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Queerty ReBUTTal

It's Friday readers. You know what that means: it's Queerty ReBUTTal time! Yay!!

For those of you who don't know, Queerty ReBUTTal's the very special section in which we comment on your comments on our comments from the week that was.

Rather than selecting a couple of stories this week, readers, we're going to focus on one story in particular. Find out which one, after the jump.

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While the fact that someone's gone and made a Mark Foley doll - and that they're definitely going to make a bundle off of their creation - may be a bit disturbing to some, we're more disturbed by the emergence of a new blog: Confessions of a Bareback Top.

As if you can't figure it out, the site's devoted to the conquests of a bareback top who writes in his first post:

I am a "down-low" bareback top which means when you see me online or in chats with friends, I only confess to SAFE ONLY sex….but when my hook ups come over - I try my hardest to fuck them raw and cum inside of them - even if they ask me not to.

I have broken condoms, taken condoms off, and forced my load into young bottoms, etc.

Alright. We're not prudes. Far from it. In fact, we've twice been nominated for Whore-Slut-Slag of the Year. (Sadly, we didn't win.) But, we've got to say we're pretty grossed out by this new addition to the blogosphere.

We understand plenty of folk out there are into barebacking - and, you know, that's fine. If you want to fuck around and take chances, do it. What's exceptionally disturbing is that this man tricks people into barebacking. We're not lawyers, but this must be illegal. And, if it's not illegal, it should be.

What's more, homie has a disclaimer on his site that reads:

I would rather keep this site anonymous and not post any photos of myself nor would I post photos of my hookups because it would threaten the integrity of who I am and the fact that I'm not upfront about barebacking.

Does anyone else see something wrong with this repudiation? His "integrity" of not being "upfront"?

This guy's either a complete fucking idiot or…well, a complete fucking idiot. How can a lie have integrity? Have we slipped into some parallel dimension? Someone please explain, because we've been trying to figure it all out and developed quite the headache.

Bareback Party In Manhattan Incites Protest

It all started when the promoter of a bareback party for black and Latino men sent an invitation to the executive director of an organization that works to fight the HIV/AIDS epidemic among black, gay men. Tokes Osubu of Gay Men of African Descent was obviously horrified by the invitation, which stated, "Anyone caught using jimmies (condoms) will be asked to leave with no refund given!!" and his organization has planned to protest outside the East Harlem building as the party happens on Saturday.

Despite that major cock block, we still expect that some men will attend the party, and we will not lie: We don't understand why. Sure, condomless sex might feel better, but the anti-condom policy at the party seems to be promoting a dangerous agenda more than allowing guests to exercise their own free will.

There are a lot of opinions on both sides of the barebacking issue, and we would never try to poke our noses into the privacy of your bedroom, but organized barebacking parties like these are bad news. It's hard to get inside the heads of the people who organize or attend them and so it's hard to think of ways to make them safer, but we think the first step is spreading awareness that they are happening.

Harlem Gay Group Denounces Barebacking Party [AP]
Gay Men of African Descent [Official Site]

Going Bareback

We at Queerty always like to encourage safe sex. There’s a lot you can catch out there and we want you back here reading us each and everyday. So how do we feel about barebacking?

You meet someone out one night, go back to his place, but can’t find a rubber anywhere. Should you go bareback? We don’t care if he has the body of Tom Welling – be safe. Always carry a rubber with you. You’re going to worry yourself silly the next morning if you don’t slap on some protection!

We like Contempo bareback condoms. The rubber is as thin as Nicole Ritchie so there'll be no grumbling about lack of sensation!

We have nothing against going raw as long as you bitches are safe and honest with your partner. And for those of you who will not have it any other way, we’re sending you over to the hygienic folks at Barebackhealth.net. They’re watching out for you more than your local news. Check out their list of things to consider for safer sex as well as info on the lovely art of douching.

Before you use your ass, use your head, people.

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