As we approach Valentine’s Day, now seems as good a time as any to remind everyone to be kind and respectful to others online.
A Twitter user has prompted many comments after sharing a Grindr message he received. The man messaging him was inviting him over for sex. However, it was how the invitation was worded that has prompted raised eyebrows.
Danny Whitehead (@danielswhi) is based in Scunthorpe in England. On Sunday, the 35-year-old was hanging out with a friend in a hotel. They both received messages from the same guy on Grindr.
When Danny received a message, he responded, “Oh you were chatting to my friend I was staying with!! He showed me your photos!”
The message he received in return said, “Yeah I saw you on his Instagram page. You’re not really my type, I don’t like fat guys, but you’re nearby. I’m at the premier inn. Fancy a fuck?”
Excuse me while I go cry in the shower. And eat my body weight in chocolate. pic.twitter.com/6fPGXx0sEe
— Lord Dannyull! (@danielswhi) February 11, 2020
Danny was taken aback by the bluntness of the message. He went on to post, “It did get to me a bit. Ever since I was a kid I’ve had issues with my weight, but then last year I got on a health kick and lost 5 and a half stone [77lbs].
“So to have someone call me that brought back all my insecurities for a time… but I’m good now!”
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He says he didn’t reply to the message and instead blocked the person.
“What the hell is wrong with people?” wondered fellow Twitter user @leewelshman.
“This screams “I really don’t like myself” on his part,” offered @JDEdge. “Don’t feel devalued or somehow inferior because this person, whom likely has a warped sense of decency, sent you a shitty message on a hookup app. You’re fab, stay fab.”
“I’ve been Grindr free now for 2 months. Thank you for reminding me EXACTLY why I need to stay clear from that hell hole of an app. Honestly, it’s not worth your time man, Grindr is where all the ultra muscle masculine inside homophobic gays live. The app is like a drug,” said @KyngLeo98.
“That’s just wrong on so many levels… also clearly he has poor taste with his choice of hotel, so f**k him! Actually don’t that’s what he wants,” said @UrbanMaleUK.
Danny told Queerty he only joined Grindr last June. Before this he’d been in a long-term relationship with someone since the age of 17.
“This message was the first where someone has said something nasty, most people have been very complimentary – along with the odd random picture of genitalia that makes me laugh. I actually enjoy the app mainly, as it entertains me with some of the stuff people say.”
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Providing more background on the exchange, he said, “On Sunday my friend was working away in Nottingham and had a hotel, so I went over and we spent the night watching TV and drinking decaf tea (wild, I know!) and this guy started messaging him.
“He was really good looking and was trying to get my mate over to his room, and my mate said ‘No.’
“On Tuesday I woke up after night shift and the guy had messaged me asking if I had been at the hotel on Sunday because he recognized me from my mate’s Instagram. He sent a couple of photos of his face to which I replied [with the message in the Twitter image].
Talking about his weight loss and experiences on apps, Danny went on to say that as recently as August 2018, he weighed 18 stone [252 lbs]: “And for someone who is 5 foot 8, that’s way too much.
“I joined an inclusive rugby team in Hull near where I live, and that along with a proper diet helped my lose 5 and a half stone pretty quickly, and I’ve managed to keep that off mostly.
“When I was still that big, I wasn’t on the apps so I can’t say if my online experience would have changed. However, I know my confidence has grown massively since then and I am I big believer that personality and confidence are sexier than a great body.”
Chrisk
He called you fat. Oh noes. Lol
Harley
I was on Grindr for like 24 hours. I couldn’t delete that trash fast enough.
lord.krath
When will people realize there are at least as many assholes as there are humans on this earth?
Some one thinks something of you or calls you something, get over it and move on.
ShiningSex
Yeah but it’s tacky for someone to be like that. Just say “not my type” and leave at that. Why be a prick?
Paton41
I love people who claim they are looking for rough sex yet have a problem with toxic masculinity whatever that is?
Kangol2
The fat-shaming comment to the ginger guy was awful, so I hope he told the guy to go down on a fire hydrant or play on an expressway, but also, aren’t there lots of guys into gingers? And heavy-set and plus-sized men? I mean, whole communities? So I hope he picks himself up after that insult, and just scopes out things a bit more. He might be inundated with proposals from guys into guys who look like him.
Steve
I think this guy looks gorgeous
Atlantagent52
Me too. I think Danny looks sexy and adorable.
ShiningSex
Grindr is for guys wanting to take a chance on STDs.
It’s like glory holes, you know how really visits those places. If you don’t, then you’re too ignorant
to be putting others lives at risk.
Yes, you can get an STD with anyone you meet at a bar too. I get that, but a lot of these sites, apps, locations are riddled with such men. Sorry but I know a lot of men doing this and KNOW their status.
j41005
Danny Whitehead— you’re adorable! Come over to the USA and I’ll treat you to a nice (no-sexual) evening. Stay beautiful ?
innocentgay
1st of all, he’s obviously not fat and that guy was a jerk.
Now for the reason I actually logged in; there is NOTHING wrong with Premier Inn. Nice relaxing purple and white logo, cheap most of the time, clean, friendly staff up and down both England and Scotland, and practically anonymous, even if you eat their breakfast. As an American, that ticks all my boxes for a place to lay my head while on the go. Respect.
CurtisIsTheOne
I was on Grindr until one day when I received the following message: “I’m not really into old guys (I’m 34) but since there’s no one else available right now, I guess I could let you come by my hotel and blow me, but you’d have to leave right away)” I replied “With your charming personality, I think the only person qualified to be with you right now is YOU, so why don’t YOU DO YOU and I’ll take care of myself. Toodles”. [DELETE APP}.
batesmotel
Grindr is a place to get diseases. Can’t tell you many gay guys I’ve spoke to that got something from someone they met on Grindr. It’s typically filled with the shallow and the irresponsible. It’s like the penny saver for d***.
DFW
THIS is news, or of interest to any lgbt+ person.
Lazy.
sillyme
I’ve had a few reservations about using that app from the day I heard about it and will not put that even on a computer and go for it and I’ve read a lot of reviews about Grindr and to many say it sucks to be nice. Danny is handsome as is and I believe he was still handsome before the weight loss and such, it’s not about what you see It’s about what’s on the inside that will make a person truly handsome, I’m glad he dropped that app so quickly. I would have told that MF’er to take a long hike off a short cliff for saying that to me, I’m glad Danny is doing good for nobody needs to hear that crap from a stranger male or female that doesn’t know what or who they are. Go Danny!!!!!