A U.K. man is speaking out about the horrors he suffered while experimenting with a new party drug that is quickly becoming a favorite among gay clubbers and PnPers in Manchester.
“G” is odorless and colorless liquid that costs about $1 and is strong enough to melt plastic.
36-year-old Patrick Ettnes used to be a regular user of the party drug.
“The feeling is quite euphoric to be honest,” he tells Manchester Evening News. “It increases your horniness. Some people can’t control themselves. They become very rampant.”
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Ettnes says he quit doing drugs entirely after having a drink spiked with G at a chemsex party and then being raped while he was unconscious.
“They gave me a high amount,” he recalls. “I remember someone getting on top of me and that was it.”
“I woke up on the floor with people stepping over me like I was a piece of paper.”
Looking back, he says it was the lowest point of his entire life. Though he never reported the rape to police, he did recently start seeing a therapist to help him work through the trauma.
“It was at a time in my life when I was experimenting,” Ettnes recalls. “A lot of people would say ‘take it with me, you can trust me’ and then they prey on you.”
“I never spoke about it. If you’re offered a drink make sure you ask questions, make sure you see everything that is happening. People relinquish that control.”
A recent survey conducted by Squirt.org found that 30% of respondents had engaged in chemsex, with an additional 39% saying they could consider it.
Related: Chemsex survival kits come with color-coded syringes and a booklet on what to do if you’re arrested
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AgainNagain
You went to a disgusting sex party (probably not your first or second time) where everyone was doing hard drugs and you lamented about being sexually molested. Man, it’s really hard to have sympathy for gays like him these days.
Darsithis
No one ever deserves to be raped. Ever. It doesn’t matter what they drank, didn’t drink, took, didn’t take, what they wore, or didn’t wear…no one deserves it.
shivian
Wow, you’re just a steaming bag of human trash, huh? Rape is wrong, always.
Brian
Jeez, how many times does Queerty have to get rid of you before you take the hint and stop coming back under new screen names?
JK 1984
Rape is always wrong, doesn’t matter if you are as a sex party, a prostitute, druggie or whatever else you find morally objectionable.
AgainNagain
Never have I ever said that raping someone is right but do we know what really happened at the party? He remember he got raped but did he? Did the rapists remember it the same way he did? My sentiment is, I have little sympathy for him because he voluntarily put himself in a dangerous situation. What tragically happened to him would not have happened if he had been sober or if he had not gone to the chem party.
youarederanged
@AgainNagain
Yeah, the only people we give benefit of the doubt to are those who claim they’re victims. Who cares that the victim is a known drug user who chose to go somewhere to do drugs. Who cares that he can’t remember other details or that the other guys might have a different story of what went down. If someone claims victim, we are supposed to just accept it as true.
michaelf7466
What an ignorant response. I always have compassion for people who make mistakes and/or make poor choices. And, isn’t it great to hear someone take responsibility? He stopped using drugs after this. He’s not being a victim; he’s empowering others with his story. You are being judgmental. I imagine it’s difficult for you to have sympathy or compassion for anyone.
michaelf7466
We all put ourselves at varying levels of risk by just waking up in the morning. So I shouldn’t have sympathy for you if you drive on the freeway and a drunk driver hits you? And why would he say he was raped when he wasn’t? You just seem to want to blame the victim here no matter what. We don’t ask to be victimized when we go out and party. There’s all kinds of ways to be yourself at risk and of course as adults we should understand possible consequences and try to mitigate them. But that doesn’t mean we go on the attack against someone who was treated awfully because they went out to explore and have some fun. It wasn’t a rape party.
Tombear
What if the person raped gets off on rape scenes? Is rape allowable in that case?
curiobi
So sick of this troll. The code word for this troll is “disgusting”. Porn, drugs, alcohol. If anyone watches or partakes in any of it they deserve what they get, right HereIAm?
Why do you keep coming back here with your lame friend who always supports whatever you are saying? You don’t even read the articles anymore! This man is not asking for sympathy. -And you often come across as seriously homophobic. If you hate gay people so much join Alex Jones or something and go away!
djmcgamester
Not just a sex party but a chemsex party. That means he was there to use drugs and have sex. I’m skeptical about his drink being spiked. Maybe it did happen but the guy either was on drugs, intended to be on drugs and/or the OP was on drugs. Is rape okay? No. However, if you specifically place yourself in a situation where the likelihood of something like this will occur, why go there?
Now, for those complaining about what the guy did or didn’t deserve, how do we know the other guy wasn’t on one of those drugs. Could he make a real choice? Again, the guy knew full well what types of drugs were there.
I know I’m an outlier, but he had a choice to be there. A CHOICE.
Juanjo
The usual trolls doing the “blame the victim” routine. How surprising.
johnozed
Always a bridesmaid, amirite?
QueerTruth
Again and again
Obviously you did not read the article.
He is not lamenting. He was honest about his past and the incident.
He is not looking for your sympathy.
Your comment is lame and cruel.
youarederanged
He was honest about the incident to the best he can recall. Who knows how accurate that is since he was on a drug that even he admits makes people go crazy. We’ll never know.
JLinMN
I have a heart condition that is not noticable. (I look perfectly healthy and can have a couple drinks, on the meds I’m on.) however, if I got a spiked drink like this, my Dr said I’d be dead. (Which is why I stopped attending parties like these.)
Do people have no concern about whether they would be in jail for murder? Spiking a drink is not an innocent thing.
Paco
I’m surprised how many gay men can’t have great sex with other men without being messed up on chemicals.
Brian
I don’t know how they can have great sex on chemicals. Doesn’t meth leave you limp and shriveled?
AgainNagain
I can only surmise that being limp doesn’t bother these hard drug users after all. They descend into a very hark and sinister place where they engage in unspeakable acts. Maybe they don’t want sex at all.
mountainmaat
Gotta steer clear of those PnP Ghouls!!
rtomrainbow
Er…what’s PnP?
Heywood Jablowme
It stands for “Party & Play.”
And if someone asks “Do you party?” the proper response is “Sure! Whose birthday is it? Is there cake?”
Brian
But then you risk finding yourself in the middle of a whole cake fart fetish nightmare.
nitejonboy
Well, let’s hope he’s learned his lesson.
Geeker
So he went to a chem sex party and was surprised things went badly? To quote the great Phil Defranco “Don’t be stupid, stupid”.
sometypeofgay
G for a $1.00??? I will Venmo any ok next who can get me a gallon
TimberWolf
Lots of comments on this interview, some cruel, some analyzing others supportive. Regardless, of Mr. Ettnes experience with Chem Sex, the dangers of Chem sex /PNP can lead down a very dangerous path that can happen to anyone who venture into those “parties”. it opens the door to health risk , violence and death.
Mr. Ettnes openness about his experience with chem sex opens the door for many comments, good or bad, respectively the truth in the events that took place that day only Mr. Ettnes and those that engaged along with on lookers know the facts. Rape is a crime, an unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against a person’s will. Mr. Ettnes was fortunate to survive the drug and attack, One can hope that Mr. Ettnes has come to terms, out of a horrific experience his is experience will help prevent others from going down a dangerous path
stanhope
Rape=wrong no matter what
Getting high at a chemsex party=stupid