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Nestor Berchot, One of Argentina’s First Married Gays, Dies At His Own Wedding

Hairstylist Nestor Berchot was among Argentina’s first gays to get married, after Congress and the president signed a bill into law in July. Filing paperwork with partner Adrian Garcia and becoming the southern city Mar del Plata City’s first same-sex couple to get hitched, it makes Berchot’s sudden death — at his own wedding reception — even more harrowing. After falling ill at the party, he was rushed to the hospital but was unable to be saved. He died this morning at 7am. As a married man.

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  • Rick Brannon

    There are two days when a man is a joy: the day you marry him and the day you bury him.

    These were the same day for Mr. Berchot.

  • Mountainword

    How sad – but at least he died happy! Vive Argentina!

  • Scott

    On one hand, this is really sad.

    On the other hand – if this was his time to go, at least he was able to get married and experience that joy. So in another way this is wonderful. (And of course still extremely bittersweet.)

  • Bill

    The ‘nutters will say it was ‘god’s punishment.’

    Like the ‘man of god’ a few weeks ago who said that ‘whenever a man mounts another man, the throne of god rumbles.’

  • EdWoody

    @Bill: I was about to say the exact same thing – “counting down to the religious whackjobs claiming it’s god’s punishment.” You beat me to it.

  • jd

    It probably does, if he mounts him correctly. I thought that was the entire point.

  • mounty

    @Bill: ‘whenever a man mounts another man, the throne of god rumbles.’ ~Because he has to adjust himself

  • Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"

    What’s with all the assholey snarkiness?

    On a day of great joy, an even greater sadness; why not simply express sympathy to the widower, that is what is called for.

  • gullible's travels

    Ths news makes me very sad… :<(

  • Wonka

    I feel so terribly bad for his partner.

  • Enron

    Its like his life was holding out until this day came where he could be considered equal. Really sad, RIP.

  • Bystander

    what did he die of? have they ruled out foul play?

  • ewe

    This is so sad.

  • Scott E.

    @Wonka: Correction: *husband, not partner. They were married. =)

  • M

    Absolutely tragic, though I’m glad that he got to experience the joy of committing to his husband before he passed.

    I hope his widow(er) is holding out okay.

  • Bill Perdue

    Very sad.

  • Dan

    ROFL – Is that a real phrase??? What is funny about the phrase “whenever a man mounts another man, the throne of god rumbles” is that it makes it sound like that god is a horny god who is masturbating on his throne at the sight of two men having a good time. :D



  • jackpacer

    Leave it to the “christians” to say the most unchristian things. I can’t wait for that day of judgement when all the self-rightous talibangicals go marching proudly up to heaven’s front desk saying “let me in, let me in, I’m a christian”. Then they told that their name isn’t on the reservation list and that trap door to hell opens up beneath their feet and they scream “I don’t understand, I hated all the right peopleeeeeeeeeeeee!?”

  • Blue Falcone

    @jackpacer: except there’ll be no day of judgment, and no pearly gates, and no trap door to hell, since that’s actually just a story they use to justify their inability to cope with reality.

    And, if their god were killing gays for getting married, why just the one? (And none of that “he works in mysterious ways crap, please,)

  • robert

    Is it time to do post-moderation of comments? Some of those in response to this story are just sick and spiteful and not at all funny.

  • Bill Perdue

    The level of discussion at Queerty is abysmal.

    Queerty needs to establish guidelines and standards that inhibit trolling racists, religious freaks and other assorted nutcases.

  • axos

    I’m sorry for the widower. Very tragic.

    As for improper comments: My experience is that once you start moderating comments you are on a slippery slope, and those moderating will sooner or later misuse their power and take away comments they personally don’t agree with. The system here is much better – and you get to know what some people REALLY think, which can be educational. But in general, Queerty comments are usually OK.

  • Rick Brannon

    @Bill Perdue: Queerty needs…?

    Really, has it come to this?

  • The Bony Man

    This is a very sad occasion for his partner. At least he lived long enough to see his own wedding though.

  • Bill Perdue

    I agree that Queerty should not be moderating comments. But they do need to make it clear that racism and christian bigotry are not welcome.

    And the thumbs up, down system and flagging systems make it almost impossioble to have decent conversations. They’re just a way to increase revenue but in the end what they do is make discussions undemocratic and easily debased.

  • Kellyc01

    Which man in the picture is Nestor? C’mon, this is journalism 101, Queerty.

  • Ms. Pink

    Such a sad thing.

  • L.

    I can’t help but think that, despite finally getting to marry his soulmate, this is the saddest thing that could happen. A relative had his father die during his wedding, but this is an order of magnitude worse. My thoughts go to the widower.

  • ron

    A lightning bolt from god…BLAM! lol

  • fred

    very sad


    @robert: Absolutley not. If I want to post a comment and then see it posted 24 hours later edited to shit, I will go to virtually every other site on the internets. Use the thumbsdown and flag feature……………

  • RLSinSF

    Once you start editing and moderating, then you’re back to traditional intermediated journalism. If you want to see only sanctioned commentary, go to edited news and stop using the feedback features.

  • MrsPatrickCampbell

    Maybe she had too much amyl?

  • dvd-junkie

    @Bill: Well, for the throne of God to rumble, they sure must be producing a lot of “vibrations”.

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