Is your Grindr grounded? Have you had enough of Scruff? Are you feeling hindered by Tinder? Think OkCupid is stupid? Believe it or not, guys don’t need dating apps to find lasting relationships. Or at least…they didn’t before covid up and shut down most of social society.
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In a Reddit thread, gay bros recounted the times they met boyfriends and dates offline. Below, edited only for readability, is a selection of responses.
“I met my first boyfriend in junior high, and then after I graduated high school, I would sell him weed, and just by the way he looked at me, I knew we were going to be a couple. And every guy after that I met through mutual friends or music, and my current dude is one of my hair clients.”
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“My one gentleman friend I picked up in a bar. Still seeing each other, although it’s been ‘socially distanced’ since March.”
“He was the new guy at work, but we were in different departments, so I didn’t really interact with him. Coworker in a different department who had made friends with him invited him when we were having after-work drinks. It progressed from there. Cue us hooking up in various empty conference rooms and getting in trouble with our respective managers until we broke up.”
“I was a TA for a class, and he hit me up after the class ended.”
“He bummed a cigarette from me behind a dumpster and asked for my number.”
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“I met a guy at a gay bar once. We hit it off instantly and spent the night talking about music. He came back to mine, and we spent the night together. He was gone when I got home from work the next day and didn’t leave a number so I thought that was that, but a couple nights later, he ended up at a party at my house. He came along with some friends and didn’t realize it was my place. He pretty much ditched his mates, I did the same, and we spent the night in my room.”
“Bus bench. Took three passes before he’d get in the damn car.”
“Met my first love in university choir. He sat next to me in the tenor section. … Met my third boyfriend on the dance floor of a popular gay club. (Remember those?) I saw him across the room and made up a party to invite him to after dancing. … Sixth boyfriend (second love) was my biological brother’s fraternity little brother. We would make up excuses to talk to each other over and over for months before eventually saying, ‘F*ck it, we’re dating aren’t we?’”
“Bathhouse. Been together 20+ years.”
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Heywood Jablowme
I hope “CastleSF” (aka Church Lady) sees this, his head will explode!
Center_Right
Luckily my head hasn’t exploded and I am still intact with no injury. These days I just feel sorry for gay sl*ts who continue to live the promiscuous lifestyle and indulge in reckless sex behaviors. But hey it’s their life. I no longer have the need to be right. I am just quite content knowing that they are wrong.
BoylesqueBubble
“I no longer have the need to be right.” ? says the resident troll virgin no one would ever want to date. How many times do you have to be banned?
GayEGO
I felt a bonding three times to a guy at a gay bar in 1962 when I was in the Navy. We were together 57 years, married 15 years, he passed away last year at the age of 88. Love wins!
amanwithanedge
great short story.
Kangol2
Bless you both and may your deceased husband rest in peace.
hotdogla
It was such a great time meeting people in person.
Gay Thomas
Four boyfriends
1. Met at Kroger
2. Met driving (Yes, it was odd)
3. Met running on the greenway
4. Met at a piano bar
You don’t need dating apps to find a partner. No problem with them though.
Kevan1
@Center_Right, Castle SF, whoever you are. Where do get off judging. That is God’s job. You need some psychiatric help. If you have such a problem with people on this site simply disappear. Get off your self righteous kick, no one needs your judgement. If you want to judge someone, start in the mirror. I hope things get better for your sour a-ss, because life is passing you bye. Your a bit prissy and delusional. Next.
joeboyle49
WELL I MET MY FIRST ONE THROUGH THE OLD DADDY MAG. THEN I MET THE NEXT ONE THROUGH THE BEAR MAG. THEN I MET THE NEXT ONE AT A GAY BAR AND AFTER THAT I MET THE NEXT ONE THROUGH THE BEAR MAG. AND THEN I MET THE NEXT ONE THROUGH FRIENDS BUT THAT DIDN’T WORK OUT EITHER. THEN I MET THE NEXT ONE THROUGH GAY.COM THEN I MET THE NEXT ONE THROUGH GAY.COM ALSO AND HE WAS THE LAST ONE HE PASSED 15 YEARS AGO.