We hope more than anything that this is someone’s idea of satire, and that this can’t. Possibly. Be real.
Unfortunately, it’s within the scope of believability. And that is perhaps more disturbing than whether or not this specific party invitation turns our to be legit.
A Meetup invitation called “Gay Guys Parties” has been making the rounds, but not because it promises a good time and smooth beats.
Organizers Derrick, Jake and Connor cordially invite people to a monthly themed party, which sounds nice except when they say “people,” they’re referring to “young, fit, masculine, White men – str8-identified, gay, and bisexual.”
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In case that leaves any window of confusion open (it doesn’t), “we mean non-Hispanic/non-Latin(o) White men.” Thanks for clearing that up.
But if the “racist” alarm is going off in your head, don’t worry — these guys address that misconception. See, one of the guys who throws the all-white party is black, so it can’t be racist.
“[He’s] not self-hating. He likes himself! He likes White guys, too,” the invitation reads.
Well, if Grindr and Scruff let you sort people based on their skin color, why not advertise parties in the same fashion?
One word comes to mind: ugh.
Here’s the full invitation:
As of April 2016, there are over 200 White guys as members. Most are not here on Meetup, but they are on the membership list separate from Meetup. The group is politically incorrect. It’s elitist and exclusive.
Furthermore, a black guy runs the group. How awesome is that! We oppose political correctness – we do not support diversity. If someone considers the group ’racist’ or the organizer ’self-hating,’ we don’t care. It’s ridiculous how race is the only aspect of the group that gets criticized. Why single that out? People hang around people with the characteristics they like. This is normal. All women, all men, and all black groups wouldn’t get the same criticism.
We have the freedom and right to associate with whomever we want. The organizer almost exclusively associates with White guys. And, sorry, the organizer is not self-hating. He likes himself! He likes White guys, too.
We are looking for more White guys who are fraternity guys, and young professional men who want to meet similar types of guys by attending our parties with other young, fit, masculine white men. The group is all about camaraderie and having fun times together as bromos. This is a great way to meet and become friends with other young, cool, masculine white guys in the same boat. This is it.
We are looking for recent grads from DC area campuses, including GWU, Georgetown, AU, GMU, UVA, Virginia Tech, University of Maryland, and, of course, Catholic U. Catholic white boys are the best!
We are also looking for white military men – US Marines, Army, Navy, and Air Force, Coast Guard, Naval Academy, firemen, and policemen are certainly welcome.
Join this group today to be invited to our next party! You must be white, fit, masculine, 21 to 35 to get in. This is a drug-free zone. The group encourages healthy and fun activities, masculine activities, like team sports, listening to rock music, parties, and much more! If you are a young, fit, masc white dude who likes other dudes – a bromo – join this group. The group is fun and the guys are fun.
The Organizer
And if that’s not directly insulting to our shared humanity enough — which it is — here’s a questionnaire prospective guests are expected to fill out:
h/t NNN
Stache
You couldn’t pay me enough to hang out with these “bromo” homos but they shouldn’t be criticized for setting a standard for their private parties.
Masc Pride
Says the organizer is black. What a shocker! It’s a private party, so he can really set whatever theme he wants. If you have a problem with what he’s done, start your own group/party.
barkomatic
Wow, I think anyone who would go to something like this would be someone I’d find completely insufferable and obnoxious.
I didn’t realize some gay guys are now “straight identified”. I hope this some kind of parady and isn’t real–because it’s an embarrassment.
Bob LaBlah
@Masc Pride………well said. You would think by now that any one could tell from the criteria needed to enter their world that they are not looking for the “every day” white boy either. Look closely at the universities listed and see if you need go further. I find their listed of the University of Maryland charitable but not to be taken serious as wanting someone from there.
Believe it or not there are a LOT of black guys out there who make well north of $150k per year and do not have sex with their own kind nor are they hating of their own kind but would be offended by this. It was probably one of them who let the public know about this group. They simply know what they are and aren’t looking for and I bet he does not fool around with the “average” white boy either. Money and education (from the right place of course) are required for their realm.
Bob LaBlah
@Masc Pride……..do you know what’s up with the removal of the reply tab? And all of those repeating posts? Am I the only one who has noticed these things?
glasshole
why are you using a picture that contains gay porn star Tristan Jaxx (who’s Puerto Rican, not white) and what appears to be Adam Ramzi next to him (Armenian, also not white)?
Kevin Wotipka
Even if they’d have me, I wouldn’t go.
Blackceo
The fact that they need to push the whole “a Black guy runs the group” was just unnecessary. Its a private party. If you want nothing but blanquitos running around then thats your prerogative, just like the Ku Klux Klan. I went to the University of Maryland and played in enough snow to know that there’s certainly quite a bit there to choose from.
Josh447
Every race has its hotties. Quite the clueless bunch.
Masc Pride
@Bob LaBlah: Highly doubt these guys are wealthy. They’re recent grads, so they’re probably drowning in debt. I think the whole thing is really more of an anti-PC/anti-preference-shaming statement. Trying to dictate rules to people just ensures this type of rebellion.
Think the reply feature is a done deal. Makes it harder for the perpetually offended to pick fights over every comment they can’t handle. Think the removal was a great idea. Everyone can freely express themselves without being harassed.
Daniel-Reader
Sounds like the setup for a novel about a serial killer who whacks anyone ra-cist enough to attend. Creepy.
Billy Budd
Disgusting creatures.
Stache
@ Billy Budd,
Just like your preference for the young boys we all discriminate. Nothing wrong with it.
breal
Couple things. If you’ve ever been to DC, you would describe the guys here as meh – at pretty much any age, race, etc. So your probably not missing much. The photo above is certainly not DC gays. But doesn’t surprise me at all.
Midtownny1
We’ve come a long way baby…….not.
AlliterationAddict
‘We are also looking for white military men – US Marines, Army, Navy, and Air Force, Coast Guard, Naval Academy, firemen, and policemen are certainly welcome’
In my imagination, every minority gay Marine, Soldier, Seaman, Pilot, Fireman and Policeman in the city shows up to these jerks’ party and kicks their ass.
inbama
“Well, if Grindr and Scruff…”
Uh, no.
Personal relationships are off limits from criticism.
But recruiting people for a white-only social club?
That’s pure racism – and the claim that one of the organizers is black is a pathetic attempt to give these shameless scumbags cover.
Franklin
First, I think it’s a damn shame that 200 people joined that meet up group, but I can’t say I’m am surprised. Second, I can’t get upset black men like the one that started that meet up. All I can do is pity them. I wonder what they see when they look in the mirror if they can’t even see the beauty in in their own race. Men like that are setting themselves up for a lonely life, because the reality in this country is the majority of white men prefer to date other white men just like the majority of black men prefer date other black men. These type of men usually spend their youth chasing after Sean Cody frat boys who have no interest in dating them, until they end up aged out the dating pool.
asby
At least they are upfront and don’t beat around the Bush…And i wonder if the black guy attends his own events?
joeyty
@AlliterationAddict: “In my imagination, every minority gay Marine, Soldier, Seaman, Pilot, Fireman and Policeman in the city shows up to these jerks’ party and kicks their ass.” Most gays do need their asses kicked for their private parties, yes.
Billy Budd
@Stache: Can you please stop offending me? I never said I like to fuck children. The youngest person I’ve ever fucked was 19. But the fact is that brazilians are allowed to fuck 14 year olds because IT IS IN OUR LAWS.
trell
Irrespective of whether you agree with the ‘Non-PC’ principles of the organiser, or whether you are disgusted by the elitism displayed here, one thing remains.
I bet these parties are boring as fuck!
Get a bunch of white str8 acting culturally vapid white jocks in a room together, and what do they have to talk about? Where’s the diversity of character? The whole purpose of this ‘club’ seems like just an excuse for the organisers to get a bunch of hot looking white dudes for them to perv over.
From an outsider’s point of view, there will always be an element of envy or jealousy, because you don’t fit the criteria, but TBH, I’d sooner go to a party with a complete mix of people regardless of sexuality, ethnicity, gender, age etc. than be surrounded by a bunch of pretty boys.
o.codone
@asby: You can stop capitalizing “Bush”. It’s 2016, that’s over.
o.codone
Only the white boys get this kind of criticism. There’s latin parties and black parties and nobody’s upset about these. The problem is the white privilege these fags are flaunting. That’s the problem.
Hun
Heaven forbid we offend anyone. Really. We must be as boring and politically correct as possible at all times.
Trainman2005
Who cares what anybody else thinks? A private party can invite whoever the hell they want? Political correctness is a puss oozing boil on the face of the gay community.
EVERY gay and straight dating app and website IN THE WORLD allows you to search for and screen for your preferred ethnicity. Along comes a group that searches for white guys only, and PC gays start spit flying, red faced, screaming and brain hemorrhaging.
This is the United States, not Iran. If gay nazis want to have a private party with no Jews, they can. It would be disgusting and offensive, but who decides what is disgusting and offensive?
We gays have live in a world where the majority of people think WE are disgusting and offensive. To defend my rights, I gotta defend theirs.
bottom250
This so sad my sweethearts. This so not representing the rainbow that is the gay community. It makes me cry.
Baba Booey Fafa Fooey
Who cares? There are “black only”, “women only”, nobody bats an eye. Eff-off.
JAW
@bottom250: Interesting… sounds like your name is suggesting your preference… Why is that ok for you to do, yet when a cute young white guy does the same thing with his preference… you get sad.
Philly has Gay Black Pride Weekend coming up… does that make you sad also?
How about the “Dyke March” that Philly has… what does your heart say about that?
I seems that when white guys do something together… but when others do it it is wonderful to many in the community.
The same people hating on these guys also show hate to any LGBT’s who go to church, those that might be republican etc.
It is time for those offended by this in Our community to look in the mirror and see what they see.
UltimateSin
For the people who keep pointing out that there are ” ‘insert non white race here’ parties as some kind of rationalization of these parties,I should probably warn you that your ignorance is showing. Minority groups usually form groups that cater to them due to their all but exclusion from majority.
Bob LaBlah
@Masc Pride: Well how about that? The reply tab magically returned. As for the new picture the put up I wonder if they paid attention to the title and forgot about the obviously older guy in the pic? Anyway, we get what we “pay” for, huh? lol
Overall, as someone indicated, the guys in DC are exactly how he described them, MEH. When I was transferred there from Los Angeles back in the late 1980’s the first place I hit that weekend was Dupont Circle. I could not believe how segregated DC was. At a strip bar I heard a queen describe one of the dancers as “mixed race” and I had no doubt that was one of the few times he had been THAT close to a black person in any setting. It was and I bet STILL is unbelievable over there in DC.
Bob LaBlah
@asby: I wondered the same thing. But I do get the impression he is a damn good cook and can do a mean clean job on a kitchen. Its hard to believe otherwise based on his being the “sponsor” of these events for these spoiled rotten brats. For some reason an Abner Mason type of face and build is what comes to mind. You guys are too young to remember him but in the case of this article he is worth a google or bing search. I say no more but pay attention to the time period Mason was on the “scene” and just who and what it was he represented.
JAW
@UltimateSin: Actually… many of the parties that you mention are more about wanting to meet guys/gals “More like Me”… Many people of color want to be with people that look, act, and like things that they like to do…. It is not just a black/white thing… but many other nationalities, religions, kinks, political beliefs ages, body types (Think Bears) etc.
It seem that the only people that get the hat show to are the cute white guys….
Time to stop the hate against them.
Franklin
@UltimateSin: To co-sign with UltimateSin, don’t get it twisted. There are plenty of white people at black and latin centered events. Those events are created to celebrate and uplift those groups and not created for the sole purpose of excluding others like the group in this article. I curious, when are white ever not celebrated? Pretty much everything in the straight world and the gay one for that matter is created with you in mind, so you can stop with the false equivalencies.
hassia
@UltimateSin: “Minority groups usually form groups that cater to them due to their all but exclusion from majority.” This is a fact that most people refuse to acknowledge!If one were to go to other sites the complaints are always why is there BET, NAACP, Ebony magazine? completely ignorant of the fact that had the US been inclusive there would not have been a need for said institutions/publications!
Mykaels
So basically its a grindr party
pscheck2
Queerty, get a life! So what if they are an exclusive organization ? It is their right to have one as it is anyone’s right to belong to one. The magic word here is: CHOICE! Blacks (oh, excuse me: Afro-Americans) seem to have their own blogs (note: Black History Month) media outlets and other channels of identification that doesn’t bother a person who is white, wanting in! I think this inclusiveness is an admission on the part of the Afro-Americans that they have no culture or heritage that they are proud of and want to hang on the coat tails of whitey to validate their sense of equality, in today’s culture!
goofyjoemoore
We have to look at this as how does this hurt us? It doesn’t. It’s not a great mindset, but that’s not for us to force our feelings on these guys. Honestly, the description doesn’t sound appealing to me anyway, so I’ll take a hard pass on an invite. Plus, apparently I’m too old. haha
joeyty
@trell: “Get a bunch of white str8 acting culturally vapid white jocks in a room together, and what do they have to talk about? Where’s the diversity of character?” How do you know they’re “culturally vapid” ? Athletic white guys never know art and literature ?
JerseyMike
@Baba Booey Fafa Fooey: have you thought about why theses groups exist? They exist because the of race and sex ism. People have a right to party with anyone they want.. Your circle says a lot about who you are.
bottom250
@JAW: Honey being extremely effeminate I am ridiculed in both the gay and straight community. I think that not accepting others is wrong. Hate makes me cry, sweetheart.
Stache
@goofyjoemoore: Good point. I want all you bitchers to start accepting sex from the obese and those of mature years. If you’re going to keep complaining while doing your own sexual discrimination you’re a hypocrite.
They prefer white guys like some prefer black guys. It’s not ra*ist. Look in the mirror and get over yourselves.
joeyty
@Stache: You’re right. Someone who doesn’t engage in sex with just ANYONE at all (any size, any weight, any age..) shouldn’t criticize those with extreme racial preferences.
Xzamilio
This shit made me laugh so damn hard!!!! The amount of stupidity and imbecility — yes they are synonyms — let them eat cake. I do not understand this fascination of limiting one’s self to taste of the race rainbow, but this personally does not offend my black ass in the least, mainly because there is too much dick and ass out there to be hung up over some “Preference Patties” and whatever it is they are doing here.
But, like I have said before, the ones offended need to understand how the world works and that life ain’t about tending to what hurts your feelings. Trying to make Whitey McNoFemsAsiansBlacks feel bad about not wanting you ain’t gonna make him want you… too much goodness around here to care about someone else’s sex life. That’s me, though.
Am I cooning enough for some of y’all? Still don’t curr!!!
Bauhaus
For those mentioning minority/black clubs, schools, and associations… not so fast – they were borne out of rebellion and necessity from escaping racially discriminatory practices and animus from the white majority. Generally, minority clubs/groups and black schools are established around the premise of protecting rights and providing an environment free from racially biased actions from the white majority.
JerseyMike
@Bauhaus: !!!!!!!!
JerseyMike
The men of color who don’t chase after white boys don’t give 2 fcuks about this.. I’m not even slightly offended.
JAW
@bottom250: How is hanging out with people you feel a connection with some of the time wrong?
Being a 60 yo Silver Daddy Bear, I get my share of negative comments and looks… but I also get lots of others who have interest in me. I also have lots of guys that I have no interest in for many many reasons… most of the guys going to this event would be among those that I do not want to know. I have no concern about them getting together and having fun
onthemark
Maybe that blue-eyed ‘aborigine’ from Australia can afford a plane ticket to DC? Another social experiment for his writing career.
bottom250
@JAW: Ohhh Honey you are so wise. I am just a young effeminate queen looking for acceptance.
DCFarmboy
A side of me thinks this group is fake, maybe a pic collector or something. Throwing monthly big parties for strangers is a bit of an expense. And if this is really a ruse for a commercial enterprise, then they very much are guilty of illegal discrimination.
Baba Booey Fafa Fooey
@JerseyMike: Who cares?
Uncle Mark
@Trainman2005: I agree with you about the excessive hue & cry from the PC crowd over the racial preference buttons. If you’re not the race someone wants, you’re going to get rejected at some point. Personally, I would rather get rejected before someone wastes my time.
As for the vapid, “fit,” white boys party, let them have it; the rest of us will be hanging out with the more fun, interesting, and diverse members of the rainbow.
Uncle Mark
@Xzamilio: I love your hilarious comment and your philosophy !! Those ignorant, white-only boys just deny themselves your clever witticisms. Conversely, you’re clearly too good to hang out with that kind of shallow rabble.
calpoidog
So really it’s a hook up club and not a hang out with friends club because if it was the latter, you really wouldn’t care what color or degree of masculinity they were.
I’ve always found that guys that advertise this stuff is what they aspire to be (i.e., “masculine” whatever that is) rather than what they really are.
It’s probably a good thing that they stick to themselves and therefore are not part of the dating pool.
Daniel-Reader
If people wanted to join this club, why wouldn’t they then get-together, start another one and leave out the organizer since he could not be invited to his own party under the membership rules? That way they could dump him – LOL – which would be poetic justice given that he set the criteria.
onthemark
I bet anything that a lot of these self-described “masculine” guys have very “fabulous” gay accents and don’t even realize it!
Some may be similarly deluded about how “fit” they are, especially the recent-grad frat boys who’ve just spent four years guzzling beer non-stop.
R@cist? Seems so to me, but maybe hard-core r@cists wouldn’t want to deal with even ONE black guy there. That’s one interpretation I guess!
Tony Johnston
@JerseyMike: I heard that! Let them have their young, white (and one self-loathing black guy) fun if that’s what they want to do. Doesn’t impact my life at all. More chocolate for me. *Kanye shrug*
IDoNotHaveToAgreeWithYou
Nothing at all wrong with it. I don’t fit into that group due to age but they have every right to associate with whoever they want. No one owes you white dick just because you are another color. No one owes you athletic dick if you are fat. No one owes you masculine dick if you aren’t. No one is obligated to have sex with anyone else for any reason and if you think they are, the biggest reason they probably don’t want to have sex with you is because you are a loser with entitlement delusions.
SonOfKings
@IDoNotHaveToAgreeWithYou: But these are social gatherings, not sex parties. Attending a party is not obligating anyone to have sex with you.
JerseyMike
@Baba Booey Fafa Fooey: exactly.. Who gives a fcuk? Prefer having my own anyway..
BornSerious
Hey, we all have the Constitutional right to associate privately with whomever we want.
pscheck2
AMEN!
DCguy
I love the typical right wing-ish affirmative action defense.
Um…uh….the group CAN’T be attacked because….um….a BLACK guy organized it!!!
Yeah, suuuuure guys ok. The same way a policy or politician couldn’t be anti-gay if a gay guy supported it? Hello Log Cabin Republicans.
The group is probably fake, but if not, I have a feeling it would get boring VERY quickly. Just think, how quickly would these guys sleep their way through a group of 200 people? And if anybody has anything like Hepatitis or Herpes get ready for some MAJOR drama.
JerseyMike
@DCguy: exactly.. It’s ok as log as it’s happening to someone of another race but all hell will break loose if a str8 group was doing it to someone gay.. As I said before I could careless about groups like this because because I would not be checking for anyone there anyway. Just find it hypocritical that it’s ok for gays to discriminate against people but it’s not ok for str8 people discriminate against gay people.. I don’t fcuk with hypocrites..
spemat
yeah… the majority of us bisexuals would laugh because it is a gay themed party.
Tyrone Johnston
Not surprised that it’s run by a “black” guy. Self-hating blacks gays run RAMPANT in DC. Hideously basic white gay men who think they are hot also run rampant there. I would bet my savings that the white guys joining are not attractive.
JamJewel
So, basically, that black guy has formed a club of all his white hook-ups and now they are pimping for him! Got it!
JamJewel
@glasshole: I think to make the point that there are white guys who aren’t traditionally white either. There are Middle Eastern whites – was watching tv the other day with the sound off and looked up and saw some cute guys… it was a doc on Muslims in Deerpoint – West Indian whites… you name it… that black guy just doesn’t like blacks and S****S! Wonder if he likes South African whites? I just think the whole thing is too funny in a bizzaro way to take seriously!