The makers of HBO’s sex-centric drama Tell Me You Love Me may not want their show to be simply for the sex, but we can’t resist highlighting this hot sex scene featuring Ian Somerhalder.
Taking into account the show’s on cable and most work places frown on tits, ass and balls, consider this NSFW.
David Hauslaib, Queerty
Around the 3:00 mark is where it gets, ahem, “good.”
Alan down in Florida
What a sweet ass, Yum yum yum.
“Around the 3:00 mark is where it gets, ahem, ‘good.'”
Is that when Mr. Somerhalder apologizes for the homophobic comments he’s made over the years?
Love the show, hate every one of the characters. Well, except for Dave, because Tim DeKay looks DAMN GOOD nekkid. Those women make me glad to be gay.
I love Paul Raposo’s touchy-feely posturing over homophobia. God forbid if it were another minority in the same situation. But the sweetly ironic factoid is that Ian Somerhalder never made a homophobic remark. He merely said he never wanted to kiss another guy ever again. In Raposo’s world, that equates to homophobia. Because even though Mr. Raposo isn’t the victim, he sure loves to claim the victim card by blind association. Also, even though the remark was construed as homophobic, Somerhalder did apologize publicly…several times.
Sorry, Fritz, but he said more than that. On the DVD commentary for “Rules of Attraction” he said,
“Put two guys together? It’s disgusting. It’s like, fucking velcro, ok? There’s something inherently wrong, with that.”
I’m willing to believe that he only MEANT to be commenting on the discomfort of two men’s faces with the rough sensation that can remain even after both have shaved. I remember not have thought about it before the first time I kissed another man. BUT he went overboard calling it “disgusting” and “inherently wrong” period, without adding, “for me,” and one has to wonder why beyond his lame dick excuse.
A big part of it is that, however much they’re surrounded by gays in their lives and/or show biz, many remain abysmally ignorant and insensitive. Jake Gyllenhaal has two gay godfathers but said some outrageously stupid things when “Brokeback” was coming out, no pun intended. But he’s gotten better, and, in any case, did the film which required a lot more simulated gay sex and kissing than Ian did who insists he’ll never do it again because “the fans” can’t handle it. The only thing he’s kissing goodbye is his credibility as an actor. Would he say, I’ll never kiss a Black woman on screen?
That’s DUMB on his part and I chalk it up to being a closet case. Gaydar in RED ZONE!
Thank you to Leland for his comment.
As far as tvonthefritz, I wasn’t even thinking about the comments Ian made on TROA DVD. I was commenting on an interview he did just shortly after TROA hit theaters:
What was it like making out with James Van Der Beek? Oh, God. Oh, God. That is one really horrible question.
“Why is it a horrible question? Well, first of all it wasnâ€™t a makeout. It appears to be a makeout. I am not going to say anything bad. It was a very interesting experience. One I donâ€™t plan on having again, actually.”
Forever and ever. I read somewhere that you had a ground rule of no tongue…
“That was both of our ground rules. Here is the thing: Two guys kissing is not as sexy as two girls kissing. When Selma Blair made out with Sarah-whatâ€™s-her-name, that was hot. Me and James Van Der Beek making out is not hot, itâ€™s rather disgusting. We both looked at each other and said, ‘Dude, donâ€™t stick your tongue in my mouth.'”
Itâ€™s hot for some people…
“Thatâ€™s cool. Thatâ€™s totally cool. But it is what it is, and thatâ€™s what it is.”
Didnâ€™t Sarah Michelle Gellar and Selma Blair use tongue?
“Yeah, they did, but they are chicks and they can.”
“Thatâ€™s allowed. Thatâ€™s very allowed.”
Why exactly is it any of your concern that Ian Somerhalder’s experience kissing James VanDer Beek ended up being a less-than-pleasant one. It’s not like you fantasize swirling your tongue around the crevices of a woman. My guess? You probably find it revolting. Yet somehow when Ian Somerhalder provides the same commentary, it’s homophobic. Because homosexual culture objectifies Ian Somerhalder, as a gay man, you feel as if it’s your right to sexualize him as well.
“Why exactly is it any of your concern that Ian Somerhalderâ€™s experience kissing James VanDer Beek ended up being a less-than-pleasant one.”
If he had stated that as an actor, he did not enjoy his experience on screen, I could understand that. But he went further and stated that men kissing is disgusting and at that point it became my concern because, as a man who enjoys kissing other men, I find that comment wholly unnecessary and homophobic.
“Itâ€™s not like you fantasize swirling your tongue around the crevices of a woman.”
Only women who look like men.
“My guess? You probably find it revolting.”
Don’t know, I’ve never tried it. However, that you would make such an allusion, speaks volumes about you and your relationships with women. Misogynist much?
“Yet somehow when Ian Somerhalder provides the same commentary, itâ€™s homophobic.”
It’s homophobic, because he didn’t limit his comments to his own experience, he made a broad sweeping generalization about a group of people, whom, he clearly is not too very accepting of. Which leads one to wonder why he was cast in the role in the first place.
“Because homosexual culture objectifies Ian Somerhalder,”
Van Sant objectified Mr. Somerhalder. His pretty looks are what got him his role, not his personalty, or apparently if you believe many viewers of, “Lost,” his talent.
“as a gay man, you feel as if itâ€™s your right to sexualize him as well.”
He sexualized himself when he became a model. Although I found him handsome when I saw TROA, after seeing his comments in that interview, he lost all his appeal for me. You however, seem to be of the belief that Ian can do no wrong and we should all tolerate his intolerance. If you’re so callous and desperate for acceptance as to wallow in another’s homophobia, then have at it. I prefer to look beyond the physical and look at the personalty and Mr. Somerhalder has a vile personalty.
Allow me, a straight woman, to join your discussion?
As a straight woman, I can’t really blame Ian for saying kissing James van der Beek was disgusting. I certainly wouldn’t want to do that.
My very best (and gay) friend said that kissing a woman was very anti-climactic for him and I have to say, I can think off a lot of other things, I would rather do than kissing another girl.
Does that make me homophobic?
No, I don’t think so. It just makes me straight.
As an actor, Ian has the right to chose the roles he wants to play. There have been actors who refuse bad guys. So if Ian’s saying he won’t play a gay character again makes him homophobic… what does refusing to play a bad guy make them? Bad-guy phobic?
“If he had stated that as an actor, he did not enjoy his experience on screen, I could understand that. But he went further and stated that men kissing is disgusting and at that point it became my concern because, as a man who enjoys kissing other men, I find that comment wholly unnecessary and homophobic.”
This is where you’re mistaken. I agree, he could have chosen his words more carefully but he was quite young at the time and probably didn’t imagine that his words could possibly be misinterpreted in such a way. What he said, he did state as an actor and according to his own sexual preference. He, as a straight man, does not enjoy kissing another man.
He never said (or meant) that gay people are disgusting.
Paul: If you really prefer to look beyond looks and look at the personality, then why don’t you make an effort to get to know the “real” Ian Somerhalder, through his own words, and not through some cooked-up interviews? Maybe you’d find out that he’s not so vile after all?
“Does that make me homophobic?”
Were you paid well to play a lesbian character in a film, a role that many lesbian actors would have loved to have played? Did you then do several interviews where you stated that two women kissing is disgusting and wrong?
“Ian has the right to chose the roles he wants to play.”
And he chose to play a gay role. Gus Van Sant didn’t hold a gun to head and force him to kiss another man. He knew full well what he was getting into, so playing stupid later is, well, stupid.
“So if Ianâ€™s saying he wonâ€™t play a gay character again makes him homophobic”
Nope. But prattling on about having to kiss a male actor and painting gay romance as wrong is homophobic.
“but he was quite young at the time”
He was 24. An adult who by that age had traveled the world as a model, had managed his own finances, steered his own career and managed his own life. He wasn’t a foolish child, he was an adult.
“didnâ€™t imagine that his words could possibly be misinterpreted in such a way”
How exactly was he misinterpreted? I and Leland quoted his words verbatim. He made those homophobic comments many times, not just once.
“he did state as an actor and according to his own sexual preference.”
He stated that men kissing are disgusting. His sexual orientation is straight, therefore his comment as a straight man that men kissing is disgusting is homophobic.
“He never said (or meant) that gay people are disgusting.”
He meant that men kissing are disgusting. Men who kiss each other are gay. Figure out the context, hag.
“why donâ€™t you make an effort to get to know the ‘real’ Ian Somerhalder”
Why? He’s an over paid, overly pampered petulant man, who feels it is his resposibilty to bitch and moan about having to act, while being an actor. This is why I hate the fact that so many great roles go to straight actors, when many talented gay actors could do those roles.
“through his own words, and not through some cooked-up interviews”
Those were his own words, sunshine. Deal with it and move on.
â€œItâ€™s not like you fantasize swirling your tongue around the crevices of a woman.â€
Only women who look like men.
Exactly. You partake in the same transgressions you openly accuse others of. Thanks for proving my point, Paul.
Which leads one to wonder why he was cast in the role in the first place.
Or better yet, why he CHOSE the role. It never ceases to amaze me when “straight” actors who play gay character and have sexual scenes, feel the need to express how “gross” it was. If you’re having sexual interaction with someone you’re not into, it shouldn’t be all that shocking when you find the experience unpleasant. Inquiring minds wanna know what the deal is.
That said, I wouldn’t call him a homophobe just yet. It’s possible that he is, and his comments are a product of that. But even if he isn’t and his comments were just him “male heterosexual feelings”, I do find it ironic that someone who disdains the “touchy feely”, would be so quick to defend him. “Oh those poor heterosexuals who are expected to keep their negative opinions about homosexuality and homosexuals to themselves”. Imagine if gay people were to be so blunt in public about their distaste for heterosexual romance. I can just see the claws coming out from people who can’t take it, though they can dish it out.
Well, SUNSHINE, maybe you should get your facts straight (no pun intended) before you go off about someone you don’t know.
He didn’t give several interviews, it was one comment. ONE. That’s all. And it’s 5 years ago, so maybe YOU should let it go and move on.
Oh and “hag”? Am I getting some heterophobic vibes here?
It’s Paul Roposo’s reverse form of homophobia. After years of feeling victimized, it’s the only way he can truly feel validated. He suffers from a long history of misogyny after being slighted for sexual harassment. As such, he feels the needs to take out his issues on womankind as a whole. He’s a very bitter man.
“You partake in the same transgressions you openly accuse others of. Thanks for proving my point, Paul.”
How exactly have I proven your point? I stated that I find women who look like men attractive. I didn’t say kissing women is disgusting. Try again, douchebag.
“Well, SUNSHINE, maybe you should get your facts straight (no pun intended) before you go off about someone you donâ€™t know.”
I do have my facts straight and I posted those facts here, even providing a link to the interview.
“He didnâ€™t give several interviews, it was one comment.”
Read my post again. He made several homophobic comments, and made further homophobic comments on TROA DVD.
“ONE. Thatâ€™s all.”
Several and far too many.
“And itâ€™s 5 years ago,”
Just because time passes, doesn’t mean homophobia should be ignored, or forgiven.
“so maybe YOU should let it go and move on.”
Oh, I’m sorry, is this not a blog post about Ian Somerholder? Are we not discussing Ian Somerholder? Should I talk about you and your BFF gay friend instead?
“Oh and ‘hag’? Am I getting some heterophobic vibes here?”
Of course not. I just imagine you as a withered old crone–a hag.
“Itâ€™s Paul Roposoâ€™s reverse form of homophobia.”
The word you’re looking for is heterophobia. Firstly, would it be unusual that a homosexual would be heterophobic, considering all the hate leveled at us by straight people? Just look at your posts here to see a small sampling of that hate. You’re enraged that a gay man would dare speak ill of your wet dream and you lash out at that gay man. Crawl back to Mollygood and suck Cord’s cock along with the rest of his sycophants. You’re on my turf now, asswipe.
“After years of feeling victimized,”
Feeling victimized, or being victimized? Clearly as a het, you have no understanding of what it’s like growing up gay in a straight world. The only idea you have of what it’s like to be homosexual in an exclusionary world, is the crap fed to you on television, where all gays are wealthy, white, privileged and played by straight actors. You wouldn’t know homophobia if it kicked you in the gut, yet lecture gay people on what we should consider homophobic.
“itâ€™s the only way he can truly feel validated.”
And your only reason for living, is to feel superior to those around you, even though it is not warranted.
“He suffers from a long history of misogyny after being slighted for sexual harassment.”
This coming from the person who assumes that all gay men find kissing women revolting. Not only are you homophobic, but misogynistic to boot.
“As such, he feels the needs to take out his issues on womankind as a whole.”
Oh, Iâ€™m sorry, is this not a blog post about Ian Somerholder? Are we not discussing Ian Somerholder? Should I talk about your obvious psychosis and paranoia instead? Whose playing the victim now?
“Heâ€™s a very bitter man.”
Better a bitter man, than a homophobe.
“Imagine if gay people were to be so blunt in public about their distaste for heterosexual romance.”
Bingo. Straight people are so use to us being their doormats, when we fight back, they come after us with the type of vitriol the would never have the guts to level at people who deserve it–like homophobes.
Once again, Paul, your sweeping generalizations never cease to amaze me. I am a homosexual male.
Secondly, on an earlier diatribe, you accused a heterosexual woman of victimhood as she leveled charges against a homosexual entity. Therefore, your mock outrage for a frivolous Hollywood actor making allegedly homophobic remarks is utterly preposterous. You are one of those homosexuals that pine for their god-given rights (which, outside of marriage rights, what is this mythical entity of prejudice, anyway?)
How exactly have I proven your point? I stated that I find women who look like men attractive. I didnâ€™t say kissing women is disgusting. Try again, douchebag.
So lodging your tongue down some feminine womanâ€™s throat is then appealing, correct?
You are one of those homosexuals that pine for their god-given rights (which, outside of marriage rights, what is this mythical entity of prejudice, anyway?), yet when it comes to the rights of others, you’re unconcerned.
Paul: Yes this is a blog entry about Ian Somerhalder (maybe you should learn to spell his name correctly first, eh?) but it’s a blog entry about a sex scene he had in a very recent TV show with a woman… NOT about comments he made 5 years ago.
Oh and… you do know that interviews can be faked, right? I happen to know some of the statements Ian made in this interview (sex should be for free) and he didn’t make them in an interview to that magazine. Sometimes magazine don’t get the interviews they want and they take statements (usually out of context) and cook up their own versions.
“Of course not. I just imagine you as a withered old croneâ€“a hag.”
Right… because you know so much about me…
“Once again, Paul, your sweeping generalizations never cease to amaze me. I am a homosexual male.”
The worst kind. An apologist for homophobia.
“Secondly, on an earlier diatribe, you accused a heterosexual woman of victimhood as she leveled charges against a homosexual entity.”
Please provide the quote.
“Therefore, your mock outrage for a frivolous Hollywood actor making allegedly homophobic remarks”
Not alleged. I provided his comments and a link to the interview where he made his homophobic remarks.
“is utterly preposterous.”
What’s preposterous is you defending the indefensible.
“You are one of those homosexuals that pine for their god-given rights (which, outside of marriage rights, what is this mythical entity of prejudice, anyway?)”
For a homosexual, you sure react like an anti-gay bigot.
“So lodging your tongue down some feminine womanâ€™s throat is then appealing, correct?”
I don’t know, I’ve never tried it.
“yet when it comes to the rights of others, youâ€™re unconcerned.”
I’ll be concerned when the government decides to make opposite sex marriage illegal; fires straight people for not being transgendered; and when a straight teacher gets fired for being straight.
“Paul: Yes this is a blog entry about Ian Somerhalder”
Glad you’ve realized this.
“(maybe you should learn to spell his name correctly first, eh?)”
“but itâ€™s a blog entry about a sex scene he had in a very recent TV show with a womanâ€¦ NOT about comments he made 5 years ago.”
So why are you continuing the debate?
“Oh andâ€¦ you do know that interviews can be faked, right?”
A fake Ian? Oh my stars!
“I happen to know some of the statements Ian made in this interview (sex should be for free) and he didnâ€™t make them in an interview to that magazine.”
Of course you do. Just like you have a BFF gay. How convenient.
“Sometimes magazine donâ€™t get the interviews they want and they take statements (usually out of context) and cook up their own versions.”
Cough–bullshit–cough. You’re spinning like a Maytag. Are you just wet for Ian, or are you one of his PR flaks?
“Rightâ€¦ because you know so much about meâ€¦”
Nor would I want to.
Paul, I wouldn’t waste any further energy on these two knuckleheads, and I use “two” loosely. The sudden appearance of a “straight woman” at all, is also quite interesting, but of course that factor is necessary to make the gay “friend” story more believable, I guess. I’ve personally not concluded that he’s a homophobe just yet, but if the overarching fact, which is that he CHOSE to play this role knowing full what it entailed, doesn’t make them go at least “hmmmm”, when he reacts with such lame macho shock, then they are hopeless.
Alan down in Florida
Paul Raposo is my new hero.
Brandon: LOL! Why is it so unbelievable that a straight woman would visit a gay website?
I am straight, I am female, no I’m not a PR person for Ian but I do know a lot about him. And um, yes and the majority of my friends are gays and lesbians, might sound convenient but I tend to chose my friends by other standards than their sexual preference.
Since Paul seems so eager to get back on topic:
Ian has a really nice ass. 🙂
To offer a completely superficial and non-aggressive standpoint on the matter, watching Ian Somerhalder have intercourse is utterly disappointing. It’s my humble opinion that despite any personal/logical flaws or stigmatic hangups he may have, he remains probably the most attractive man on the face of the earth. Given, I have a predilection for European twinks with eating disorders. But come on! That stroke is terrible. Terrible! After this, I probably would think twice about an opportunity to have sex with him. Maybe one and a half times. No stamina, a near total inability to maneuver, and a haphazard and blunted thrust. His perfect abdominal muscles appear to be nearly gone as well. Truly, a disgusting spectacle. Possibly even more disgusting than his remarks. Or making out with the gigantic forehead that is James VanDerBeek (which would be truly disgusting). Two thumbs up for being (seemingly) uncut(?) though.
As far as I’ve heard, his female costar in the scene was pretty adamant about the fact that they didn’t actually have sex. Perhaps she also thought it would be disgusting for him to put his tongue in her mouth.
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