This week, Charles Geier, a gay Trump supporter from Houston, became Internet Enemy #1 when a video of him shouting racist and misogynistic remarks at a Latina woman and her toddler-aged daughter went viral:
People think white gay men are automatically liberal because of the hate they experience for being gay. This is another reminder that white gay men are white men first, before anything then gay men. https://t.co/BdV0KNnDdX
— s????ds ?s??? (@Am90four) October 27, 2018
Geier has since apologized for his behavior, saying that he “reacted in a poor manner” and insisting that he’s “not a racist.”
Related: Gay Trump supporter who chased down Latina woman with his car insists he’s “not a racist”
The video has gotten a lot of people talking about white privilege and the role some cisgender white gay men, also known as “white gays”, play in perpetuating racism.
How about we take this to the next level?
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Urban Dictionary defines a “White Gay” as:
The “Gay best friend” typically portrayed on sitcoms screaming “OH MY GOD GURL YAAAS“. An unbearable cis queen, everything they do or say has to be over-dramatic. A White Gay like a White Feminist, is not exclusively “White” or Homosexual, the only definitive traits are the endless spouting of Tumblr or urban slang and “controversial” propaganda/topics in hopes of getting attention. Most likely a twink, with no conscience of privilege or minority struggles (most likely sexist although they try to act like black women).
Now, here are 22 tweets that help illustrate the point further…
1.
This is #whitegay level 1000 pic.twitter.com/Mj2ObyLUgl
— ? (@ShayneOfficial) August 21, 2018
2.
The general public gets all of their trends (ie. "wig", *tongue pop*, "yaaaaaas") from white gays, who get it from black women, who more times than none get it from Black/Latino gays.
— #BeatButWoke (@NeonMUA) October 17, 2018
3.
White gays be like “No fats! No fems! No Asians!” and I’m literally all of the above and I’m awesome and cute as hell. Meanwhile, they’re 25 years old with hair that looks like this: pic.twitter.com/VoizYz0A4J
— Denny Le (@dennycle) October 24, 2018
4.
Gay culture is finally thinking you look cute just to get ignored by every cute gay because you’re not a white masc jock.
— Davis Hughes ?? (@DavyChan25) October 23, 2018
5.
this is why white gays are the worst pic.twitter.com/SWvD29vWfR
— maria thot? (@MariaAlejAlva) October 21, 2018
6.
being a white cis gay, the bare minimum minority, flaunting my minority status on applications pic.twitter.com/5uqebCyNxJ
— zach (@zach_hehe) October 26, 2018
7.
me when white gays say they don’t have internalized racism but will only date white boys pic.twitter.com/48VFfAavQG
— brett (@tt3rb) October 3, 2018
8.
white people forgiving white gays for saying the n word pic.twitter.com/DcypM6tvyB
— ? period ? (@shhhammie) October 31, 2018
9.
are white muscle gays on instagram only allowed to have friends that like exactly like them? was that part of the blood pact they made for insta fame?
— ivan (@Ivanibr) October 8, 2018
10.
White gays fetishizing my ethnicity like pic.twitter.com/WkA3c1x5Ha
— Adnan Al Mouselli (@gofornano) October 30, 2018
11.
white gays usually don’t follow me back…hmm ?
— jonathan ivan (@jonathanivan) October 12, 2018
12.
BREAKING: hot white gays being racist pic.twitter.com/F2gjoqSqfK
— Chris (@CCassingham) October 30, 2018
13.
it’s always the ugly white gays that’s saying racist shit.. like maybe if you had a top lip, stupid shit like that wouldn’t be able to slip out between your salami slices you call lips
— SNAKE CHARMER (@umcornell) October 22, 2018
14.
this is all the white gays at my school when I tell them to stop saying the n word pic.twitter.com/oMyFADocdf
— ???????? ??? ????? ???? ? (@satanschuu) October 21, 2018
15.
“Whenever a white gay man calls another white gay man ‘sis’, I’m like…that’s not it.” – @nicolebyer
AND THATS THAT ON THAT pic.twitter.com/BLX4gDhoIe
— Tracee Ellis Ross Jr (@virghoe_) October 4, 2018
16.
attention white gays: do not do this. thank you. good day pic.twitter.com/EeCtsW6ufh
— ?sanTHOT? (@SanjotDelRai) October 15, 2018
17.
stan twitter trying to get white gays to stop supporting problematic people pic.twitter.com/uOk0htssUV
— rebecca (@bIindeye) October 30, 2018
18.
Every time I meet a gay white person on this campus they say something racist. Every. Fucking. Time. #gay #gayracist #gayatlanta #gayemory #why #imtired #gaybigots #blackandgay #gaygeorgia #americansouth #twilightzone #theythinkitsnormal
— Brian Holloway (@SonofAtreides88) April 28, 2018
19.
Why do some white gays think that telling me how subservient you are to black men is a turn on? Get a grip Justin pic.twitter.com/xHkMM6MB6m
— Fashion Papi (@Thynative) October 26, 2018
20.
Racist white gay starter pack pic.twitter.com/jUDKJAN3mi
— sad romance (@omgitsobi) October 14, 2018
21.
White twitter gays after they get exposed for being racist pic.twitter.com/D1MCUMQArl
— Did you get your GED in Jail? (@TheGc37) October 10, 2018
22.
white gays thinking that their lgbt card excuses racism :// pls never speak again
— steve rogers is a fat slut (@howliesbucky) September 29, 2018
But before you get too fired up about all the race talk, just remember:
there is a difference between being white and gay and a white gay
— ???????? ?? ???????? (@guccislidez) October 6, 2018
Be the difference.
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THAT IS THE MOST RACIST THREAD I HAVE EVER SEEN ON ANY THREAD SINCE THE INTERNET BEGAN!!
Everyone is entitled to choose how they present themselves. And who they associ Drate with, and who they are sexually attracted to. There are many members of other races who only are into members
of their own race. If someone is not attracted to you stop your fcuking crying, put on your big boy or girl panties and move on. They’re just not into you. Deal with it, don’t try and create a movement. If Queerty had created a thread substuting any other group except white Gays there would be an outrageous.
Fcuking BS that Queerty is attempting to disparage an entire group of Gays…You should be ashamed
marvinrashad
White people do not face systemic racism. Like, that’s not how racism works. But look at you, crying white tears like a white gay. ?
BlueRamirez
There you go, they should add your comment on this article LOL
Existantia
LMFAO TRIGGERED.
If you feel this article is attacking you for being racist, it is.
gymmuscleboy
He is right. This thread is textbook racist. Painting everyone in a race with the same brush and criticising them.
Robothedestroyer
This article didn’t, not even once, attack anyone for wanting or not wanting to date someone outside of their ethnicity. I have issue with articles like this personally because it does not start a conversation it just triggers rage which does not fix anything! But I digress… You’re proving the point the author is trying to make. The most common thing I noticed here is white gay men using the N word which I think we all agree is a no-no. What I think tied your panties in a knot was the “white gays only dating other white gays” bit which if that upsets you, sorry to be frank, you need to look beyond the surface value of that statement because they are talking about the “preference” assholes on Grinder etc. who wont even give men of color the time of day simply because of their skin tone or ethnicity…
I understand why a lot of people feel attacked all the time and I don’t understand why some people do. It upsets me that everyone feels attacked, black, white, brown, male, female, trans, cis, young, old, gay, straight, and everything in between but in this day everyone’s default is yelling at each other which solves nothing. One critique I have here for the author who wont read this and even if they did would not care: is you had a platform to start a real conversation and make points rather than bate rage by posting a bunch of tweets. That’s a waste of cyberspace, which may be an oxymoron but whatever… Bottom line: chill out dude.
Blackceo
Oh my….I haven’t posted on this site in awhile because of “White gay” comments and behavior like the one mentioned in this article, but I’m gonna check back periodically on the comments from this post because I’m sure it will have triggered the White gays who act exactly like this and will be all upset that someone called them out on their mess. Of course its not all White gay men, but its definitely too many who engage in that crap; even some of the ones who claim to be “woke”.
I’m thankful for the White gay men who will look at this article objectively and not automatically dismiss it and go screaming that its racist and not really step outside of themselves to see how such behaviors and comments are seen by others. This is about to be hilarious. I can’t wait for the responses to this.
:popcorn gif:
SnakeyJ
This is ridiculous. White men are now the biggest terrorists on the planet? Everyone is a victim. The biggest joke is any one of the guys above complaining about how hot white guys only want hot white guys would give anything for one of them… or else why do they pay them that much attention? Very sad.
PinkoOfTheGange
Yo white guys…If you don’t do these thing then you are not a “White Gay”.
But on a side note the older guys will remember a time when being Gay got you legitimately arrested and being any other minority didn’t (not for lack of trying by some lea).
Also coming out took you from the top of the privilege heap to somewhere not there; so there is a perspective that most other minorities don’t have, loss of privilege.
Just remember we all have a journey to try to get the world on an even keel. And to judge an entire sub group by the worst is not right. Would you like to get judged by your dregs?
BTW is it really cultural appropriation when they mix Japanese and Mandarin out of ignorance, or is it just being stupid?
Bruce Majors
Yo moron. You don’t get to decide what words mean and how they are perceived.
PinkoOfTheGange
@ BM well then tell me where I am wrong.
Is it you “think” all white gay guys are “White Gay”? Is that your point? We have no idea because you just sniped and didn’t actually say a thing, but I am sure that is just like every other day in your life.
Juanjo
Lovely to see the White Guy mentality trolls get al triggered.
Bruce Majors
So boring and shallow. The next time you are passed over get a clue that that’s why, not wherever your family came from.
Donston
As a black guy I stopped giving a crap about “unity” a long time ago. I accepted that just because we both want to be with a dude does not equate to us understanding each other or sympathizing with each other. Constant bytching like this is partially why so many white people have become over-the-top sycophant, phony lames who are always desperately trying to prove how liberal and open-minded they are. I’d rather someone just keep it real.
I do find trying to blame most of the queer issues on “white guys” can often be a defensive mechanism. Playing the “But I’m a bigger victim than you are” card has become a major social problem in general. And many ethnic “queers” contend with a lot of the same internalized homophobia, misogyny, misandry, hetero worship, self-destructive tendencies, toxic masculinity (anyone heard of the “gay thug” stereotype) that seem to plague a decent number of “white gays”. I’ve been criticized and flat-out ranted at by more than a handful of “black gays” for marrying a white dude. While many ethnic people fetishize white men just like white men fetishize them. There’s a reason many white guys play the “subservient” role when approaching black guys. Quite a few black guys get off on that. Hell, quite a few black guys like being subservient to white dudes. Yet, when all of these things don’t come from white men they typically get swept under the rug. It’s also rather ironic that many if not most of the people who constantly complain about “white gays” mostly have sex and relationships with white dudes. There’s a decent percentage of black gays who seem to want nothing to do with black gays socially/romantically/sexually. Let’s also not act like there haven’t been plenty of Black/Latino/trans Trump supporters.
Maybe I’ve grown too cynical and simply don’t care enough about attaching myself to any “queer sociology” or movement, and I do tend to look at things in a more nuanced way. But while there are issues that need to be confronted I’m just not cool with Twitter constantly telling people how to think and constantly looking for excuses to rant about certain groups of people while conventionally ignoring other things.
blitzkid84
Same
Bruce Majors
They let intelligent people with complex thoughts post at Queerty? When did that start?
frankcar1965
You are right, I’ve said it for years, there is NO gay community.
Donston
So much of the “queer community” is merely about indulging one another’s narcissism and this desperation to feel that you belong and always feel like a victim. It’s become tiresome. Everyone is an individual and is on their own sh*t. That’s how I’ve learned to look at it. I do believe assisting one another, trying to educate others and educating yourself are things people should still be looking to do. But this large scale coom by yah that some people are aiming for- it simply doesn’t fit human nature. Ultimately, there’s just too much hate, resentment, bitterness, shame, trauma, internalized homophobia, misogyny, misandry, self-misogyny, self-misandry, too many headcases, and too many different backgrounds and perspectives and lifestyle for anything to ever feel like a “community”.
AlexEf
Internet melts people’s brains, in astonishing quantities.
Kieran
Looks like queerty has found its mission: Foment racial division within the gay community hoping it will generate clicks. Very productive. #WALKAWAY
Bruce Majors
The gay press is even more crapulent than the straight press.
Paco
The clueless queen shown in #5 made me LOL.
Great article, Graham.
Brian
I’ve never quite understood how turning “white” into an epithet is supposed to help improve racial relations in this country. And it’s used exclusively by the people who claim to want that improvement the most. I understand that it’s pretty much a payback thing, so we can get a taste of how minorities have felt forever, but what exactly is the end goal? Because all I see it doing is making sure that racism stays alive and well in the USA, and giving racists a defense for staying that way.
Bruce Majors
All it does is make white people – and some non-white people – begin to ignore Don Lemon etc. and think people who speak like this are idiots and hate mongers.
blitzkid84
Social media is the worst thing that has happened to modern society. The endless virtue signaling, habitual hypocrisy, chronic self righteousness, endless searches for victimhood, victimhood competitions, faux intellectualism and so on. It is vomit inducing.
Bruce Majors
Now an article investigating that would actually be interesting; I doubt we will see it here.
frankcar1965
You said it, too bad Zuckerberg’s mother did not abort him, the world would be a much better place. He is nothing but a walking talking abortion.
Magiqua
The most bang on the money comment I’ve ever read on Queerty.
Thad
I felt better when I got to the end. Because, yes, I’m white. And gay. And please stop me if I ever get to acting like any of the first 22 examples do.
Umoja
This all boils down to:
“Collectivism, or group identity, is good for me, but it’s racist for you”
“Entitlement is good for me, but it’s ‘privileged’ for you”
“Ethnic ridicule is liberation for me, but it’s problematic for you”
Bruce Majors
There is a whole federally subsidized priesthood in academia who have a catechism of crappy rhymes and bumperstickers to justify it; you can see these morons on MSNBC and CNN every day.
Echo1Echo2
@Bruce Majors Awesome generalizations, totally no bias there. Do you enjoy it when left-leaning people generalize conservatives like you? No? Well, you’re a hypocrite.
Vince
Let’s show ra*ism by showing our own ra*ism. Will attack them on their looks and because some prefer others just like themselves because we don’t ever do that ourselves… eye roll.
Wolfie
Just remember. There is a difference between Journalism and Click Bait.
Brian
There is also a difference between journalism and race baiting. Remember when we all were supposed to be the change we wanted to see? I guess those days are long gone.
gymmuscleboy
More racism against white people from Queerty, in an age where liberals believe that two wrongs make a right. Shame on, you Queerty.
Bruce Majors
Don’t buy anything from any of their advertisers. I boycott advertisers and publications often. Notice how the Hollywood box office is shrinking?
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1000% Co-sign, The writers here have a shameful disgusting bias against White people.
tham
I don’t really understand the purpose of this post?
And just FYI, the worst thing written on here is the super homophobic “definition” that you cited from urban dictionary.
I’m mean seriously? We are literally defining ourselves with homophobia?
I’d delete this whole thing if I was queerty
PinkoOfTheGange
Could some one explain what well groomed scruff and chonies have to do with being racist or a “White Gay”?
Wicked Dickie
I died at #3. The hairlines, lol. I call them cliffhangers.
ivxxn
Ah yes Graham Gremore the “not like other white gays” white gay lol they still hate you uncle tom
excusemydust
How to avoid being a white gay is quite simple: don’t be a racist & always call racists out on their nonsense, even if it’s benign.
However, while intersectionality is integral and acknowledging overlapping identities within ourselves is crucial, referring to being a white gay cisman as the “bare minimum” minority is peculiar and not a good example for what this article is supposedly attempting to call out. It also ignores the myriad other aspects of identity that also matter.
Cacti
Desiring people of color is fetichisizing them, but not being interested in them is racist. LOL
Vince
Yep. Damned if you do and damned if you don’t.
Kaligula
Well dont fetishize their skin color, accent, height, thought of them being subservient to you. Like them for who they are. Their personality. Their smarts. Their humor. The things that make them a human being.
Vince
Kaligula falls into the damned if you do category. Lol
Godabed
This was so great, i love how some of the post are from gay white men, LMAO.
foodle
When Queerty starts showing love to minorities who aren’t muscular, I’ll start listening to their bs
SuchAUnitingWebsite
Anyone from this PoS website want to explain to me why I have internalized racism for being attracted to the guys I am, but you don’t have internalized misogyny for not being attracted to women?
Some of these are blatant racism, others just serve to show why the right wing is so up in arms about the left. You make everyone the enemy, and no one is your friend.
o.codone
#20, the “starter pack” is making me fall over laughing.
Echo1Echo2
So, are you allowed to be a black gay, or is anything associated with only the word “white” bad now?
doc and raider
I’m looking at all of this and thinking, “That’s so gay… but no homo.”
rray63
So whites are all racists and if you dare speak on it you are even worse? Those statements are the most racists statements made. I’m sorry for the small % of blacks, gay or otherwise that have bought into this BS. Even more sorry for the whites, gay or otherwise that have been made to feel guilty for their color, which we have no choice over. PC police at work. Black is good, white is bad. Women are good, men are bad. If you are a white man, you are pure evil, is that how it works now? Disgusting folks.
PinkoOfTheGange
Didn’t get to #23 d’ya?
2ndcoming
Pretty much how it work and true.
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It’s become beyond pathetic that because you are not sexuality attached to someone suddenly you are a “racist”.
I have a very good looking Black friend who is simply not attracted to anyone but Black guys. Yet no one would dare call him a racist. A White guy not so much….
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And BTW one of guys in the kimono coustume is Asian, is he too a “racist”????
Pistolo
I don’t think tweets seeping with contempt, using anecdotal gripes as a basis constitutes even adequate social awareness campaigning. It’s fine if you’re mad at Tyler from your graduating class for being ignorant but it doesn’t transfer into “yes, all white gays”. The idea you think I use certain lingo, vet lovers on racist or internalized-homophobic criteria is profiling ME, something I make a conscious effort NOT to do to others. I don’t like being addressed based on my race or my sexual identity. A call to action? Imploring me? That’s one thing. Screaming in face for imagined slights though? Not giving that my time.
Magiqua
‘I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.’
The content of this whole article flies in the face of everything Martin Luther King Jr stood for.
Truly, what do you think he would make of all of this?
gymmuscleboy
Interesting. So then what is a “black gay”?