When it comes to homosexuals and their child custody battles, there are two ways to go about fighting over the kids. There’s the Janet Jenkins Method, which involves the police hunting down your former partner who went MIA before complying with a court order to turn over the child. And then there’s the Kim T. Smith, who found “a fragile peace” with former partner Maggie Quale, who fell in love with the sperm donor of their almost-one-year-old twin boys.
Smith and Quale, 33, never registered as domestic partners, but under the settlement will both be considered the children’s legal parents. Yahoo! But what about Shawn Wallace, 28, the baby daddy, creator of SaveOurTwins.com, and Quale’s new beau (pictured)?
The public relations specialist and Shawn Wallace, the sperm donor, a 28-year-old landscape designer who she met through a mutual friend, started a Web site three months ago called SaveOurTwins.com and asked the public for help with legal expenses. The site and a corresponding Facebook page have since been taken down.
Smith, 45, who works at the University of California, Santa Cruz, has been advised by her attorneys not to discuss the case publicly. She and Quale, who had a commitment ceremony in January 2008 eight months after meeting, split up in August 2009, just five months after the twins, Max and Levi, were born.
Quale and Smith never registered as domestic partners with the state, but were considered as such on Smith’s insurance, which paid for the birth. Though Smith never adopted the twins, Smith and Quale are listed as parents on the children’s birth certificates, and the boys have the hyphenated last name of Smith-Quale.
Quale said she and Smith never formalized their relationship because of persistent problems with the relationship.
[…] It is not clear whether Wallace was granted any paternity rights in the settlement.
And because we just saw a gay custody case on Judge Judy, let this be a warning to all:
No legal arrangements were made between them or Wallace about parental rights before or after the children were born.
Sorry ladies, but that makes you IDIOTS. There are enough legal snafus that gay parents have to jump through to secure proper guardian rights, and not even having a single sheet of paper declaring whom the parents will be (the two mommies) and whom will not be (the sperm donor) is the very least you could do. Particularly in California, where state law — and various judges’ courtrooms — dictates two biological parents will always supersede an assumed parent.
We learn all about the pill and how to put on a condom. But for gays, we should also be taught that when we actually want to have children, get it in writing.
(P.S. SaveOurTwins.com is offline, but you can view it in Google’s cache. And because the story Maggie and Shawn share on it should never be lost, we’ve reprinted in full on the next page.)
A now confused John from England(used to be just John but there are other John's)
Ouch. What assholes. She obv liked him which is why she asked him to be the father of her kids. Women are so manipulative.
Oh well.
Men are dumb. Narcissistic and full of it.
And the world spins…
Mr. Enemabag Jones
What a dumb dyke. She gets a load of cum in her, now she’s cock-hungry. I’m sure she, her much younger baby-daddy and children–whom she used as props in a political battle–will make lovely poster children for EXODUS, or PFLAG.
Mr. Enemabag Jones
Turns out Quale is bisexual:
http://tinyurl.com/ylmesfu
And they wonder why we give them shit.
ionos
That Shawn guy is hot … no wonder Quale (who typifies the term ‘plain jane’) switched sides (j/k).
jason
I agree that women are extremely manipulative and borderline disgusting in their behavior.
There’s nothing wrong with a woman being bisexual but it’s the way women use their sexuality to obtain benefits that are unrelated to sexual satisfaction that is the problem. In this case, it appears to be a case of women trying to have their cake and eat it too.
Not impressed, ladies.
missanthrope
“Turns out Quale is bisexual:
And they wonder why we give them shit.”
Because no gay person has ever cheated on their partner in the history of humankind, am I right?
You’re letting your grudge get ahead of you logic there. And wtf with the misogyny here?
jason
A lot of women compromise themselves in the name of wanting to have kids. Even 100% lesbians are known to have sex with men because they want kids so bad.
Again, it proves that sexual behavior in women is not always reflective of their sexual desires.
Mr. Enemabag Jones
@missanthrope:
Because no gay person has ever cheated on their partner in the history of humankind, am I right?
Well…I’m sure queers of all stripes cheat. But how many contact a man suggested to them by a friend, in order to buy his sperm; then use said sperm to get pregnant–without telling their partner; then tell their current partner that they are preggers and this is the father; use their partners work insurance to have the kids, because they had a commitment ceremony, which their ex-partners work excepted as a partnership; then when their partner leaves them, (no duh!), they refuse to grant their ex-partner even visitation rights, claiming they only had a commitment ceremony and never registered as Domestic Partners; causing their ex-partner to sue because her name is on the birth certificate; all this while the man who sold his sperm to her, moved into their house; and then lashing out at their ex-partner and gay groups online, to score political points–and donations–while claiming they dislike gays using kids to score political points.
Mr. Enemabag Jones
@jason:
A lot of women compromise themselves in the name of wanting to have kids. Even 100% lesbians are known to have sex with men because they want kids so bad.
This is too easy a cop-out in this situation. Clearly this woman wanted kids, but then decided she wanted kids with a mommy and daddy–not two mommies.
Read the above letter again; she wants the white picket fence, kids playing in the yard, PTA meetings and all the acceptance that straight couples with kids get, that queer couples with kids rarely get.
Wallace only saw her and those kids 4-5 times, then moves to another state. He signed a legal document stating he is not the father of those kids, then all of a sudden, after the wife leaves mommy, he moves in to their house and sets up housekeeping.
And her references to God must make one wonder if she’s all that different from Janet Jenkins. The question is, who got her thinking like that, herself, or the guy she bought a load of baby batter from?
Quale knew what she wanted and used her ex-partner to get it.
$0.02
Women like this make me sick. She’ll be back on the gay side. Women like her don’t know what they want which is why they keep switching back and forth, and call that bisexuality which is an insult to a man or woman who is indeed bisesual and not confused or greedy or whatever other stereotype one can pull up. Idiots indeed. Dummies like yourselves make it hard for real gay families who have to fight for their rights as a family.
Rikard
never has the cherished cliche “the heart wants what it wants” seemed so hollow. our community fails on every level.
Luis
Why do I get the impression the mousy looking bitch just got together with the other lesbian just for her to ¨finance¨ her pregnancy????
¨Smith, 45, who works at the University of California, Santa Cruz, has been advised by her attorneys not to discuss the case publicly. She and Quale, who had a commitment ceremony in January 2008 eight months after meeting, split up in August 2009, just five months after the twins, Max and Levi, were born.¨
Oh, and the guy looks like such a loser