101
      tjr101

      The bakery employees are most likely Teaparty Cuccinelli voters.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 9:10 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Shannon1981
      Shannon1981

      Not very wise of them to eat the cake. No telling what was in it.

      Nov 25, 2013 at 9:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rockery
      Rockery

      They are lucky it wasn’t me, I would never eat that cake, I would have pretended to trip and have that cake go all over their store

      @hotshot70:

      That is a great idea, hit them in the pocket, that ALWAYS hurts

      Nov 25, 2013 at 9:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • dougmc92
      dougmc92

      Lindsey can be a man’s name- the Senator from SC for instance- the person who did this isn’t just a homophobe, but a name a phobe…. What’s the name of this bakery- we need to order 10 cakes each and not pay!

      Nov 25, 2013 at 10:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • GeriHew
      GeriHew

      @mlbumiller: How did they know it was a couple and not a mother and daughter?

      Small town crap I guess.

      Also, not all-same sex female couples are lesbians – but that’s another conversation.

      Nov 26, 2013 at 2:42 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jaack
      jaack

      I want the Bakers Name & Address I wont spend my GAY$ MONEY at a bigot’s business.

      I think constant health monitoring is a good idea. People who aren’t smart enough to NOT alienate a whole group of people, they aren’t smart enough to run a SANITARY complex operation which requires uncooked food to remain in warm area, this attracts vermin and pests. Proper sanitary storage of food storage is probably beyond the narrow minds that operate this store!

      Nov 26, 2013 at 4:37 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AuntieChrist
      AuntieChrist

      @Bellamy: @jaack: No one has the name. I have read every story online even sent an email to the Advocate… As yet the name of this place is not known…

      Nov 26, 2013 at 8:29 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tackle
      Tackle

      I’m gonna be in the minority here and say, not sure if I buy this “story.”
      Something just seems fishy. ( No pun intended). So she comes to an online news source like the Advocate, which other GLBT news outlets pickup, which in turn could translate into thousands of people knowing the address and identity of the establishment. Thus not allowing them to discriminate against the next GLBT person And she and the Advocate does not release a name or address of the business??. No wonder she did not want her last name given out. Anyone can take a picture of a sloppy self made cake and email it in to an online newssource and cry wolf. You guys are some smart people. But you should have caught on and known something was up when her supposed partner decided to eat the cake anyway. Really?? Come on peeps, who in their right mind would do that after beliving to be a victim of discrimination. I don’t want someones spit in my cake. Or worse. Did you see the “Help”…

      Nov 26, 2013 at 11:14 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tdx3fan
      tdx3fan

      @littledicksboreme: I totally agree, and this is one of the reasons I am against non-discrimination legislation. All these laws have ever done is make people hate you behind your back instead of to your face. If anyone wants to argue that they work then please go research the number of black men hired in accordance with Affirmative Action.

      Nov 26, 2013 at 11:19 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tdx3fan
      tdx3fan

      @pauleky: Where exactly did that movement go again? If you believe that blacks are treated equally in 2013, almost 50 years later, you need to take off the blinders and do some research. You do not legally remove stupidity, you educate against it. Forcing equallity only causes people to take their beliefs underground… it does not remove them, and they still act on them; they just do it more selectively to keep it hidden.

      Nov 26, 2013 at 11:27 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JohnnyRalph
      JohnnyRalph

      They did not say Ballons.

      They said-
      Ballo
      ns

      That’s even worse

      Nov 26, 2013 at 12:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dixie Rect
      Dixie Rect

      @Tackle:

      I agree its another fraud, just like the NJ waitress and her homophobic credit card receipt. If the cake wasn’t what you want, then just walk out of the store. Queerty loves to create silly unnecessary drama and disguise it as real news. One of my favorites, and still is, was when some woman had a wig snatched off her head and flushed down the toilet in a gay bar by some mean nasty queen, just like ‘valley of the dolls’. It was entertaining, but complete BS.

      Judge Judy always says if it doesn’t ring true, it probably isn’t.

      Nov 26, 2013 at 3:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tackle
      Tackle

      @Dixie Rect : LOL at the wig story…

      Nov 26, 2013 at 3:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Billysees
      Billysees

      @the other Greg:

      ” I would NEVER get something like a cake without consulting the “Pink Pages”! Especially if I lived out the sticks, in a homophobic-until-proven-otherwise area like the former Confederacy. (I wouldn’t even try it in New Hampshire or Maine, frankly.)”

      Pretty good advice.

      Nov 26, 2013 at 5:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AuntieChrist
      AuntieChrist

      @Tackle: Okay, learn to spell.beliving ???@Dixie Rect: Talking trash about Queerty? Where else can you say what you want??? This site is awesome. Maybe they jump the gun but everyone does that. Personally I love this place, I bet you do as well, if not, then WHY are you here.

      Nov 26, 2013 at 11:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tackle
      Tackle

      @AuntieChrist: Thank you for that spelling lession. But it. “always” amazes me when people want to play spell police on a blog site, espically when they lack themselves. But since you feel the need to help me with my spelling, (thanks) I will help you with proper grammatical syntax. No need to put that period, or comma after the word spell.
      And the sentence where you corrected me should have “But” before learn. Thus properly reading,
      ” Ok, but learn to spell believing”. In correcting someones spelling always use the correct spelling. Got that?

      Nov 27, 2013 at 8:07 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AuntieChrist
      AuntieChrist

      @Tackle: Thanks honey. I know my grammar and syntax is not up to par…. My last English class was 35 years ago so thanks for the info…At my age one has trouble with ones dangling participles. Have a nice day :-)

      Nov 27, 2013 at 8:44 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dakotahgeo
      Dakotahgeo

      @AuntieChrist: Bravo, AC! Lest “Tackle” is not aware, “I” am the Spell Check/Grammar Police on this site. From what I’ve read, you do exceedingly well on this site and all others. Bravo, I say!

      Nov 27, 2013 at 10:32 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hyhybt
      hyhybt

      @tdx3fan: Keeping it hidden, over time, lessens its existence. It cuts down on spreading it. In the meantime, it also means for the most part being able to conduct normal business without worrying over what people think.

      Nov 28, 2013 at 4:07 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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