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Former pro soccer player (and current model) comes out as gay

It’s no small secret there are scores of closeted athletes weighing their desire to live openly against the very real professional backlash that can come with coming out, and now one more former pro has revealed he’s gay.

Adam McCabe has been a professional and semi-professional soccer player for teams in England, Thailand and Slovakia. He currently plays for a semi-pro team in the National Premier Soccer League in Atlanta, the Georgia Revolution. And yeah, he also happens to be a model — no big deal.

A photo posted by Adam Mccabe (@shakiro_850) on

He’s shared his moving coming out story in an essay on Meanwhiler:

While I was playing soccer at a younger age, I was not out to my teammates. I did not really even think about my sexuality until the end of high school and beginning of college (around 19 years old).

Soccer was the most important thing; it was all that I thought about. I lived, breathed, ate and slept soccer. And I was not going to let anything, like a relationship or my sexuality, get in the way of my goals and dreams.

It’s a struggle that all gay pro athletes face — keep quiet and try to compete to the highest level or your sport, or shine the spotlight on yourself by coming out.

One potential solution to the problem? Power in numbers.

The chairman of the Football Association in England has been in talks with top-level closeted athletes and is encouraging them to come out as a group, hoping to scatter the spotlight effect and keep the focus on the sport. It’s a nice idea, really.

For McCabe, keeping quiet wasn’t always easy.

A photo posted by Adam Mccabe (@shakiro_850) on

The language that is used during practice, in the locker room, and on the pitch is extremely masculine and at times vulgar.

I have heard teammates use homophobic language both in the soccer realm and in daily life. It causes you to really pay attention to your surroundings and debate every action as a closeted athlete.

A photo posted by Adam Mccabe (@shakiro_850) on

I was afraid to share my sexuality based off of what I had heard my teammates say. Whether joking or not, these words are cemented in your brain and they shape the way you act towards and around your teammates.

But he says he never quite felt “whole” while hiding part of his identity.

A photo posted by Adam Mccabe (@shakiro_850) on

Speaking to Outsports, he said:

I have grown and changed so much since my move back and now I am at a place to help other LGBTQ athletes who may be struggling.

If I can help at least one individual who needs guidance, support, or even a friend to speak with, I’m here.

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    • DDstar1me

      Cccchile…everybody seems to be a model these days. Hell, I think I might be a model myself. This man looks like my friend Tobe. Average as all hell.

      Well, good for him. Go fight the fight now that things have become easier. All the best. This coming out story is fa da birds. LOL.

      Jan 11, 2017 at 4:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • He BGB

      I thought he looked average, too. Wish a really hot NFL player would come out. Now that would be something to write home about!

      Jan 11, 2017 at 5:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ErikO

      This guy is a model? He’s not even that good looking and is average at best.

      Jan 11, 2017 at 5:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BGinBigD

      Hello, jealous idiots, many times what make a model “beautiful” or “striking” is how they photograph, how they move their body to photograph best. Have you not seen many women models out of makeup and on the street in their own clothing. You probably wouldn’t guess they are models.
      Give him a break! He’s young and will have plenty of years to deal with jealous queens like yourself. Good luck to you on your journey, Adam!

      Jan 11, 2017 at 6:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SumSay

      @BGinBigD: They’re a hypercritical bunch. That’s all most commenters on Queerty have to offer, criticism. There are hardly any compliments given. It’s usually just teardowns :/

      Jan 11, 2017 at 7:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • startenout

      He could be such a positive role model (and model) for other young closeted athletes. WHY do you feel the need to tear people down???

      Jan 11, 2017 at 9:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • grxnt

      I have to say that I am proud of him and really wish more athletes would feel safe enough to come out. It’s really pathetic that all we do nowadays is tear people down It’s not anyone else’s business what career Adam chooses and how “attractive” someone is. You don’t even know the guy. Give him a break.

      Jan 11, 2017 at 9:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • silveroracle

      @grxnt: Agreed.

      Jan 11, 2017 at 10:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • bigrawtop

      instagram photos tagged with #instagay go back 45 weeks ago.

      Jan 11, 2017 at 10:49 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kangol

      Good for him, and may more follow his lead. He’s deathly pale, though. Maybe a trip to Ibiza or someplace warm and sunny is in order now that he’s no longer playing soccer.

      Jan 11, 2017 at 11:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • DarkZephyr

      I am with the guys disgusted by the revolting tear downs that are so damned common in the comment section of this site. Plus I think he is gorgeous anyway. Would love to see how hot the a**hole criticizers are.

      Jan 11, 2017 at 11:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Aromaeus

      I guess the only requirement these days to be a ‘model’ is be white. There is nothing exceptional about his looks or his physique.

      Jan 11, 2017 at 11:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • rbernard

      It is fantastic Adam McCabe, yet another athlete, as come out.
      The more athletes that come out, the easier it is for the next one to come out in the alpha male sports business.
      As professional athlete in a industry with a fair share of bigots, Adam McCabe risked his career and income and still had the courage to do the right thing.
      BTW – I think Adam is sexy, fit, and am sure he and his boyfriend have a good time together.

      Jan 12, 2017 at 1:57 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • dollahsign

      Whether I like his looks or not, he found a way to demonstrate that gay men are capable of athletic feats, and now he has managed to find a gig as a model. By now we ought to know that models are not all 100% beautiful. I think he looks fine, and wish him well.

      Jan 12, 2017 at 7:03 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • NateB79

      I think he’s got that wholesome, handsome, guy that you’d be proud to take home to your parents kind of look.

      Jan 12, 2017 at 9:46 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Keebler ILF

      When I saw that pic at the top of the page I thought it was the guy who played Beau De Labarre (Stephen Shortridge) from Welcome Back Kotter.

      Jan 12, 2017 at 10:27 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • fur_hunter

      Now……when a guy comes out who looks like Tom Selleck, Gerard Butler and who could leave out the totally HOT…..Sam Elliot…let me know. I will definitely be wanting to take notice. But unfortunately, I don’t know of any actors, athletes or men in the limelight who look like them.

      Jan 14, 2017 at 4:41 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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