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The number of gay men who didn’t use a condom the last time they had anal sex may surprise you

A new survey has found that two-thirds (65%) of gay and bisexual men said they didn’t use a condom the last time they had anal sex, and 27% said they would describe their sex lives as “risky.”


The survey was collected by the Gay Men Fight Aids (GMFA), a U.K.-based gay men’s health charity. Researchers surveyed 500 gay and bisexual men.

“We all measure risk differently,” David Stuart, who works at a clinic that specializes in services for gay and bisexual men, says. “Some only associate risk with HIV; others consider all STIs to be a potential risk. For others, risk is measured by rejection for not being sexy enough, fit enough or interesting enough.”

Related: Is The Rise Of Truvada The Fall Of Condoms? Survey Says Yes.

Newsweek reports:

Despite the majority admitting their last sexual encounter was without a condom, this did not always indicate unprotected sex was necessarily dangerous. Same-sex couples who are married or in committed long-term relationships may choose not to use condoms when having sex with each other.

Then, of course, there are guys on PrEP, which protects against HIV transmission but not other STDs and STIs.

One respondent, a 36-year-old man named Jimmy, said whether he uses condoms really depends on what his partner wants.

“It was with a couple of guys I’d met before,” he explains. “One guy barebacked me, the other wanted to use condoms—both were fine as I’m on PrEP.”

Jimmy added that he would not be against having sex with someone he knew was HIV-positive. “As long as they are undetectable, there is no risk. I’m on PrEP now, so the chances of catching it are significantly reduced.”

This latest survey mirrors a similar survey conducted last year that found nearly 40% of gay and bisexual men reported regularly having unprotected.

Related: Survey Finds Nearly 25% Of Single Gay Men Don’t Use Condoms

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  • Jaxton

    You do NOT need to wear a condom if you are both healthy. This idea that two men having anal is automatically risky is pure garbage put out by busy-body morons in the gay Left. It’s also anti-male and homophobic.

    We don’t need the gay Left moralizing to us about the “importance” of condoms. Mind your own business.

    • stevetalbert

      You are factually wrong. You can get urithitus(sp) if you get fecal metter in your slit. You can take meds, but thats the least of your risk. Stds, warts, and hiv. The problem is guys can be poz but dont know it, so sayimg you are “healthy” isnt necessarily true.

    • surreal33

      Mr Jaxton you obtain your medical degree from where?

  • Kangol

    No surprise. But how many were seronegative? How many even know their sero-status? How many were on PrEP? If you’re seronegative and/on PrEP, is raw sex an issue?

    • 1898

      it is definitely an issue if you would like to remain free of anal warts (which can become cancerous), syphillis, ghonorrhea, etc…

  • QJ201

    I know tons of guys that bareback within the couple and use condoms with everyone else.

    this is bad research and will be misrepresented by the press.

  • Bob LaBlah

    Here’s an interesting question that has never been asked. How many out there simply can not stay hard wearing a condom even if they use Viagra, Cialis or whatever the others are? As soon as the condom is brought out things begin to diminish quickly for many. I’m willing to bet its fifty percent or better amongst us. Its not that we are stupid or bad people its because we are turned on and simply say to ourselves that its worth the risk. Yes its risky, but one gets tired of videos and such or continuously thinking something just has to be wrong with the other person. Its really stress relieving to get down and nasty every now and then. Barebacking in my book is under the chapter of the animal instinct that is in all of us who have woke up in the morning with wet BVD or simply a hard on after a sex dream.

    • o.codone

      I don’t need a sex dream, that thing has a mind of it’s own and wakes me up every damn morning. God, would you stop that please? I need at least some sleep.

    • stevetalbert

      If you go limp with a condom, then you have a mental issue about it. Particularly if you took cialis or viagra.

    • surreal33

      Mr Lablah if the “risk” only affected the two men involved I could care less, however, irresponsible unprotected sex affects others too. It is NOT okay to be filthy, selfish, parasite in order to have a better orgasm. Slut shaming? Yes, you and your ilk should be deeply ashamed for being self-absorbed pigs!!!

    • Kangol

      Good question, but you say “for many.” Is this true? Are you extrapolating from your own experience? Are there studies showing that many men cannot stay hard while wearing a condom? Just curious.

      Again, get tested. If you’re seronegative (no HIV), have no STIs/STDs, and you know your sex partner or partners are also seronegative with no STIs/STDs, raw sex is safe. If you don’t know your serostatus, 1) go with PrEP and 2) wear a condom.

    • DavidIntl

      I wholeheartedly agree, Bob. For some of us, sex with a condom is not only pointless, it is not functional. Thankfully, I am in now in a committed long-term relationship, so the risk for me is minimal, but I completely sympathise with those who do take those risks regularly.

    • Bob LaBlah

      @Kangol……….Dear, your lips are moving but all I’m hearing is blah, blah, blah. Come down off of your high horse just for a minute and explaining plain english how does a person (as in most gay men) who are struggling to make ends meet like their strait counter parts afford PReP meds which cost well over $1k for a thirty day supply. Yes, I did say “for many” in my original comment as well as this one and I stand by it. There are many gay men out there who feel as though if ask by a hookup they met in a bar or online the word yes or no is sufficient but based on your wording you appear the type who must see it in writing. No wonder people are complaining they can’t get a date from online or while in a bar and that sort of clear paranoid logic you mouthed might be the reason why.

  • Polymath Level8

    This is typical. Mainstream gay culture has always been self-destructive and filled with internalized homophobia. They have let hiv spread without a bit of concern for others. Adults have been talking sense on the issue for thirty years, and the pc crowd have just ignored us. It’s why many are done with the culture.

    • surreal33


    • Bob LaBlah

      “They have let hiv spread without a bit of concern for others.”

      That man made disease is something we have no other choice but to live with because the disease is worth more than the cure. You see, what has always struck me as strange about Truvada (PReP) is once it came on the market no other breakthrough drug has been introduced. Truvada as well as other HIV medications are out of reach for the common working gay man. Its for the wealthy. If you have money your free to do what you want but without it have sex at your own peril. That is what it boils down to. It seems too odd that a drug can prevent the spread of HIV from an infected person but no drug exists that can cure it for those infected with it.

  • Danny595

    Stop with these bogus GMFA surveys. GMFA is a political organization. It does not release its surveys or the raw data or disclose methodology or publish its research in any peer reviewed journal. It’s a mystery where the data comes from.

  • Mkiel

    Why does “slut shaming ” only happen to gay men,the majority of HIV infections happen among hetrosexauls yet I have never seen slut shaming in fact the catholic church prohibits the use of condoms in all circumstances.

  • Jaxton

    If you both do not have an STD-causing micro-organism in you then you cannot catch an STD from each other. Condoms are not needed for STD prevention if there is no STD there to begin with.

    I am not going to be compelled into wearing condoms by Leftist gay losers who think we should all wear condoms in case we catch an STD. Note to Leftist gay losers: most of us do not have an STD.

    We do not run around having sex with anything that moves. We believe in monogamy. If we are playing the field, we don’t insert our willies into every slot.

    We are careful, non-promiscuous gays who do not take drugs. Get it?

    • surreal33

      Let’s see a source of information asinine douche on the internet or CDC.gov?

    • Tobi

      You won’t catch anything Brian *oops* Jaxton, necrophiliacs never do.

  • Luna1979

    Does anyone here read MM romance? I (unsuccessfully tried) to read one recently and this was the scenario: one character was the only gay in the village and the other was a scientist-recluse who hadn’t gotten laid in about 5 years. Did they get squishy sans protection? No, they did not. They got blood tests, waited and waited, wouldn’t even do oral until the results came in. This was written as if it were all perfectly normal. Other stuff in the book led me to understand it was just a bunch of propaganda and I quit reading it. Was just wondering if anyone else is reading stuff with this kind of over-the-top paranoia. I’ll stick with historical romance from now on.

  • Jaxton

    Beware of Big Pharma and Big Gay Inc with their big propaganda machines. They both want you to believe that you must wear condoms at all times. It’s bullsh!t.

    Here’s the facts; if you are both STD-free, you cannot catch an STD from each other. Condoms are therefore pointless in terms of STD prevention.

    Only losers believe the condom pushers of Big Pharma and Big Gay Inc.

    • Heywood Jablowme

      Here’s the facts: if you don’t have the flu, and you avoid everyone who has the flu, you’ll never get the flu. Big Pharma’s flu medicine is therefore useless!

      And of course, you can tell easily if anyone has the flu just by looking at them! If they look healthy, they don’t have it.


    • Tobi

      It’s impressive, huh, Heywood Jablowme, for a brain-dead gerbil.

  • Imjustsaying

    Oh Jaxton, please inform the class how you can have anal sex while your head is firmly shoved up there?

    • Goforit

      That is anal sex for him.

  • Ummmm Yeah

    I’m not shocked. Prep is advertised as a barebacking product and everyone is claiming to be on it due to social pressure even though most of them can’t afford it.

  • NateOcean

    In the article, “Jimmy” sounds like a effing idiot.

  • Creamsicle

    A hewlthy chunj of thisbpost is lifted directly from the Newsweek article. Also, neither had easy linjs to the parameters of the survey itself. How were the men in the survey selected? Did they regularly discuss whether these sexual encounters were in monogamous or semi-exclusive polyamorous situations? Did they ask about how frequently those surveyed get tested or how often they have anal sex?

    There are too many particulars that were unreported in this post. It’s basically meaningless without them, because when you’re a hammer you go out looking for nails, but that doesn’t mean that the nails you come across are a representative sample. There isn’t even mention of how large the survey population was! What kind of useful statistics can be done without that?

  • Notright

    As a top I don’t use condoms every time I have sex. I let the bottom decide if he wants condoms or not. Honestly I know I should use them as contracting HIV would be a bad day for me. But honestly speaking the difference between using a condom or not is like night and day. It’s not just the skin to skin contact either. There’s just something about leaving my semen inside a guy that turns me on like nothing else. It’s like I’m fulfilling a primordial urge/instinct. This is why in my humble opinion we need to emphasize relationships rather than just hookups. Here’s an article on why promiscuity may be bad for your health and its not about religion either. https://therainbowright.com/non-religious-reasons-promiscuity-bad/

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