“I really feel the white race is the superior one today,” Alexander Montgomery says. “I only date white men.”
The 42-year-old is originally from Singapore but now lives in Melbourne. He is the author of the book True Confessions of a Potato Queen, which he says is the “the definitive textbook for any aspiring potato queen,” and recently appeared on the Australian reality show Date My Race where he discussed his zero tolerance policy for any race other than Caucasian.
Montgomery says he’s dated other races in the past, but a nearly 20 year relationship with a white guy has led him to believe that “once you go white, nothing else seems right.”
“To me white people are the epitome of class and the gold standard of desirability,” he says, adding that he knows “a lot of Asian guys who are like me.”
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“How often do you see Asian guys and white guys together in public?” he says. “They’re everywhere. … Everyone goes, ‘nah, I’m open to date all races,’ but that’s a lie, you know, it’s not true.”
Montgomery understands that some people may consider his views racist, self-hating even, but he doesn’t care.
“Yes, my view is controversial however this is my standard and I stand behind my opinions,” he insists.
He continues: “The definition of racism is someone who believes their race is superior. I don’t think other races are inferior to me–only that the white race is superior to me. Besides it’s not racism, it’s a preference, I am attracted to white guys. Do you call someone who doesn’t date tall people heightist?”
Montgomery also believes that white privilege is a myth and says that Asian men who feel discriminated against where they live should move somewhere else.
“You don’t like it here,” he says, “then leave.”
As for finding true love, Montgomery says he’s still searching for his soulmate, saying the his only criteria are that the guy is easy-going, confident in himself, and, of course, white.
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DCguy
You have to love it when people take their own baggage and then write a book on it as if they have discovered something that applies to everybody.
Ok, so somebody loves radishes and then goes and writes a book on why everybody must understand why radishes are the best food out there.
This drama queen needs to get over himself. Glad he found a boyfriend and all but sheesh. If his opinion was accepted by others then his boyfriend would have never dated him in the first place.
Kangol
He is the epitome of a colonized person and a colonized mind. Thankfully many of us aren’t so brainwashed!
bernard_leon
He’s a typical Singaporean ‘Kiasu’.
Xzamilloh
Blech…. I need a shower after reading this bile.
vanfanusa
It’s like he has a version of Stockholm Syndrome. He’s a self-hating Asian who believes in the white supremacy imposed by the imperialist of his country. Poor thing.
JerseyMike
They are your gold standard sweetness. looking at that.. I wonder what his man looks like. White men, he is all yours. Will not put up a fight over here.
sanfranca1
Ditch the comb-over.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
LOL it’s almost like he’s trolling. Y’know for attention. It’ll never work. <_<
Heywood Jablowme
An Asian version of Milo Y?
But at least Milo is into black guys!
SpireaX
OK, what kind of backward logic is this?
“The definition of racism is someone who believes their race is superior. I don’t think other races are inferior to me–only that the white race is superior to me.”
First, the term “racist” would be appropriate based on his definition but why quibble over a minor detail? The substantiative portion of his “argument” collapses when as soon as he utters, “…only that the white race is superior to me.”
Believing you’re not racist is not the same is not being racist. Also, believing a race is superior to another is the very definition of racism.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a Martian who says Earthlings are superior to Venusians because Earthlings come in all sorts of differents shapes, color, and sizes; the opinion or observation by the Martian is still racist.
SpireaX
*should read as “Believing you’re not racist is not the same as not being racist.”
Uppity
At least he’s being honest. When I lived in Sydney, all the Asian guys were endlessly chasing after white guys, they didn’t seem interested in pairing off with other Asians at all. I’d imagine Melbourne is no different.
ChrisK
I have to agree with that. People may not like what he’s saying but it doesn’t make it any less true.
Deepdow
Pure hyperbole filled with assumptions and no objective basis in reality. That’s how racists, sexists and homophobes operate btw.
There is a reason why whiteness is sometimes cherished though and it isn’t over some natural or instinctual reason – but because of the system of white supremacy, which is a fact. The beauty industry has long valued whiteness over all else. It’s not hard to see how an asian man can be so self hating and actually think that white people are superior to him.
I repeat : There is no truth in what he is saying. Not even when he is talking about the reasons *why* asian men date white men.
For god sakes if you guys could just listen to yourselves sometimes……………
zxcv
Try to keep your anti Asian sentiments to yourself. Thank you
Teva
Oh and financially stable….
DarkZephyr
“Its not racism, its just a preference that I think whites are superior!” Mmmmkay!
He has GOT to be trolling. With PRINCE on this one.
DarkZephyr
Oh wow, I just realized that I was able to type “racism” and it went through.
charles_bell
“Montgomery understands that some people may consider his views racist, self-hating even, but he doesn’t care.”
He’s not saying those people are wrong though.
Heywood Jablowme
He should take a trip to West Virginia, Kentucky and thereabouts – would he consider toothless meth-addicted hillbillies “superior” too?
Ksb1978
White supremacy and the European standard of beauty is why Queerty will do a bunch of stories about straight white cis men before they do any stories about queer black/ brown/Asian people. They’ll throw a queer black/brown story at us every blue moon to keep up their yearly quota compared to the white gay and white straight people they cover endlessly. It’s the reason that gay romance/erotica novels are 99.9% about white characters and only have white men on the covers. Even when the author isn’t white, he/she would rather write white characters because we have been indoctrinated that our dark skin and features are not desirable. It’s the reason when reading a book and the character’s race isn’t known people automatically think they’re white unless the author gives us clues, because the default is always white.
Kangol
Queerty loves to humiliate people of color. They won’t post positive stories like the one about My-King Johnson, the first out gay high schooler to be recruited by a Division I school, but they will constantly post negative, hateful ones like this. This site is basically *Get Out* in liberal whiteface. If you don’t get what I mean, go see the film. Breitbart doesn’t even do this kind of crap as much as Queerty does.
zxcv
and @Kangol +2
Aromaeus
White men are more than welcome to him.
Realitycheck
No thank you! Thank you no thank you! LOL You saw him first and he is yours with all his what ever he has ….. enjoy LOL
SportGuy
LOL, pretty sure no race wants that fem pudgy thing.
scotty
while i usually adore Asian guys, this one does not make the cut.
stadacona
Lots of shallow greedy dead-eyed asians here in Vancouver as well, and they are relentless in their pursuit of whites. Nope, not a fan of asians.
zxcv
I wonder why a racist Nazi like you hasn’t been banned yet. To some of the others who agree with me: where is the flag button, especially for this repeat offender? Also, can you explain why Queerty allows racism towards non Whites even though they clearly state racist commentary won’t be tolerated??
Neonegro
Good for him.
As for those who blame white supremacy/privilege, how come the vast majority of black gays do not see whites as preferable and some don’t see them as even desirable.
Plenty of black only clubs and sex parties. I doubt Asian gays in white majority countries have such places.
This is solely an Asian issue where they just don’t see themselves as sexually desirable or masculine enough. The same way other races see them.
Aromaeus
Because after constantly being inundated with european/white beauty standards as the bar us negros have to live up to, most of us have found it’s far less taxing on our mental health to just stick with our own.
ChrisK
Unless you become wealthy and/or a celebrity. Then it’s a white bitch. Only 15% stay within their own race.
Neonegro
Aromeus, it may be true for you or your circle but most of us black gays are simply not attracted to white gays and prefer black men.
It has nothing to do with finding it less taxing.
Neonegro
ChrisK, Yes black celebrities tend to overmarry with whites and Hispanics. But so do the uneducated lower class blacks. So we have halfbreeds being made at both end of the economic spectrum.
It is not a big problem among black gays.
As I have said before, lucky for me and other blacks who love blackness, the black countries are having a population explosion. So if the negro in America wants to become extinct by turning itself into a “Hispanic looking” people…no big loss.
zxcv
You’re such a closet racist. So typically North American
ErikO
Does anyone actually want to date this guy? I don’t.
That’s very true neonegro. I have black gay and bisexual friends who have told me that while they dated white men in the past and had white men as long term partners they prefer to date and have partnerships with other black men. They also told me how gay Asian men can be extremely racist towards bi and gay black people.
Green4Clover
Actually, mulatto men are the beast! LOL!
zxcv
That term is no longer used as it’s considered antiquated &racist
jess_lopez
No one (not even Asians) would desire and want to date this guy. LOL
SportGuy
LOL, yeah can’t see anyone decent wanting to be within 10 feet of that thing.
zxcv
Jess, try not be be racist with your responses. Better is expected of you
dwes09
This guy simply fetishizes whiteness and is trying to justify it on some other level. Just like a leather queen might be more drawn to the gear than the man who wears it, this guy is more drawn to the skin color than the person.
toure_coffey
Racism is far more than the belief a particular race is inferior.
Racism is the systematic oppression of a people which include institutional and economic barriers . White Supremacy allows for such hindrances to flourish.
Neonegro
toure_coffey,
The systematic oppression of a people is NOT a definition of racism. Many groups have been oppressed systematically for reasons other than race (religion, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, class)
SpireaX
toure_coffee,
True, racism is so much more than the belief a race is superior BUT it is A definition of racism.
Merriam-Webster defines it as “a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race.”
Pretty clear believing a race is inferior to a superior race is RACISM.
Neonegro
By Webster’s definition then 90% of the world is racist.
Find me one person who does not believe that blacks are better athletes simply because they are black.
Find me one person who does not believe Asians are smart simply because they are Asian.
I have no problem with people having racist views. It is a philosophy just like Christianity, communism, or liberalism. A way of seeing the world.
Science has yet to establish with certainty that the races are equal in every way. Of course there are outlayers, but I am talking on average.
East Africans are better long distance runners mostly because of the difference in physical built as opposed to the stockier west African negro who is better at short distance sprints.
If there are differences in physical appearance, why would differences in brain make up not be a possibility.
My only concern is to ensure that despite any inherent differences, government and society do not restrict anyone’s path to achieve wealth and happiness.
Equal Opportunity for all but no guarantee of equal results.
wong_ting
Just because he is Asian doesn’t mean he can speak for all the Asians. He is such a disgrace??
Neonegro
I don’t think he claims to be speaking for all Asians. He is speaking for himself.
SpireaX
Neonegro,
You could have had a valid point had he not said the following:
“How often do you see Asian guys and white guys together in public?” he says. “They’re everywhere … Everyone goes, ‘nah, I’m open to date all races,’ but that’s a lie, you know, it’s not true.”
On this one, it’s clearly he is speaking for a group of people.
Then he goes on to claim the mantle of gay Asian spokesdouche with this advice for GAMs:
“Asian men who feel discriminated against where they live should move somewhere else.”
Of course, before those lovely statements, he also proclaimed, he knows “a lot of Asian guys who are like me.”
Yeah, come to think of it, you don’t have a valid point at all.
Re-read article, please!
Neonegro
SpireaX, there is nothing to reread.
He is giving his point of view and stating what he has observed.
That is not the same as him claiming to be speaking for all Asians.
Eclatant
It’s really sad that he doesn’t see himself as the “gold standard of desirability.” I certainly feel that way about my fellow Black men.
michael_blackmonham
So he’s saying who is desirable. Oh the irony! ???
SportGuy
LMAO, this is hilarious. Not sure who would date this fat homely asain fem guy.
SpireaX
And here is prime example of that kind of destructive heteronormative, body shaming, racist assholery that permeates segments of the gay male populace.
Questioning who would date a “fat homely asian fem guy” implies someone’s not desirable or attractive to anyone unless they’re: in-shape Greek Adonis who is not Asian but also a straight-acting guy.”
Fighting internalized self-loathing and racism with overt loathing of those who don’t fit your narrow definition of beauty is the worst strategy ever.
wei_cong
As he is already super honest, he could have just admitted being a racist. Poor self loathing guy.
zxcv
Some people simply can’t be fixed, salvaged
NV_Summer
love white guys. Dated at least one from all races, but now I’m resolved to only date white guys.
He is talking about his preference and at least he is honest, not like pretentious asian queens who wouldn’t even look once at a black guy. I’d rather see the honest ugly side of a person than the pretend smile and comments like “I like all races” which is a lie. But If I were to date a fellow asian, I wouldn’t date this guy. lol. White guys can have him. 😀