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Reese Rideout Is Straight, Married, And Gay-Por-Pay Strictly For The Cash

“I love the fact that my husband has a beautiful body and people want to see it,” says Becki. She is married to a porn star. Of the gay-for-pay variety. Fans know him as Reese Rideout, but his real name (or his real pseudonym) is Nicholas Dent. And getting so comfortable with her husband sleeping with anyone, let alone men, was a long journey.

“I don’t watch any of his videos because I’d feel strange seeing him touching anyone but me,” Becki tells British Marie Claire. “But I’m comfortable with him doing something he’s so good at. He’s just been nominated for porn star of the year. Finally, I’m proud of that.”

So often we hear about the personal lives of gay and gay-for-pay porn stars (thanks to the Twitter streams of folks like Brent Corrigan). But what about the women in these guys’ lives? Writing for the magazine in the first-person, Becki, who lives in Los Angeles with Dent, shares her courtship with her now-husband (the piece is titled “My Husband Is A Porn Star”); the struggle she had coming to terms with his porn career (it began with women, and Dent kept it a secret at first, supposedly to help pay for their house); and why she’s more comfortable with him having sex on camera with men than women:

Straight porn only pays men $300 a scene, but gay porn pays up to five times as much. I don’t care what people think. Reece isn’t gay and I’m just happy he isn’t filming with other women. When Reece is away, I go for a run or meet up with friends. I remind myself he doesn’t know the model’s real name, there’s no sexual chemistry, they’re just acting and it’s me he comes home to. He always wears a condom and gets checked every six weeks, so I don’t worry about STDs.

Meanwhile, as Dent — the burgeoning music video star — says in his own words,

[T]he first time I had sex on camera, it was awful. For a start, I felt guilty about Becki. But we were also a bunch of amateur actors in a hotel room worrying about getting caught. … When I’ve had sex with women, I’ve felt guilty afterwards. It’s ebcause of Becki that I’ve switched to gay porn. Now I can have sex at work without thinking about the other person because I’m genuinely straight. The first time I shot a scene with another man, it was oral sex, and I couldn’t keep it up because I wasn’t turned on. Now I watch footage of women or think about Beckie while I’m filming. Working in gay porn is better all around. I get paid more and treated with respect.

And if Becki one day decided she was tired of her husband screwing dudes? “If she asked me to, I would give it up tomorrow, but for now I’m making good money for our future, and what I’ve earned has given me the freedom to start working toward a movie production company of my own.” Never say porn stars aren’t ambitious.

[via BoyCulture]

By:           Max Simon
On:           Jan 25, 2011
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  • 112 Comments
    • No. 1 · aleX Perez

      Oh u guys give me a break!!!And now more and more desperated straight couples can reach their dream goals becoming gayporn stars while living together!!!! I’m about to cry of joy!

      Jan 25, 2011 at 12:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 2 · aleX Perez

      Oh u guys give me a break!!!And now more and more desperated straight couples can reach their dreamed goals becoming gayporn stars while living together!!!! I’m about to cry of joy!

      Jan 25, 2011 at 12:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 3 · Andy

      And he can’t be bi? Why do these sort of articles always present some dichotomy?

      Given that gay men, on average, show gender-atypical traits, why is surprising that a man attracted to feminine women would be attracted to feminine men?

      Jan 25, 2011 at 12:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 4 · meego

      This is the biggest pile of horseshit I’ve ever read! Sure he’s straight. And I’m Santa Claus! Puh-lease!

      Jan 25, 2011 at 12:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 5 · Austin

      Ever seen his scenes? They do not pair him with fem guys.
      Everything he’s done at RandyBlue has been with muscle studs.
      Sure fooled me…..he’s a very enthusiastic….performer.
      Hope he has some savings stashed….he’s over exposed now.
      Been in way too many scenes to keep it fresh.
      About the time you’re declared “star of the year” you’re
      usually on your way out, or down to the lower ranks of bareback
      and wierd fettish stuff.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 12:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 6 · Rick Gold

      LOVE IT!!!!

      Jan 25, 2011 at 1:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 7 · Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England)

      @Rick Gold:

      Yes, aren’t straight men who get paid to sleep with gay me so HOT. NOT.

      It’s like straight girls kissing, soooooo boring but gays guys are self hating so no surprises it’s the only industry that actually CREATES that image successfully. No wonder people go on record aka Christians to say ‘no one wants to be gay’.

      They are obviously right since gay guys find other gay men so repulsive to look at during sex.

      Weird.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 1:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 8 · Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England)

      @Austin:

      Yeah he is enthusiastic! Just like slave owners used LOVE impregnating those black female slaves.

      Just like some men love sexual harassing women who work for them. Just as some men love to f*ck their secretary’s.

      Power is an aphrodisiac y’all. Always has been and always will be for egotistical men or women.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 1:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 9 · American Patriot

      This is what happens with straight or “gay-for-pay” guys in the adult industry & a lot of “bi” guys in general. They use gay guys for sex (and/or money), but when it comes to a committed relationship or building a family with a man? They say “ewww”….and go for a woman for that. Even though they’re doing gay porn, it can come across as being ironically homophobic.

      This whole market for “gay-for-pay” is generated by us gay guys who, at best, find straight men to be alluring, and at worst, somehow see straight men as being superior to ourselves.

      It would be better if these “gay-for-pay” guys called themselves “masculine”, etc, and left out mentioning their “straightness”. Besides you can’t say that you’re 100% straight when you regularly bottom for other men, and enjoy it.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 1:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 10 · Harbo

      Sure he’s straight. Believe it, babby. He’s been at it troo long. Shouldn’t be longbefore before he’s on the bottom.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 1:32 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 11 · Dawson

      Well this is good to know. I don’t need to have to give him my gay dollars.

      I have never bought the idea that anyone could truly call themselves straight and appear in gay porn. Even if you are watching straight movies for help. It is hard to watch a movie with a dick in your month. PLEASSSSSE.

      Could most of us really get off having sex with women? Yet you can get off if there is a dollar sign in front of you.

      Most people have bi-interest. Can’t he just be like the Bel-ami boys who say that they are just sexual and leave it like that?

      But since he wants to make money off of the gay community but so unturned off by men he has lost any hope of many of us giving him our gay dollars. Reese/Nick find someone else to profit off of.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 1:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 12 · GetBalance

      How in the world can Reese think about his wife when he has a flag pole up his ass and is riding it like a rodeo star? Unless she straps on and goes to town on him, he’s at the very least bi.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 1:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 13 · Carl Marek

      Knowing that he doesn’t get turned on *filming* his scenes means that I will not be turned on *watching* his scenes. I don’t understand these queens who want to watch straight guys having sex. Personally, I want to watch people having sex who are into what they’re doing.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 1:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 14 · Marcus

      Well, I wonder if he’s sexing up the men off camera for free like some other “straight” gay porn stars I know…

      Jan 25, 2011 at 1:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 15 · scott ny'er

      His wife is deluded if she’s thinks condoms protect him and her from all STDs.

      I also think it’s interesting how it’s not considered cheating if it’s with a guy. Because, it’s just a physical act, there’s no real attraction. But if Reese had sex with a female prostitute or just wanted to get off with a woman, isn’t that the same thing? It’s just a physical act. The only difference is the gender.

      Hey, whatever gets you through the day. Or marriage.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 2:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 16 · Zeus

      It’s still weird. The End.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 2:34 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 17 · Lucas

      This is why I appreciate the Queerty commentariat. Every other site is praising this fraud and his self-loathing (que)enablers as forward thinking messiahs.

      You guys just call ‘em on their shit. Good deal.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 2:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 18 · PopSnap

      I love having bi guys as friends, but I agree with whoever said the somewhat harsh statement of “bi guys use gay men for sex/money and women for love, family, & serious relationships”. I wasted two years of my life chasing after a bi guy who used me for sex for a while and then eventually became engaged to one of my best (girl) friends. It was one of the toughest ordeals of my life, but it taught me never to trust a bi guy because he will ALWAYS chose a woman over a man.

      ALWAYS.

      it’s simply easier that way. I told myself he’d fall in love with me eventually, that he’d come around and realize he’s actually gay, ect. never happened. Same thing with another friend of mine who was used by a bi guy for secret sex, and then said bi guy dated girls & is now married with a kid on the way.

      I mean, sorry if it offends anyone, but gays who know bi guys KNOW that this is 100% true.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 3:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 19 · Spike

      To bad they don’t have a daughter together, just imagine “Take Your Daughter To Work Day.”

      Jan 25, 2011 at 3:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 20 · lone star

      Say what you will, I enjoy watching this guy because he always seems to be having so much fun in his videos. Not like the other straight guys who act like they’ve got a gun to their heads.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 3:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 21 · Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England)

      @Lucas:

      What kind of sites are you reading?
      @scott ny’er:

      I’m not judging their marriage and hate, HATE how some gay commenters ALWAYS have to throw it back to them that they are actually gay as if it’s such an insult. It’s like when they call Chris Barron Ms….it’s like what are you on? Why would you want this idiot Rideout on your side?

      Can’t you see that when straight people see this-like countless fitness of mine and when I speak to family friends-they think gays have such a low opinion of themselves because they must be the low of the low.

      Yeah, blacks and gays have different histories but if a porn star that was an interracial fetish came out and said ‘ yeah, and the first time I had to sleep with a black woman/man, my d*ck just couldn’t get it up’ and his blonde girly was like ‘I know he wants me because he would never be attracted to a black woman/man’ etc etc

      FYI, I have heard people say this ALL the time in dating sites but they’d never have the balls to say it in the real world.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 3:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 22 · Swine

      I hate this gay-for-pay bullshit cuz it puts it out there that being gay is something u can switch on & off. U can’t! Hear that gay-for-payers? Ur all full of bullshit! U too Ted Haggard! The wife should watch his vids to see the look of joy on his face when he’s suckin’ a dick or getting rammed. That ain’t acting, hun. Wifey is in denial bout being married to a gay (or possibly bisexual) man & he’s too skeered to admit he could be gay or maybe he’s using this as a gimmick to keep his porn career going. He’s cute & he’s got a nice body but he’s easily replaceable. Buh-bye to this asshole. Let’s please boycott the gay-for-payers please!

      Jan 25, 2011 at 3:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 23 · Nathan

      @PopSnap: A few guys to generalize a large, diverse group? You’re just like the conservatives who use a couple of bad apples to typecast the entire LGBT community. Two years after a guy who only wanted sex? You’re pathetic and desperate, or else exaggerating in a peabrained attempt to justify your bigotry.

      @Lucas: If he’s happy with his life the way it is, and his wife is happy the way it is, why do you have a problem with it? He can be straight and get into gay sex, it’s called acting.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 3:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 24 · Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England)

      @lone star:

      Dude, we realise that there is no such thing as the gay community. Many lacks we’re for the Klan, don’t worry, everyone gets people like you that can’t bear to even get off with someone who may be gay.

      Right. Understood. We’re disgusting which is why gay for pay stars make so much money. Loud and clear.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 3:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 25 · Galaxy

      ….zzzzzzzzz……

      Jan 25, 2011 at 3:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 26 · Nathan

      @Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England): Just because he enjoys watching a straight dude have sex doesn’t mean he thinks gays are disgusting, project much?

      Jan 25, 2011 at 4:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 27 · Jeffree

      Maybe it’s just me, but as a guy who’s like 95+% gay there’s NO way I could ever do straight porn no matter how much my BF begged me to! [He's in the same % category as I am]. That’s not a moral thing, just a question of inability 2 “make it work” with a woman. Or women.

      So…. group question: Would any one else switch teams for pay?

      Jan 25, 2011 at 4:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 28 · afrolito · Member · 1241 comments

      Anyone who believes this queen is straight has obviously never seen any of his “films”, or is just delusional. He even said on his twitter that most of the interview was completely made up by the writer.

      In any case this dude has sucked more cock, and been fucked more than I have in my entire adult life. Real actors were nominated for their talents this morning, so please don’t lump them in in with this small dicked muscle queen.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 4:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 29 · Swine

      Nathan u poor deluded thing — no hun — u are not straight if u get into gay sex. Maybe bisexual. Unless u want to add Reese to the Oscar noms?

      Jan 25, 2011 at 4:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 30 · bb

      All “gays for pays” should get an Oscar for their performances. They really good pretend to enjoy gay sex.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 4:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 31 · Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England)

      @Nathan:

      Hmm, how am I projecting? I think gay guys are HOT and I’ve never ever fallen for a straight guy but I think that’s because even if I watch porn, I like to see an aura of really truly going for it, not some mechanical weird dude who would rather be with s girlfriend.

      I find men who like men sexy. I don’t find men who like women sexy at ALL.

      I don’t see how I am projecting.

      That guy HATES himself that he sits there eagerly dialing in his card number for this cold kind of sex cr*p and actualy gets a kick that these people think he is so physically repulsive that they are only doing this because of cash.

      That’s sad.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 4:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 32 · Swine

      Maybe Reese shoulda gotten a Golden Globe (or 2) — sorry, couldn’t resist . . .

      Jan 25, 2011 at 4:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 33 · Cam

      His wife is fooling herself. Most of these porn stars use their movies as their calling cards for the real money making career, hooking.

      If it’s paying their bills fine, but from her statement it doesn’t sound like she’s working and if he is making house payments etc… then he isn’t just doing it off of a few gay porn scenes a month.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 4:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 34 · Nathan

      @Swine: If you aren’t attracted to the guy you are straight, even if you enjoy the sex, though that is just personal semantics.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 4:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 35 · Lucas

      @Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England): Read the comments at Boy culture that’s hyperlinked here. Like a few of the self-loathing tools here, most of them are part of the hive mind that’s essentially says “…But OMG he’s hot!!!”

      And you’re absolutely right, put this interview in the context of race and members of that race would have nothing to do with this guy and his backers.

      A gay guy I know was just trying to convince me how his friends love him even though he can never talk about his relationships with them like they can with him and “they make fag jokes a lot but it’s ok.”

      We are truly lost.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 5:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 36 · John

      @Lucas: Not really. 20-30 years ago that gay guy you know would have been ostracized or worse by his male straight friends for even being gay. We are not where I’d like us to be but things have come so much farther than I ever imagined over my lifetime and I hope the next generation has it even better.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 5:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 37 · jason

      A lot of you criticize Reese Rideout but how come you haven’t criticized the women who make out with women in so-called straight porn movies? These women are paid to make out with women even though they may not be attracted to women. Where is your criticism of them? Or are you too afraid to criticize women because of your pro-female political correctness?

      And to those who rely on porn for their jollies, all I can say is “you are so tragic”. For fuck’s sake, get out into the real world. Go and experience sex. Watching it is dull and stupid. It shows that you’re dysfunctional and unsociable.

      At the end of the day, keep in mind that porn performers are not there to make you happy. They’re in it for the cash – the ka-ching thing.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 5:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 38 · John

      @Nathan: I can see how a straight man could enjoy receiving oral sex from another guy and perhaps even being on the pitching end of anal sex. Yet I cannot understand how a supposedly straight man could repeatedly give oral sex and play catcher for anal sex without being a least a little bi. A couple of times for money, perhaps, but numerous times with several different guys? No, I don’t see how that’s possible.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 5:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 39 · John [Different person #1 using similar name]

      Considering women have sex with women in porn all the time and don’t label themselves as LESBIANS or BISEXUALS, why can’t this man label himself straight.

      If money and attention are all that make sex with men enjoy for him, then he is definitely not gay.

      Why do gay men think they are an authority over other’s sexuality?

      Jan 25, 2011 at 5:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 40 · Lucas

      @John: If I made $1000 annually for 10 years, then started making $150 annually for 10 years, all this means is I’ve been homeless for 20 years. It’s hard to call that progress.

      To be less cynical, yeah things have gotten drastically better.

      In comparison to 30 fucking years ago.

      In 2011 there is no excuse for the apologetic attitudes our straight allies have, let alone gay people ourselves. Jewish and black people put a stop on the whole quisling thing (for the most part) much, much quicker than we have and as someone in his mid-20s who would at least like to see his people grow some balls before I get older and even more jaded, it’s incredibly disheartening.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 6:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 41 · Lucas

      $1500***

      Typo.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 6:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 42 · Mika

      It’s PORN. It’s not real.
      They are all performing for the viewers. Its not real sex, it’s porn sex.

      It is no more or less “real” in terms of emotions than non porn actors pretending to have sex on screen.

      They are acting in adult films. Who knows how much viagra and whatever else some of these boys have to take to do their scenes in straight AND gay porn. It’s not just gay for pay guys who need “aids” to get through scenes.

      I don’t understand why someone has to be gay to be a good gay porn performer. If they are skilled at performing a sex act and convincing on screen, that’s all they need. How they actually feel (or with whom they are having sex off scree) is irrelevant.

      It’s like saying Pachino has to be an actual bank robber or Columbian drug lord in order to be convincing on screen.

      Do people not get the concept of PERFORMANCE?

      A porn film actor’s job is to convince the viewers that they LOVE it, they are into it and they are experiencing the BEST SEX EVER.

      That’s what they are paid to do (regardless of genre or sexual orientation)

      Unless you’re actually on the set, you have NO IDEA what has gone into making the final scene look so convincing.

      PLEASE. People can and do a LOT harder things than pretend to enjoy having sex for money.

      As for his wife, maybe she simply doesn’t get jealous because she doesn’t see her husband have sex with men on screen, for work, as a threat to their relationship or marriage. She obviously isn’t intimidated or insecure and wants him to do something he is good and and that makes him happy.

      There is an overwhelming number of lesbians who do sex work (doming, stripping, even hooking) and they find it much easier to be good at their job because there is a built in distance for them because they have no sexual desire for their clients.

      Obviously Reese is a good performer (and seems funny, sweet and personable in his videos) so why does it matter if he is straight?

      Jan 25, 2011 at 6:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 43 · Ian

      It’s always FAR more of a turn-on for me when the porn actor in question openly and proudly states he is gay and loves to take & give DICK. I always roll my eyes at the constant “he’s str8 but experimental & starting to enjoy it” memos on so many amateur sites, it’s pathetic. I love me my GAY men and dont’ see straight guys as superior sexually in the least.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 6:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 44 · justiceontherocks

      Two rules about married guys who do gay porn: (1) they are always big bottoms, and (2) they always sound more effeminate than that kid on Glee.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 7:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 45 · jason

      Ian,

      Do you think a porn actor is going to be thinking “oh, I hope I’m making Ian happy” when he’s shooting a sex scene? Give me a break, Mac.

      Porn actors don’t give a rat’s about you, the viewer. All they care about is that they get their dues paid into their bank account. It’s all about the money, honey.

      I would highly recommend that you stop basing your turn-ons and happiness on what some sleazy porn actor is doing in front of a camera. Be your own “porn actor”. Go out and actually experience the thrills of sexuality.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 7:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 46 · Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England)

      @Lucas:

      Exactly.. I just watch….

      Jan 25, 2011 at 7:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 47 · Max Campbell

      Stop using the “gay-for-pay” term! Why no one calls hetero-porn actresses “bisexual-women-for-pay”? Most of the guys are bi-curious! Sex with another man does not automatically make a man gay or bisexual. This should be seen as routine. In ?ntiquity all the guys were bi and there was no homophobia.
      There is only one reason for homophobia – the taboo on male homoerotism and male bisexuality. ?he porn industry cultivates this taboo thus the guys are forced to replace their bisexual potential with homophobia. This is a huge problem. This is the reason for rejection of gay men and male homosexual behavior. We have to pay close attention to the problem!

      Jan 25, 2011 at 7:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 48 · Francis

      Just for the record, Reese said himself that basically they made up the entire article. So, take that for what it is.

      Anyway, as for gay-for-pay, most of the men aren’t really straight, or aren’t straight afterward. It’s a marketing gimmick, and an effective one. With THAT said, most people are not 100% gay or straight. So putting him in a box of “he can only be gay!” is also wrong. He very well could be mostly straight. Only he knows. Sex isn’t the same as sexuality. And porn isn’t really real sex.

      Also, blaming the porn industry is missing the issue. The issue isn’t the porn industry. The issue is that a large portion of gay men find straight men more interesting as mates, sexually, and even many times emotionally, than other gay men. The porn industry knows this and uses this. Falling for someone who isn’t into men in the way you are, and who you only know from a porn video, isn’t healthy.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 9:49 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 49 · Ian

      @jason: Oh well EXCUSE me PRINCESS, but you can just **** off if you think you know me in the slightest, which you don’t. Frankly, you come across as seriously ignorant of how the str8 label on the actors in gay porn as perpetuated by the directors of the sites can in fact effect self-esteem of gay men and what they think should be the desirable norm, which in turn affects our community as a whole. Try educating yourself BEFORE making generalized statements w/out knowing all the facts. Cheers~

      Jan 25, 2011 at 9:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 50 · jason

      Ian,

      Well, personally, I don’t build my self-esteem on the images I see in porn. I can see how some might but I’m here to tell you “don’t”. Don’t let the pimps and prostitutes of porn control your self-esteem. Your self-esteem should be built on yourself and the interactions you make in the real world, not the voyeuristic world of porn.

      Again, you need to remember that porn isn’t made to make you happy. I can understand that it MIGHT make you happy but that is not the motivation of the pornographers. The pornographers are in it for the money, period.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 10:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 51 · so,,,

      Is it Reece or Reese?

      And if his real name is Nicholas, why does his wife refer to him by his porn star name?

      Jan 25, 2011 at 10:10 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 52 · Francis

      It’s ReeSe.

      I’ll repeat: Reese said that MOST OF THE ARTICLE IS MADE UP. These people are characters, so what they say doesn’t carry much weight. Everything is manufactured to gain appeal from fans and those interested in these porn actors and actresses.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 10:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 53 · Ian

      @jason: Seriously, did you even bother to read my first comment (42)? Because what I said in (48) stands, you make comments w/out understanding what people actually said. I never said I get my self-esteem from porn or that it exists to make me happy, those are YOUR inferences, NOT what I actually said or talked about.

      All I was originally talking about is that I prefer whether porn actors or celebrities or news anchors, that I prefer men who are OUT & PROUD about it, closet cases and rejoicing in them I think is pathetic and sad.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 10:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 54 · alan brickman

      BRING BACK MORING GOODS…no wonder the haters are frustrated…

      Jan 25, 2011 at 11:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 55 · Robbie K · Member · 101 comments

      Becki with an i looks like a lovely happy housewife who according to her enjoys long runs while her husband is off sucking cock and meeting up with friends likely chatting around the benefits of prozac and how denial is the new black.

      Jan 25, 2011 at 11:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 56 · Ian

      @Robbie K: LOFL :)

      Jan 25, 2011 at 11:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 57 · Swine

      So how many dicks do u have to suck on till u officially go from gay-for-pay to just plain ole gay? Hmmm, u can suck 10 billion dicks like Reese, but if ur just not attracted to any of the guys possessing those dicks then ur still straight. Whew, guess Reese’s wife has nothing to worry bout cuz she’s married to ur average ordinary straight man who just happens to suck 10 billion dicks a day & gets fucked by thousands of men ONLY cuz he’s paid to. Ah, life is sweet, life is good . . . .

      Jan 26, 2011 at 2:05 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 58 · prohomo

      @Swine: LOL!!!

      Jan 26, 2011 at 2:57 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 59 · redball

      I’m gay as the day is long but if someone paid me good money to lick a pussy or get sucked by a woman…. :)

      Funny that some folks are so intent on bringing (sexual) politics into the bedroom. If it’s passionate porn that gets me hot, ’nuff said.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 3:02 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 60 · Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England)

      @Swine:

      Yes it is good when you are paid that much because gay men are so pathetic that theybfind you more attractive because you are straight in porn!
      @Francis:

      How do you know?

      Jan 26, 2011 at 5:39 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 61 · exception!

      ironically enough, the original Marie Claire article was not published to exploit gay men’s fascination with straight guys, but to exploit straight women’s fascination with gay guys.

      Just the other day I read an interview with Arpad Miklos, I thought he was “gay for pay” and he’s actually openly gay gay gay. Which makes him even hotter if that’s possible.

      Arpad FTW!

      Jan 26, 2011 at 5:41 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 62 · GeriHew · Member · 85 comments

      @exception!: Arpad Miklos has done “straight-for-pay” and got a lot of flack for it. He certainly appeared to enjoy the scenes he did with women. And he didn’t say he didn’t enjoy them.

      The problem I see with “gay-for-pay” and “straight-for-pay” in porn is that it encourages so much biphobia.

      A lot of porn performers don’t just do porn for money, they are also doing it to explore their sexuality – and getting paid for it is a good excuse to try sexual activities that you can claim you wouldn’t try in “real life”. And a person’s sexual identity can change as a result of working in porn. Consider this quote from one of the first g4p porn stars, Joe Dallesandro:

      “I consider myself bisexual. It wasn’t that I was sexually attracted to men per se, but you know, if you do something for awhile you can acquire a taste for it.”

      Veteran bisexual porn star Nina Hartley advises people coming into the industry not to do anything in porn that they wouldn’t try at home.

      Female porn stars who do a lot of girl-girl or only lesbian scenes are very ill advised to call themselves gay-for-pay and they hardly ever do. Even if they do consider themselves straight it’s much better to say something like “I’m bisexual but I prefer men” than to say they’re gay-for-pay. The core audience for lesbian porn just doesn’t want to know about girls who only do girls for cash. There are some lesbian studios now who won’t hire women who don’t identify as bisexual or lesbian or queer.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 8:11 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 63 · hephaestion

      I’m gay as blazes and I’ve had sex with women many times (by visualizing my boyfriend during sex). One woman said I was the best sexual partner she ever had. She had no idea I was gay.

      So why can’t Reese Rideout do the same?

      I can’t believe these silly people saying he can’t possibly be straight. Of course he can.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 9:30 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 64 · TheInsider

      Let´s just boycott this trashy couple and give our dollars to gay guys.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 10:39 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 65 · Max Campbell

      Most of the guys are bi-curious! Sex with another man does not automatically make a man gay or bisexual. Also bicurious guys can enjoy gay-sex!

      Jan 26, 2011 at 11:55 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 66 · Max Campbell

      62 – you’re cretin.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 11:57 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 67 · justiceontherocks

      @hephaestion: No. You are bi-sexual. You have sex with both genders.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 12:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 68 · Francis

      @Right Wingers Are Socioptahs (John From England): He said so.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 12:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 69 · David in Houston · Member · 70 comments

      Both of the photos above scream “gay” to me. I don’t find him the least bit masculine.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 4:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 70 · Goodnight Moon · Member · 33 comments

      for a str8 guy he sucks a mean cock

      Jan 26, 2011 at 5:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 71 · GeriHew · Member · 85 comments

      @hephaestion: Well “gay” doesn’t always have to mean homosexual does it? But if you are trying to say you are not bisexual you are homosexual then what is your motivation for having sex with women as you say: “many times”?

      Jan 26, 2011 at 6:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 72 · kae

      A “genuinely straight guy” (as he calls himself) would do almost anything other than sleep with a guy to make money. It turns them OFF! He just would not contemplate it. Ask any of your straight friends. As a matter of FACT, this guy is bisexual whatever he likes to call himself.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 6:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 73 · afrolito · Member · 1241 comments

      @hephaestion: “I’m gay as blazes and I’ve had sex with women many times (by visualizing my boyfriend during sex). One woman said I was the best sexual partner she ever had. She had no idea I was gay.”

      Um…Why would you be having sex with women repeatedly, if you’re gay? Why would you be having sex with women, if you have to visualize your boyfriend? Why are you having sex with women, if you have a boyfriend in the first place? Does your boyfriend know you’re having sex with women?

      Jan 26, 2011 at 8:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 74 · i_dunno_but...

      @Carl Marek: absolutely agree… it does NOTHING for me to see a “straight” man having mechanical sex with another. Way too much porn is just that – mechanical sex – and as a result is BORING beyond belief. I don’t need an academy-award-worthy plot, but a little “passion” or affection and appreciation between the participants makes for hot sex. I can usually tell if it’s gay-for-pay and that’s when the ‘model’ gets crossed off my interest list.period.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 11:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 75 · Jon

      @PopSnap: Completely agree, bi guys CANNOT be trusted. If a man tells you he likes women, HE DOES NOT WANT YOU. I found this out from experience because mine cheated on me for 7 months near the end of a 7-year relationship and is married now; has kids and is undoubtedly still cheating on his wife.

      Jan 26, 2011 at 11:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 76 · Aaron in Honolulu

      Why can’t many just take their story as it is. Why should I question them? Do they owe everyone an explanation? Who cares?

      Jan 27, 2011 at 1:52 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 77 · Corvidae

      @Andy: He said he was straight, and acknowledged it was because he’s not turned on by bed.
      He hasn’t trampled on bi identity because he would be saying he was straight while he finds gay porn really hot or something of that ilk.
      Let it go, already!
      Ps. I am also bi and am getting tired of how aggressive bi people are on this forum.

      Jan 27, 2011 at 2:10 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 78 · Corvidae

      @Andy: He said he was straight, and acknowledged it was because he’s not turned on by guys.
      He hasn’t trampled on bi identity because he would be saying he was straight while he finds gay porn really hot or something of that ilk.
      Let it go, already!
      Ps. I am also bi and am getting tired of how aggressive bi people are on this forum.

      Jan 27, 2011 at 2:10 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 79 · Swine

      Well, since Reese gives such awesome-lookin’ blow jobs, I guess we should all be lookin’ for “straight” guys to have sex with. Oh yeah good luck w/that . . .

      Jan 27, 2011 at 4:28 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 80 · Jay

      Somewhere Pastor Ted Haggard and ex-douchebag Senator LArry Craig are saying “why didn’t I think of that excuse?”

      Jan 27, 2011 at 11:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 81 · Jay [Different person #1 using similar name]

      Beautiful Mag Asked reese: The whole Man Of The Year election got extra attention when people start to complain about the fact you aren’t gay. Can you comment on that?

      Reese: Everyone has a little gay inside of them. I’ve been doing this work for a while now. I’ve worked with guys who had never done anything with a guy to the gayest and I feel that a little right was earned to be able to say everyone has a little gay inside of them. I am just a sexual person and everyone has a libido and a sweet spot. Ya know I was brought into this industry by gay men and if it was not me, it would have been a different straight guy. Some gay men have a thing for straight guys just like us straight guys have a thing for lesbians (hot!). I’ve had a dick in my ass and my dick in too many to count guys asses… how much more do I need to do to be accepted? Beautifulmag THE END

      Jan 28, 2011 at 6:16 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 82 · GetBalance

      Come on you big silly pack of geese. This is all a marketing ploy. Every gay guy wants the hot straight guy, minus a few turkeys. Whatever he is he’s brilliant In his marketing.

      Jan 28, 2011 at 8:06 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 83 · GeriHew · Member · 85 comments

      @Jay: how much more does he need to do to be accepted?

      He could stop saying stupid shit like “Everyone has a little gay inside of them.” and just try identifying as bisexual. That might help.

      And most straight guys don’t have a thing for lesbians at all. They have a thing for femme bisexual women and girl-on-girl action. They’re not being serious when they refer to bisexual women as lesbians and neither is Reese.

      Jan 28, 2011 at 8:07 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 84 · GetBalance

      Like gay guys like watching gay sex and could care less about labels, same w straight guys who just wanna see 2 girls fuck around. Lesbian bisexual call it what you want, it turns straight guys on no matter what.

      Jan 28, 2011 at 8:31 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 85 · GeriHew · Member · 85 comments

      @GetBalance: Reese is clearly happy to use the term “lesbians” somewhat loosely and therefore I conclude he uses the term “straight” somewhat loosely when describing himself.

      Jan 29, 2011 at 9:21 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 86 · justiceontherocks

      Why does anyone give a rat’s behind what a porn performer says about anything. In a couple of years he’ll be too old to film or escort and the family will be on public assistance.

      If he wants to delude himself fine.

      Jan 29, 2011 at 11:06 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 87 · Jay [Different person #1 using similar name]

      @GeriHew I agree 100% he sounds so stupid. hes bi point blank he can play that coy shit all he wants. but like what someone else said does it matter? his wife is perfectly content on being in denial let her deal with that

      Jan 30, 2011 at 2:07 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 88 · Travis

      I guess I’m the ONLY gay guy here who BELIEVES HE IS STRAIGHT. He is a great actor.

      Question: WHY DO GAY MEN LOVE PEGGING ALL STRAIGHT GUYS AS GAY!? Please. He’s a great actor COUPLED with GREAT EDITING. You guys DO NOT KNOW HOW LONG IT TAKES FOR THESE MODELS TO REACH THE MONEY SHOT.

      Feb 1, 2011 at 6:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 89 · GetBalance

      this is the first time I’ve ever actually seen blond hair stick out of a comment.

      Feb 1, 2011 at 6:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 90 · justiceontherocks

      @Travis: A great actor????? No, no. He’s a bad actor even for porn, which is a pretty low standard. My cat could read lines better.

      Feb 1, 2011 at 7:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 91 · Nate

      @Jay:
      hey if he wont admit it to himself then why not let him be “strait” and just be doing gay porn? sexuality is a complicated thing and is not within the boundaries of gay strait or bi.

      and hey justice & getbalance
      i didn’t know you guys still came here! whats up?

      Feb 1, 2011 at 7:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 92 · justnow

      @Austin: Woe peoples career is that short….. entertainment industry……

      Feb 1, 2011 at 7:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 93 · justnow

      @Carl Marek: and like it!

      Feb 1, 2011 at 8:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 94 · GeriHew · Member · 85 comments

      @Travis: PEGGING? I was wondering if Reese is a bend over boyfriend for wifey too.

      Feb 1, 2011 at 8:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 95 · justnow

      @justiceontherocks: maybe not #2, bu mainly #1!!!!

      Feb 1, 2011 at 9:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 96 · Andre

      DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH CUM I’VE LOST TO HIM!!?!

      Feb 16, 2011 at 1:16 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 97 · Bryan

      What I find more pathetic is gays obsession with letting straight guys explore their gay side? Why is it such a turn on?

      Feb 26, 2011 at 4:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 98 · ajar

      @PopSnap:

      AMEN i am gay and i say it all the time, one of the biggest things u should always ask ur potential friend mind u a ‘boyfriend’…innocently just go

      Have you ever felt you are bi , and make sure u ask it in a coniving open friendly way, cause if hes bi, HE IS NOT UR BOYFRIEND, and, think twice about him being ur friend, cause I’ve had it up to THEEEEEEEEEEEEERE!!! (loook way way way up), with Bi guys and there messed up lies….

      I do think they can’t help it…., sorry stereotype, but for real…

      And this gay for pay thing is driving me nuts, most porn clips nowadays are that way…..there is even ‘porn’ with a bunch of STRAIGHT guys not having sex, and just bathing each other talking about gym and how awkward it is doing a gay porn movie when ur straight…I mean if there is any gay who finds this hot…i pity you to the extent that i hate YOU! how can u be so pathetic.

      May 27, 2011 at 5:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 99 · ajar

      @Travis:
      Travis I PITY U!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      who gives a shit how long it takes, thats so sickening to see people justifying dishonesty and disgusting qualities, with defending them with how dedicated they are….how Dedicated is a mass murderer…or a peodophille, ud be surprised how dedicated they are actually…

      bleh makes me consider why homosexuality is indeed a sin! coz lots of gays are just suckers and emotionally MESSED UP!…and im at the top of that list…And so r u!

      May 27, 2011 at 5:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 100 · Joe

      He is straight. What a waste of a perfectly good hunk of man.

      Jun 5, 2011 at 12:58 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 101 · Warren Keith

      I’m not certain about alot of things, but not my sexuality. I’m gay period! It disgusts me that some people are making money off of pretending to be gay, when in actuality they are straight. There is still such a stigma associated with being a homosexual. We, gays, have to live with that stigma day in and day out. These porn actors can be gay on screen without having to live with the stigma of actually being gay. What a way to make money, all the pleasure without any of the pain. I find the whole idea revolting…of course this guy is gay, enough said! Maybe someday he will come out of the closet,but for now he has to suffer a different kind of pain,the pain of knowing he is living a lie.

      Jun 12, 2011 at 8:23 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 102 · M.

      @Warren Keith:

      we must show that sex between 2 men is a ordinary thing! we must advance male bisexuality in all levels! only fashion on male bisexuality will bring freedom to gay guys!

      Jun 12, 2011 at 4:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 103 · Bryan [Different person #1 using similar name]

      I am gay and my brother is bisexual. I don’t know about all bi guys I am sure most are great, but I know that my brother treats his boyfriends like shit and treats his girlfriends like royalty. The ironic thing is that he always has like 4 to 5 boyfriends at a time and 1 girlfriend. Sex-wise he seems to prefer men but when it comes to love and relationships he certainly seems to prefer women. He devastated his last boyfriend that he dated and strung a long for years before finally tossing him aside once he was done with him because of a female that is a total hateful bitch.

      Aug 16, 2011 at 8:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 104 · Wozil · Member · 1 comments

      @Zeus: lol here here. I really love your comment! SO spot on and succinct! Just my thoughts on the topic. No way around that and although I feel he is being so very sweet and considerate, there is no WAYS he would be doing gay porn if he wasn’t turned on at LEAST by the idea! lol :D

      Aug 20, 2011 at 2:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 105 · Cramer

      A couple of years ago, Reese talked about being married in another interview, but he said that he considered himself bisexual. He never said anything about not being turned on by guys. I generally view porn as nothing more than sexual entertainment, but when a porn star chooses to make controversial public comments about a sexuality, then I think they have opened the door for a discussion about the politics of sex.

      There is nothing wrong with being bisexual, nor is there anything wrong with a couple mutually agreeing, hopefully with some thought, to having an open relationship. But, I there is a big problem with hypocrisy and homophobia. And, there is an even bigger problem with self-loathing and homophobia being used as marketing tools. The message being promoted is that being gay/bisexual is wrong and that the ideal man is straight. Also, gay/bisexual men are being told that gay/bisexual men are not “real men,” that gay/bisexual men should desire to be straight and that the next best substitute is to fantasize sexually about straight men, that gay/bisexual men should not have feelings when they have sex, and finally, that the best one can hope for out of gay sex is some sort of ritualistic affirmation of masculinity. It is just bizarre.

      I agree with the other posters who are angered by Reese’s comments in this interview. It is very offensive to have someone spout homophobic statements and then expect to profit off the gay/bisexual community. In his earlier interviews, he seemed like a nice guy who was comfortable with who he is. Now, he just seems like a cynical jerk and a hypocrite.

      Even in this depressed economy, there are plenty of other jobs he could be doing, if he just needed to do something for the money. Reese is not that good of an actor. If he were not into doing his the sex scene, it would show in his sex scenes, as it does with certain individual who really do just do a porn scene to make a quick buck. Such individuals do one or two scenes and then never do porn again because they do not enjoy it and their performance is not enjoyable to watch. Reese obviously enjoys having sex with men, and it is very insulting that he thinks he can lie directly to his fans and the general public while also making disparaging remarks about gay sex. But, as long as gay/bisexual men pay to watch videos of Reese perform, I guess the joke is on them in the end. They are paying for the privilege of watching a man have gay sex while he pushes the message that gay sex is not “real sex,” that the only legitimate sort of relationship is between a man and a women, and that gay men are only to be used as a means to get money. The whole situation is rather pathetic.

      Sep 6, 2011 at 11:34 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 106 · anyone!!! d'oh!!!

      I’m still confused until now… It doesn’t make any sense at all…I think he was “bi”..it so clearly…

      Oct 15, 2011 at 8:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 107 · kemirss

      How come that wife’s wonder does not force her to just open up google, type reese rideout and in 5 sec (not too much), see what is going into her husband’s ass. She talks about not wanting to see him touching other people, maybe she just imagines him having a forced sex with arbitrary guys he will never see again. but the bitter truth, some arbitrary guys ramming him, several times, they got so called friends, they repeat some scenes for several times etc. etc.
      I am not here to decide somebody is gay or not, (out of question, i am totally gay, but does not like this sexuality labeling which the capitalism has brought ), but it is a clear fact that this guy is having good times with his colleguaes, even some porn stars accepting being gay dont seem having so much fun as reese does. And I think that this article is just a marketing shit, where we are seeing the ideal gay porn star who is not gay and has a super life, living the american dream to the fullest. How do we know the truthness of this crappy marriage (if it exists) or that womens satisfaction?

      Dec 15, 2011 at 8:33 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 108 · hulky

      @Cramer: So much of goooooooood comment you added.

      Dec 15, 2011 at 8:36 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 109 · Azhrarn

      Wou. With straight guys who knows how tu s*ck and f**k other guys, why do we need gay men?

      Jan 13, 2012 at 4:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 110 · NYCdude

      New flash! If a man dick is getting hard, or having a sex with another man. Guess what? he’s not straight. Gay-for-pay. call it what is. Bisexual dude. His poor wife…

      Jan 21, 2012 at 5:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 111 · recco

      im gay and i love this guy.. but that lifestyle is just too weird.

      May 9, 2012 at 10:33 am · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag
    • No. 112 · SexyME

      WOW! That must be wonderful! I am not gay but my dick does get really hard when i watch it. And i watch straight as well which is much, much, much, much better! I had safe sex with my girlfriend.

      May 15, 2012 at 2:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment · Flag

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