There needs to be a DLB option!

Who knew there were so many brands? Is there really a difference from one to another? I've tried probably 3 different brands on that list and have used the various different types, but they all seemed the same to me. Now me and my partner go au natural and I gotta say monogamy is a beautiful thing.

@ChicagoJimmy: OMG, you are gay you aren't allowed to bareback even when monogamous. Simply posting that here is going to bring out all the crystal queens that bang seven guys a week but feel that their lifestyle is more healthy because they practice "safe" sex and you make the argument that you have no idea who your man is actually sleeping with on the side so you should use 90% effective "protection" as well.

@galefan2004:

The same applies to straights when it comes to barebacking, why should gays be singled out, as if straights are less prone to STD's, married or single, let alone monogamous.

That was such a nice way of saying "Durex has started marketing to the whores"

kimonooooo!

galefan2004, I wonder. Years ago, a friend told me not to bareback even with a serious boyfriend. He said that it's hard to trust anyone in the community about sex. Considering all the nut bar opinion I've seen here and elsewhere, that still seems like good advice.
You can't say it about everyone. Certainly there are trust worthy people around. But a responsible person would probably stay away from barebacking until after months or years of a loyal relationship.

@robert: I never said they were. However, in the straight community someone is not judged for going bare back the way they are in the gay community. Look at the DLB scandal. If DLB was banging chicks instead of dudes his community would have been accepting, and to top it off the gay community more than likely would have been even more accepting. The gay community still has some of that "GRIDS" mentality left in my opinion. The community seems to jump on anyone that isn't using a condom but still promotes things such as uses of bath houses.

@WillBFair: I'm not saying you should consider yourself exclusive or go bareback with the dude you have been dating for a week. I'm saying that after you know someone's status and have been with them for awhile then its perfectly acceptable to bareback. The fact that you honestly believe that you shouldn't trust your boyfriend simply because you are both gay (which is basically what you said not what I am saying) is proof that you either are not in a relationship or its not a very good one. When you are with someone if you can't even trust that they won't fuck around on you then the relationship is futile IN MY OPINION.

Where's the "I don't use condoms" option?

@galefan2004:

I wouldn't say the entire gay community has some of the GRIDS mentality, maybe a minority does. The issue of bath issues is my city (NYC) is virtually defunct, since all of them have been shut down long ago and I'm glad about that.

Barebacking is perfectly acceptable provided the two are monogamous at all costs and have been tested, I see nothing wrong with that.

You can bet Mark Sanford didn't stop to put on a condom after decades of adultery but that's acceptable because he's straight and in the right wing mindset, straights don't get AIDS because they're not gay, they actually believe that. Truly amazing.

@robert: I never said straights are exactly intelligent. I never meant to even imply that. What I said is that the straight community is much more accepting of bare backing between monogamous partners than the gay community is.

I don't use condoms because I don't have anal sex. Ugg…how nasty to stick your cock in someone where they have bacteria and waste.

@Matt: Umm, you do realize that most people bathe right? You do realize that the anus itself has no bacteria and definitely shouldn't have any waste if the guy bothers to clean himself out. Its the colon and large intestine that contain both bacteria and waste storage, and unless your dick is more than 12" long you aren't reaching that part. Also, the human mouth has more bacteria than the human anus, and even a hand job can give you some STDs. Sex isn't about being safe. You are moronic if you think it is.

@galefan2004: Now before I get attacked for that last part. I didn't say you shouldn't do whatever you can to minimize your risk of getting HIV/AIDs. The truth is that you should do whatever it takes to protect your health. But, even with a condom you are not SAFE. You are simply minimizing your risks. Sex is dirty, nasty and pure pleasure. Nothing about any of that is "safe".

@robert:

Defunct?

NYC: West Side Club, open almost 15 years always busy

East Side Club…was NEVER closed during the "run the bathhouses out of town" movement of the 1980s.

So NYC is down to two huge bathhouses…maybe that was your point

My favorite were actually the 'custom fit' style from "TheyFit" which sadly aren't available anymore.

Everyone voted to Trojans because of Magnums.

Durex XXL and Lifestyles Large don't compare at all.

@Matt:

I guess ignorance is bliss…right? Im thinking you dont know that the mouth of every single human being has more bacteria than any other part of the body.

You should probably know what you are talking about before actually…talking.

@galefan2004: I guess I need to explain myself too. I don't do oral, rimming, kissing, or mutual j/o with other guys. I am more of a sit in front of the computer porn guy. I had a scare once, I'm not going to have a repeat.

wtf, trojans? is everyone here 16?

Is there a way to subscribe *without* posting a comment?

um, do that many people really use Magnums or Durex XXLs? Maybe I am a bit naive, but I've always thought those condoms really weren't that much bigger then regular ones–all they did was help inflate a dudes ego. Or maybe I just haven't been around the right people..

It seems to me that if you want to inflate your ego you buy condoms too *small*.

u should ave lsited the nyc condom

@Matt: Yea. Good point. It's much cleaner to stick into a yeast filled blood hole.

Aren't people supposed to grow out of the "sex is icky" phase at around fifth grade or so?

@fitz: Now that amused me. That's some creative vulgarity there.

@vernonvanderbilt: I'm going for the crossroad of misogyny and righteous indignation. (but really, that was low even for me)

@fitz: Hey, there's nothing wrong with low if it makes me chuckle.

@Matt:
@galefan2004:

You're absolutely right about that.

Matt, its no different than straight men and gay women performing cunnilingus on women. Bacterial vaginosis or vaginitis in women is an inflammation which occurs in the vagina and includes several strains of germ that cause bacterial vaginosis yeast infections and trichomoniasis. Many women mistakenly believe that yeast infections are the most common type of vaginal infection but bacterial vaginosis is the most frequently occurring vaginal infection affecting from 10 percent to 64 percent of the female population at any given time.
Although treatment is available which quickly cures bacterial vaginosis, if left untreated bacterial vaginosis may increase a woman's risk of pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), endometritis, cervicitis, pregnancy complications, and post-operative infections among other health conditions.

Your fears are unfounded regarding anal sex or you may be buying into the misinformation and myths about anal sex perpetrated by right wing religious cults and other mentally deranged wacko homophobes. Anal sex is not uncommon among straight couples either, but when it comes to two males indulging, then they find it repugnant. Don't fall into that trap. Another myth is that all gay men indulge in anal sex, its simply not true, each to his own if both consent and enjoy it, I see no harm if both are monogamous of either sexual orientation.

@Robert, NYC: The other thing, which probably didn't get covered in Health Class, is that there are ways of preparing for sex which reduce some of the risk- if nothing else, for wrecking the sheets. Sex can get dirty, though- and if you don't have the maturity and passion to deal with, then you don't deserve it.

I have been in a relationship for 5 1/2 years living in NYC. I used condoms the 1st year and half. We both still to this day get tested every 3 months and we are both negative. We don't cheat or sleep around or invite anyone into your bed. We do not use a condom because we don't see the reason why if the both of us are in a committed monogamous relationship. Say what you like about it. it works for us sex is great. But if we ever do break up and I have to start dating again I will protect myself to the fullest.

@I pliss: That's overkill.

why ned to get tesed every 3 months if as you state you dont cheat and youdont bring anyone into bed? the only need would be if someone cheats or if you brng someone into the bed

@ConcreteN: Here's the thing: I DO use Magnums. They're thicker than the regular condom for us bigger boys. However, there are a lot of people who carry them around who don't really need them. I can fit into a regular condom, but it is a tight, uncomfortable squeeze, and it's more prone to break. I tried Magnum Thins, but they're TOO thin, and I've had 2 break within the past 3 months, which is NOT a good thing with condoms, so I'm going back to the regular Magnums.

@Rob: Rob is right– I, frankly, do fine with a regular one- but my other half does need that tiny but extra. The regular ones are just a little pinchy, but can be used. Of course, it's all theoretical since with tricks I only top, and that is lower risk.