Another tweet about toxic Grindr culture has Gay Twitter™ in a tizzy.
On December 29, a user by the name of @cntb88 posted a meme from the movie Don’t Look Up of Ariana Grande calling Leonardo DiCaprio an “old f*ck.”
“me on Grindr: hey, how’re you?” wrote @cntb88. “guys that are 2 years younger:”
me on Grindr: hey, how’re you?
guys that are 2 years younger: pic.twitter.com/qckMNmp8FU
— Christopher (@cntb88) December 29, 2021
Over the last week, the tweet has gone absolutely viral, racking up over 1 million impressions, more than 25,000 likes, nearly 2,000 retweets, and hundreds of comments and quote tweets.
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— Joe (@JoypadJoe) December 30, 2021
Grindr is chaotic at the best of times, but now it has descended into well beyond the gates of hell. Why gay men buy into this app is beyond me.
— Brian Green (@BrianGr16285359) December 30, 2021
i love this trend of older men being abused on grindr by younger guys
— panda ꪀ. ꪑꪖɀꨄ. ☭ (@wh0isp4nda) December 31, 2021
Ahh to be 2 years younger again
— Martin Lopez (@MLo7597) December 30, 2021
My comeback: sorry not into fem. pic.twitter.com/uBaO8SoCYV
— Lucifer (@L95403) December 30, 2021
This isn’t even funny. The toxicity on Grindr is disgusting. No older guys, no chubs etc
— Mathew Wood (@withjustonet) December 30, 2021
Wait til you hit 34 it gets worse
— Carl Onwochei LIBMS (@MicroQuo) December 30, 2021
This tweet attacked me and I want financial compensation.
— Kevin Cook (@luftherz) December 29, 2021
my fave is when Sean and I hit someone up and they’re like “didn’t my profile say no one way older than me” and they’re 22
Sean and I are 25 & 28
— Splenda Daddy (@h03m0) December 30, 2021
I just smile. It’ll come to them in turn. The wheel turns.
— Chris (@scoobschrisRL) December 30, 2021
Last month, screenwriter and TV producer Russell T. Davies opened up about his own Grindr struggles in an interview with The Guardian.
“At my age? I don’t think there’s much action at my age, do you?” the 58-year-old said, before adding that he does, in fact, use the app.
“I am on Grindr. I’ve been on there for years because I find it fascinating. Unfortunately, everyone goes: ‘Oh, you’re the man who wrote Doctor Who.’ I’d never meet anyone off Grindr – I’ve got too much fear of being murdered.”
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ZzBomb
Not saying it doesn’t happen, b/c there are toxic people out there, but I’ve never seen something like that happen on grindr. I’ve def been blocked before by some ‘child’ b/c I was working and couldn’t drop everything I was doing to go and have a joyless tryst with some sprite who doesn’t know what they are doing, but those things I tend to not care about.
That said, you get back the energy you put in as well.
Brian
I don’t understand how people use Grindr. A solid 90% of the accounts in my area are obviously fake. I’ve logged in periodically over the last few years, and it’s always the same. Spam, spam, spam, bots, bots, spam. I really wish they’d clear out those “people.” …Until then, I can’t relate to tweets like this at all.
Chrisk
Grindr will always cater to mostly young gay guys and with that bitchiness and immaturity goes with the territory.
johncp56
yes i ben called old many times on grinder I am old
Hank31
“When i go on an app seeking loveless sexual intercourse, to peddle my body like a piece of meat, and to acquire the bodies of others from a menu of torsos, I expect to be treated with dignity and respect!”
Cam
Way to prove you’re a foreign troll account without SAYING you’re a foreign troll account. Call sex “Sexual Intercourse”.
cuteguy
Like with anything related to social media, Grindr allows ppl to spew their toxicity behind a phone or keyboard. These loser queens who spew hate are prob thinking the same thing in a bar but are afraid to say it out loud in person bc they will feel the repercussions. Take Grindr for what it is, an entertainment app that shouldn’t be taken seriously. Just as easily as someone can insult you on the app, they can just as easily be blocked. Also I agree with Russell, don’t get murdered. Murder and rap€ aren’t only for women. Be careful when meeting ppl off this thing. Use the head above your shoulders and stop thinking with the head between your legs
Jim
I get the “aversion” to older gays. But all these guys who have trouble with guys older then them, all I can say is, “What goes around comes around.”
Being polite takes no more effort then being an ass.
Chrisk
I don’t know about that but two of the biggest insults gay men throw around in my experience is calling someone old and/or effeminate ie an old queen.
One is the deep fear of getting older. The other is the shame they associated with not being masculine enough while growing up. It makes sense it would be the worst thing they can think of to insult others with.
jackrobin88
To be honest grindr doesn’t care about the toxicity on its app. As long as they get paid and users don’t complain then the vitriol and unpleasantness will continue. For me it’s the unprovoked racism!! Too many times I have been called racial slurs and I’m over it. When you report the abuse to Grindr they don’t care and do nothing. Also I’ve noticed that if you’re trying to upload a picture and if you aren’t young and white then it gets deleted or unapproved. My friend who is white and I took identical pics. Guess who’s pics were approved and who’s got denied? Yeah I’m no longer using Grindr or paying their fee. Bye!
jt1990
As a closeted bi man I once used Grindr and am totally familiar with the same issues. The closer you look to 13 the higher your chances of not being ghosted. At my age I can still pass for 25, so I still have access to straight women and overweight gays with “low” standards.