Life Does Get Better For Gay Teens, But Bullies Don’t Magically Disappear

I love seeing all the videos, from celebrities and civilians, get uploaded to YouTube with messages of hope for LGBT youth. I’m particularly impressed because nobody whose job it is to send these sorts of messages — I’m talking to you, Ken Jennings and GLSEN — are doing shit about it. But I’ve got a small problem with Michael Urie’s video.

“Bullies aren’t bullies forever,” he says. That’s wrong. Bullies, generally, are bullies forever. They’re insecure cowards who taunt others to feel powerful, because they suffer from not enough love, or some rage complex, or whatever. But bullies don’t always “grow out” of bullying. They just find new targets. Michael’s message, however, is dead on: “If you feel this bullying will never end, tough it out, because it will.” That can be true: Get out of your small town and find one of many refuges around the country were queers aren’t just accepted, but they’re lauded, and your life will improve.

But that prick back home who called you a faggot and pushed you down the steps and made you consider for even one second that suicide is the answer?

He’s not going to change. That’s why you’ve got to keep your head strong, and persevere.

I just wish these sorts of messages reached Tyler Clementi, the Rutgers student who took his own life because of some dipshit bully he was forced to live with. As Lauren Felton, a fellow student at the university notes, “Had [Clementi] been in bed with a woman, this would not have happened. He wouldn’t have been outed via an online broadcast, and his privacy would have been respected and he might still have his life.”