A young woman from Iowa isn’t sure what to make of her boyfriend who has taken a hankering to hot male models on Instagram, so she’s turning to advice guru Dear Abby for help.
The woman writes, “I am 19 and love my boyfriend a lot. He is very sweet and would do anything for me. However, I am beginning to think there may be someone else.”
The someone else, she says, is another guy.
boyfriend has become very secretive lately with his phone,” she continues, “and I’ve noticed he’s followed a lot of male modeling accounts on Instagram.”
She wonders: “Should I confront him about it, or am I overthinking things?”
In her response, Abby tells the young woman that she’s definitely not overthinking, and that her boyfriend may be trouble.
“Because you are having doubts about your boyfriend’s faithfulness, ask him why he has become secretive with his phone and why he is viewing male models on Instagram,” she says.
Abby continues: “Unless he’s trying to become a model, it is possible that he may be bisexual. If that’s the case–and you are correct that he would ‘do anything’ for you–he should level with you about it.”
OK, all that is fine. But it’s Abby’s post script that’s raising some eyebrows.
She writes: “P.S. If you have been having unprotected sex with this young man, I urge you to be tested for STDs as soon as possible.”
Is it just us, or did that last remark seem to come out of nowhere? After all, the woman didn’t mention anything about the couple’s sex life, or even that she suspected her boyfriend was hooking up with other people, she only said that he’s been surfing Instagram.
What do you think? Did Dear Abby just perpetuate biphobic stereotype? Or was she making a valid point? Share your thoughts in the comments.