Twin brothers Jafar Gibbs and Aslam Abdus-samad didn’t always have it easy, but now that they’re both out of the closet, they’ve discovered that being gay twins comes with a unique set of advantages when it comes to socializing.
They grew up in Logan, Australia just south of Brisbane, and like most siblings, had their share of conflict.
In fact, when Aslam was 15 or 16, he came out to a close friend from school. Word quickly spread (like it does), and the reaction was poor. Adding insult to injury, it was Jafar who was gave Aslam the most grief.
But that’s because Jafar was keeping his own secret.
Aslam retreated back into the closet, but came out with renewed confidence a few years later at age 18. This time, there was no going back. The boys’ strict Muslim stepfather was angry, but there was nothing he could do.
When the brothers were 19, they moved in with each other in the Logan City suburb of Eagleby, where Aslam quickly discovered Jafar’s hidden truth.
“I caught him looking up gay porn, and there’s only so many times he can say, ‘Oh, it’s a pop-up!’” Aslam told Same But Different.
He added: “There’s only so many times his friend Alex can buy him nice things before it becomes suspicious.”
When Jafar was finally ready to come out to Aslam, it was about as natural as possible. After all, who better to understand than his gay twin brother?
“We were having some drinks,” Jafar remembers. “I was chatting to this fellow, and started holding his hand. Aslam asked, ‘Why are you doing that?’, and I said, ‘Because I like guys.’ His response was basically, ‘Oh, okay. Kudos to you. Let’s go dance!’”
And that’s when they discovered the gift they’d just been given.
We’d be hard-pressed to come up with a better icebreaker while chatting up a cute guy at a club than “This is my twin brother.”
“When we got a bit drunk, we’d play it up a bit on the dance floor to get free drinks,” Jafar, who is now 28-years-old, fondly remembers.
“In terms of approaching other people, it’s a lot easier when you’re a twin,” added Aslam.
“You know the concept of a wingman? When you’re a twin, it’s even better, because your wingman knows your selling points. They know you inside-out.”
The brothers no longer live together — or in the same city for that matter — but they’ll still always have the perfect wingman when they really need one.