A former gay escort says celibacy turned him straight. Now, he’s looking for the right woman to settle down with.
27-year-old Dominic Hilton began working as a gay escort when he was 18. He eventually gave up the profession to become a “serial monogamist” with string of long-term boyfriends.
After breaking up with his last boyfriend in December 2017, he decided to go celibate. He didn’t have sex at all in 2018.
Now, he says, he’s a heterosexual.
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“Sex is always something I enjoyed,” he tells The Mirror. “But this past year, that sexual attraction to men has just gone.”
Hilton, who came out as gay when he was 14, has never actually been with a woman. He says he noticed the change back in October while on a trip to Alicante, Spain with a gay male friend.
“I’d usually be chatting about guys we could see and if I thought they were attractive,” Hilton recalls. “I just couldn’t join in.”
He adds: “Then my friend turned to me and said, ‘You really are straight, aren’t you?'”
For a while, Hilton thought maybe he was bisexual. Until he noticed his attraction to men was just, well, gone.
“I just don’t find men attractive anymore,” he says. “I have no intention of sleeping with a man again.”
He adds: “It was a gradual thing, not like someone flicked a switch and I was straight.”
After making the startling realization, Hilton found himself in a strange predicament: He had to come out to his friends and family all over again. Only this time, instead of telling them he’s gay, he had to tell them he’s straight.
“A lot of my friends found it funny,” he recalls. “Telling everyone I was straight was like coming out all over again, but my loved ones were supportive and just want me to be happy.”
Now, Hilton, who estimates he’s had between 100 and 150 male sexual partners, says he’s in the market for an “open-minded girl” to whom he can give his straight V-card.
“I’ve had sex with men, but not women, so want to find an open-minded girl I can lose my virginity to,” he says.
Finding a female partner, however, has been a struggle. Many women cut off communication as soon as he tells them he once identified as gay. One woman went so far as to block him an hour before they were supposed to meet.
“It can really shut down a conversation,” he says. “Though nobody has said anything outrightly rude, they just stop talking, which I almost hate more as it leaves you feeling dismissed and ignored.”
“A lot of people don’t understand it,” Hilton laments, “and think that I am gay but this is a phase. I have no doubt that I am straight though.”
He continues, “I never imagined celibacy would change my life as much as it has. If you’d have asked me in the past if a person can change their sexuality, I’d have said no–but I’m living proof that you can.”
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Hussain-TheCanadian
So whats the point of this ridiculous story? Not only is it missing alot of chunks, im wondering if being an escort has turned him off completely towards sex?
Psychologically speaking he may be associating men with his escort past, and its effecting his so-called “straight conversion” – One interesting part missing from this story, he didn’t say “im attracted to women” now.
mountainmaat
Exactly.
kittyburns
Yes
Kangol
Sexualities fall on a spectrum, but it sounds like this still young man only grasps absolute binaries, i.e. straight vs. gay. He came out at 14, had sex with 100+ guys, and admits to never had sex with a woman but now claims he wants to, after a long celibate spell. Unsurprisingly women he’s trying to date are turned off. So why not just hire a prostitute, see if you like sex with women, and go from there? He might find out he’s bi, that although he has the idea he’s straight he might be more fluid, etc.
Trekbike
I totally agree. But, wait until he has sex with a woman and see if he still thinks he’s straight. Plus, no one is going to believe he’s straight with those perfect eyebrows and beard. I guess he’ll have to take a few straight classes on how to look straight. Of course he could be going through a phase. Right!
ElPillo
I’ve met male prostitutes who have found sex monotonous and focus on the partnership and company when in a relationship. Let’s think he’s doing that and men just want to jump his bones. Now he’s thinking that women will not do that and they may just braid their hair together. I want to see what the time to go down and get all dirty comes if he stays that way…
Xzamilloh
The cargo hold of a 747 has less baggage than this kid.
Itsonlythetruth
Agree 1000%.
WSnyder
Ya think that being a male prostitute for men might have had some influence on his attraction to men? Yeah, I think that too. I’m sure he had sex with men that he did not like, was not attracted to and maybe did things that he did not enjoy. That can take a toll. I’m not putting down escorts by any means. I’ve hired a few for those lonely times. But working for $’s and doing things he would normally said ‘No’ to likely had this effect on him. Why did he feel the need to go celibate? Sex became a job and not a pleasurably activity. I’m betting though [and we may never know what happens down the road] that after some relationships with women he might find the right guy. However, the stigma this might cause against ‘Gay’ is something both the author and subject should take caution about.
Trekbike
I couldn’t agree more!!
JaredNorthcutt30
Asexual trans woman now. I agree with this story 100 percent.
ChrisGMN
I need to print this story out so I can wipe my ass with it. Who the hell cares?
scotshot
Translation: He aged out of his clients’ target age group.
Translation: He became a serial monogamist until he was either kicked out or the money ran out.
Translation: No one wants a skinny out of shape 27 year old with 2017 hair and beard.
The exciting world of fast food beckons with a fabulous long term career.
swamp bubble
Attention seeking drama, overly self-involved nonsense, certainly sounds gay to me.
barrbarr
Newspapers pay for stories. Was he into it for cash and its now dried up ?
BGinBigD
Sure, girl, talk to us again in 2020 and I bet you’ll be at 180°. Bless your heart.
LilMesican
I’m usually open minded about folks changing their lives; sobriety, finding religion, vegans. But I could not stop giggling while reading this article.
My tacky brain had a vision of Dominic Hilton giving Graham Gremore a hand job saying, “I’m not even enjoying this. See how NOT-GAY I am!”
Someone else said it, seems like he got tired of, feels shame or fell for the stigma of being a sex worker and wants to completely separate himself.
But if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, he’s still gay.
dash_board1
And he felt the need to seek out media and have this published because…? Just move on with a girlfriend and keep it pushing.
Donston
Well, yes, the romantic/sexual/emotional/relationship aspects of the spectrum are different for everyone, and sexuality can have some fluidity to it. While the nuances of orientation often develop most throughout your teens and twenties. Also, this is the problem with using sex alone as the main guidance to identity. People are more complex than just attractions and sexual enjoyment. Being a guy who wants to be with a guy should be about a lot more than sex, especially as you get older. If your desires, passions and connections to your gender is almost purely sexual then to me that’s not “gay”. It’s just homosexual.
On the other hand, he sounds like a supreme headcase with a ton of emotional baggage and likely past trauma, who really hasn’t figured out anything at all despite trying to sound so confident. And he doesn’t even sound like he has romantic/sexual/emotional attractions, passions, desires, connections, preferences and fulfillment towards females. He just wants a traditional family and wants to be out of the “gay lifestyle”. The good thing is that he’s still young and can still visit a therapist’s office.
Kangol
And the National Health Service pays for mental health services, so it’s not like he can’t afford it.
Pete le meat
I know lots of men whose sexuality has evolved. Gay and straight are irrelevant words.
Donston
It sounds more like it devolved. He (if he’s being honest) doesn’t seem to have any attractions, passions, romantic feelings and relationship instincts towards anyone. It’s just about settling down and having a traditional family.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
He was Gay for pay as a average looking Twink. Now that he has aged out and is barely decent looking at best, he is no longer desirable and can’t sell his cokc for cash because his clients no longer desire him he suddenly he is what he always was: STRAIGHT.
And now he does damage to the Gay community by giving credence to the smcubags who say that we can change our orientation hoping his clients left him with multiple raging STDs
Donston
There have been tons and tons of people who have said that they have experienced fluidity in their orientation. You can’t just dismiss all those people because you can’t relate or because it doesn’t align with your personal politics. There have been plenty of guys who have said that they were homosexual then become bisexual/pansexual/asexual, guys who have said that they were genuinely bisexual then became full-on conventional homosexual as they got older. There are plenty of guys who said that they didn’t “realize” they have same-sex attractions until their late teens or in their twenties. Everyone is just different and develops differently through life.
It’s not about doing “damage” so much as allowing people to be who they feel they are and allowing people to be with and love who they truly want to be with and love. If we were less obsessed with pushing identity and social politics above everything else these types of things wouldn’t be problematic. And this type of stuff is also why I support separating “gay” from “homosexual”. “Gay” to me represents romantic passions, emotional contentment and relationship ambitions. Homosexual, bisexual, pan-sexual, etc. is just about attractions and sex.
Becoming a prostitute at a very young age, having sex with 100’s of guys, likely having a few traumatic experiences during a few of those, apparently never having any real relationship during that time of span- it’s all bound to have an affect on your sexual instincts and your psyche. But as I mentioned earlier, he’s still very young and has plenty of time to confront whatever issues he has to confront.
Thad
Sorry you’re unhappy. But congrats for being honest.
We have very different realities
Trekbike
Anyone who has sex with a 100 guys isn’t trying to figure his sexuality out. He’s attracted to men and loves having sex with them. It’s my opinion that he’s bored having sex with men and wants to see what it feels like to be with a woman. I’m certain that once he tries it a few times he will embrace his homosexuality and never look back. Wait until he finds out that woman hate and are disgusted by the male appendage and generally hate to get near it. The same reason straight married men have sex with gays, their wives won’t touch it.
MuslimSlutBox
There’s some truth to what you say. Women don’t love dick the way guys love dick.
toddlicious
Lies. All lies I tell ya… bahahahaha! He’ll be back to escorting soon enough (or shower stalls, steam rooms, restrooms, dark backrooms…)
614wmp
Was this story lifted from THE ONION?
It is totally ludicrous. Makes me realize Queerty is only good for eye candy …. and barely that.
Stenar
*Eyeroll*
Attlebert
Sexuality is indeed fluid. Many of us suffer burn-out on our jobs but he combined his maturation as a gay teen and man with being an escort. How can he truly know what he wants when he has had upwards of 150 men in what period of time- 1-2 years. ??- Look at his timeline: “out” at 14( my coming out took like 6 years); escorting at 18. Then was “serial monogamy with a string of long-term relationships”. Guys! He is not old enough to have had a ‘string’ and long term- what is “long term” for you guys – 3-4 years? Maybe he thinks anything longer than a ‘week’ is long term. Translation: escorting let’s say 18-20, stops having sex at 26- that gave him 6 years to be monogamous. Celibate- what an old term! He didn’t have sex at all?? He didn’t pleasure himself at all?! 1 year! Cripes- I have friends that go 3-4 years without having sex with a guy! This guy is the epitome of a millennial-! Oy!
Donston
That’s pretty much what I’m saying. Coming out at an extremely young age, likely having many sexual experiences at a very young age, years of prostitution, celibacy- that’s a lot to experience before you’re even 30. And who know if he’s experienced sexual abuse or had a couple of traumatic experiences during one of his escort encounters or had some addiction instincts.
It doesn’t seem like he wants anyone right now. He just feels like being with a woman and having kids is the right way to be because he’s not obsessed with having sex with dudes any longer. A lot of guys feel that way when they’re no longer super hyped about homosexual encounters.
I’ve been there and done that. Felt like I was legit hetero until my late teens, then felt bi, then was a full-on slut with anyone for a few years, then had a two-year monogamous relationship with a dude, then started dated chicks again for just a few months, then didn’t date or hook up with anyone for a couple years. Now, I feel like a “gay-pansexual” and am very happily married to a man. It’s all a journey, particularly in your teens and twenties and especially if you’ve indulged certain things or have had certain experiences.
HereIAm
I just want to know what kind of demons drove a very young man like him to sell his body and soul to sex crazed older men? Did his parents not teach him how to live a decent life and work hard? Does he have no shame in what he did? Does he realize how much damage he has done to himself? Did he repent or feel any remorse about his bad choices?
Attlebert
Repentance is great if you are Christian and probably Catholic. There was no mention of religion; how do you -HereIam -know whether his escorting was part of his spiritual quest? Thankfully folks have not lived such a perverted style of life such as your own.
Jack Meoff
Wait a few months until the money runs out and he needs a new sugar daddy to foot the bill, then we’ll see a story about him changing his mind again.
Donston
Now that I’ve looked him up, it’s apparent he’s even more of a headcase than I thought and Queerty is only telling half the story. He’s been spewing hatred towards gays, talking about homosexuality being non-existent, and saying that same gendered people shouldn’t start families together.
It’s cool to feel as if you’ve changed and you want something different and see yourself being with a different type of person. But this is clearly a very bitter guy who is still contending with a lot of past trauma.
scoguy
I can’t find much of an online trace on him. What’s he been saying and to who? It’s all very sad. I’m not fussed about who people are, but more by what they say against their own community or friends.
Rex Huskey
he’s a whore and so unattractive.
MuslimSlutBox
He’s certainly a cute enough guy, and I’m not getting it when people say he’s past his gay prime and all of that. He could continue to work as a trick and make money if he wanted to. I support his transition to being straight because, why not? Who am I to say he doesn’t feel a certain way in his heart? Maybe the time actually HAS come for him to be hetero and have some kids. I was gay and bi, then I married a woman and we have a baby. This is the hand life deals some people. Go with it bro.
Donston
The thing is he’s not speaking from his heart. He doesn’t say he’s gained attractions, passions, romantic feelings, emotional connections towards females. He just says he doesn’t want to be with a guy and wants a family. And if you actually read the more in-depth articles and look through his social media you’d see that he’s said a lot of anti-gay things and doesn’t believe same-sex couples should have families. That’s not speaking from the heart. That’s more about confusion, mental illness and resentment.
Fluidity has legitimacy. (I’ve been all over the sexual spectrum, but I’m still too indifferent towards females in too many ways. And I love that I love male affection and romantic connections. Therefore, I have no interests in being with a female again legitimately). However, don’t use fluidity or any identity to shield hate and internal conflicts. Just express your struggles and move on with your life.
msfrost
If he was gay, he still is.
nitejonboy
I haven’t had sex since 2007 and I’m pretty sure I’m still gay,lol.