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This single dad adopted a baby girl with Down syndrome after she was rejected by 20 families

When Luca Trapanese learned there was a little girl with Down syndrome in need of a home, he did what any single, 41-year-old gay guy would do… He adopted her!

Luca, who lives in Italy and says he always wanted to be a father, adopted Alba in 2017. Barely two weeks old, she had already been rejected by 20 families, including her biological mother, because of her condition.

“Since I was 14 years old, I have volunteered and worked with the disabled,” Luca tells the BBC, “so I felt I had the right knowledge and experience to do it.”

In Italy, the law dictates that only married heterosexual couples between the ages of 18 and 45 are allowed to adopt, and single parents can only do so under very special circumstances.

“It was very difficult because I still wanted to be a dad,” he explains. “They told me that they would only give me children with illnesses, severe disabilities, or behavioral problems.”

So when he learned Alba was in need of a home, he immediately said yes then went down to the hospital to sign the papers.

“When I held her in my arms, I was filled with joy,” he recalls. “I felt that she was my daughter immediately. I knew I was ready to be her father.”

Luca says his story is unique because it “destroys many stereotypes about fatherhood, religion, and family.”

Luca describes now 18-month-old Alba as a determined kid who can be a bit stubborn at times. But, hey, she’s a toddler. He also says she loves to play and dance, meet new people, and, of course, spend time with Dad.

“I will spend the rest of my life with a girl I love,” Luca says, “and we will do many wonderful things together.”

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Alba si sveglia alle 6.30 al massimo, riesco a tirarla per le 7.00 fin quando non inizia a ripetizione a dire PAPPA PAPPA PAPPA….allora mi alzo intontito, le riscaldo il latte. Lei lo beve in pochissimo tempo perché è affamata. Ci alziamo, ci prepariamo e andiamo insieme a fare colazione in piazza. Per le 9.00 massimo siamo in spiaggia insieme ad altri bambini…mare, tuffi, corse con gli zii e i cugini. Poi bagnetto con l'amido per togliere il sale, pranzo a volte preparato da zia Teresa che cucina molto bene, riposino di un paio d'ore sotto il controllo di nonna Antonietta mentre io vado a fare un tuffo. Dopo di nuovo spiaggia e bagnetto. Poi cena, passeggiata e per le 22 al massimo è stecchita a letto! Io la sento russare? mentre sono in giardino a leggere finalmente un libro …una vacanza tradizionalissima no? #Alba #padre #paternità #Procida #tradizione #mare #sole #famiglia

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Vogliamo il sole!?????

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