Shades of gray

Will 2018 be the year graysexuals finally go mainstream?

The term “graysexual” has been buzzing around the Internet since about 2011, but it wasn’t until 2016 that it really began picking up steam. Since then, more and more people have adopted the ambiguous sexual identity.

Urban Dictionary defines the term “graysexual” as:

Sometimes having sexual attraction and/or feelings, but usually not. Generally asexual but perhaps capable of sexual desire under certain conditions.

To help illustrate the point, it offers the following example:

“Look at all of these hot chicks!”
“Eh.”
“Dude, are you gay?”
“Nah, I’m graysexual. I can see that there are plenty of hot chicks here, but that doesn’t mean I want to have sex with any of them.”

Related: Asexuals talk about the woes of living in an overly-sexualized society

Basically, the term is used to describe that gray area between people who are sexual and people who aren’t. Graysexuals enjoy sexy time on rare occasion. Most of the time, however, they want to be left alone.

Graysexuality tends to get lumped under the asexuality umbrella, though technically it’s its own thing.

Here’s a 60-second documentary featuring a 25-year-old man named Jared explaining what graysexuality means to him:


Of course, there are still lots of naysayers out there who refuse to accept graysexuality as a valid sexual identity. We suspect they’re the same people who don’t believe in bisexuality either.

So there you have it, folks. Graysexuality in a nutshell. Oh, and speaking of shells, with more and more of graysexuals coming out of theirs, does this mean 2018 be the year they finally go mainstream?

Gray is a lovely color, after all.

Related: Aromantics say they aren’t cold and heartless, they’re just not that into you (or anyone)