
When we talk about the idea of an LGBTQ+ community, we tend to think of those queer-friendly cities and gay neighborhoods that so many of us find ourselves gravitating to.
But there are so, so many more of us that live outside those bubbles, those safe spaces and havens—yes, some queer folks actually choose to build their lives somewhere other than New York City and Los Angeles, believe it or not!
We Live Here: The Midwest is a powerful new documentary film the explores the lives of LGBTQ+ families (of all shapes and sizes) who happen to live in parts of the country frequently—and unfairly—referred to as “flyover states.”
“Midwestern culture has an over-all resistance to change,” says one of the doc’s many subjects. “We’re just people living in a community… altering what defines a nuclear family.”
In Iowa, we meet a trans/queer family with five children in search of a new community after being expelled from their church. In Nebraska, a gay Black couple with a young daughter navigates a neighborhood where no one looks like them. In Kansas, a pair of lesbian farmers decides to homeschool their son who’s been bullied in class. In Ohio, an out, gay teacher tries to create a safe space for LGBTQ+ students in his classroom. And, in Minnesota, and older couple tries to rebuild their family after they’ve both transitioned.

Also featured is Minnesota State Representative Heather Keeler, a queer Indigenous woman and mother who faces frequent threats as she works to put human faces to the causes her colleagues are actively fighting against.
We Live Here comes at a crucial point when, after years of progress, it feels like anti-queer legislation and sentiment is on the rise, no doubt having on outsized impact on those of us not living in “Blue States” or in cities where our freedoms are protected.
“Do we stay and fight, or do we go?,” asks another queer Midwesterner. “But, where do you go where there’s stability and safety? because it does feel like at any moment, anywhere, it could change.”
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From filmmakers Melinda Maerker and David Miller, We Live Here: The Midwest is set to stream on Hulu beginning December 6—perhaps not coincidentally around the holiday season, when quite a few of us are anxiously stepping outside our bubbles to visit friends and family back home.
Check out the brand new trailer for We Live Here: The Midwest below:
FreddieW
These are the kinds of Americans that abfab calls “provincial”.
Nice too that you said it’s wrong to refer to “flyover states”, but you filed this article under “trailer park”. Tone deaf?
Matt in SD
Trailer Park is their section that highlights movie trailers. Get it? Trailer Park? Movie trailer?
abfab
He’s tone deaf. And he’s a mess. He is the kind of American I lable as provincial. It’s inbedded in his comments.
I’ll check out the TRAILER later. From the looks and the locations, I’d rather die than live in the mid west. Or across the street from Graceland, MECCA to MAGAS and other, obese, white, hillbilly trash.
still_onthemark
Trailer parks aren’t really all that common in the Midwest because they attract tornadoes and there are enough of those already!
abfab
DOROTHY!!!!!!!!!!
FreddieW
Please tell the devil to tell abfab in his coastal hell that there’s no such word as “inbedded”. The word is “embedded” — embedded reporter, embedded software, etc. Apparently, education was lacking in his hometown.
dbmcvey
Fred writes something stupid and then gets so upset when he’s corrected.
ShaverC
FreddieW, Abfab is a fraud who pretends he’s bi-coastal and travels to the Mediterranean, but we can clearly see what kind of person he really is.
FreddieW
I’m still trying to figure out how he lives close to the Pacific and the Atlantic. He lives in Panama?
FreddieW
I’ve learned to keep going when I write or say stupid things. It happens.
FreddieW
By the way, thank you, Matt, for correcting me. My mind was on a particular tangent.
abfab
Being stuck in Memphis all year long sure works on your nerves Fred. People do travel (you don’t) and have several places…you don’t. You’re stuck, we can tell. Still able to catch errors. Keep that up bitch.
And Shaver…………….you haven’t got a clue, buddy.
abfab
Freddie, travel more or at least buy yourself a better Atlas. The Caribbean Sea is what you were looking for. I know things are tough for you buddy boy. Grow up.
abfab
Great. Repeat after me class! I’m Professor Fred and I have a pole embedddded up my ass. Help me!
ShaverC
FreddieW, LOL you got under his skin! Look at him flounder now, he’s so upset.
abfab, Sure Jan.
abfab
The word is Flownder.
abfab
And the other word is ”trailer park”. Your upscale gay dwellings.
ShaverC
abfab, You might want to look that up.
FreddieW
“I love living super close to the Atlantic and the Pacific oceans.”
That’s possible in Panama or Patagonia. What does the Caribbean have to do with anything?
abfab
Look at your map. If you don’t have one, get one.
FreddieW
Tell me where to look. Or were you telling me to look at the Caribbean?
I suppose if you’re using your two fingers to measure distance on a map, it’s “super close” to the Pacific. A few inches maybe, depending on the size of your map. You could run across Mexico like you were walking across the street.
COTTONTOP
I (unfortunately) live in a small town in Texas just outside Austin (but not for much longer). Lived in Austin for 35 years and left because it’s insane with all the growth – tearing down all the things that made people fall in love with Austin to make room for all the new people moving here because they loved all those things. The town I live in is definitely NOT Austin. Lots of trump flags and stuff like that. Someone called me *aggot as they drove by my house recently. Probably because I proudly fly an American flag and a rainbow flag (trying to take the American flag back from the conservatives). I absolutely have NO plans to back down.
I plan to move to another country within the next 2 or 3 years. This country and it’s politics are nuts. It seems that, when the SCOTUS tossed out Roe, the conservatives turned their attention back to the gays. I would like to live in a country that doesn’t hate me before I die. Growing up in a TINY town (Population 600) in rural Kansas and then moving to Texas an adult leaves me yearning for a place I don’t have to hide or pretend. The U.S. seems to be on a race to fascism. Gotta get out before that happens.
Covid Hermit
I’ve lived in the Midwest (Illinois and Minnesota) my entire 44 years, and never had any desire to live anywhere else. Mostly because I’m not nearly pretty enough to fit in to LA or NYC. But I look just like the guys I see in Minneapolis, so I think I’ll stay here.
abfab
I love living super close to the Atlantic and the Pacific oceans. Pisces here. The Mediterranean on special occasions.
Who can turn the world on with a smile! Minni is cool.
Kangol2
Having lived in the Midwest and both coasts, I’d say wherever you live is what you make of it, and the Midwest is a lot more diverse than people think. There are big cities (Chicago, Minneapolis/St. Paul, Cleveland, Columbus, Cincinnati, Indianapolis, etc.), very suburban areas (outside these cities), lots of Rust-belt towns that have hit hard times (Gary, Youngstown, etc.), lots of rural areas, and so on. Characterizing the Midwest under a single banner is problematic; as the vote on Tuesday in Ohio demonstrated, even in red states there’s a sizable chunk (a majority that day) who don’t believe in or support the kinds of extremism (anti-abortion fanaticism) people think they do.
abfab
Ohio has some lovely towns. Lots of history. Americana. And its got THE GREAT LAKES! Water!
dbmcvey
I really admire then for this. They’re right there in the fray.
nm4047
‘steeping’ outside your bubble. Is that bubble tea? Given most gays and lesbians live in major urban areas, little wonder there is little to no change in rural attitudes or legislative agendas.
abfab
One must steep one’s bubble tea.