SEX ON THE BRAIN

Do Straight-Identified Guys Like Watching Guy-Girl Porn Because They’re Secretly Bi?

Once upon a time, a straight-identified co-worker told me that he only feels closure with a porn scene if a guy delivers the money shot. Female orgasm? Completely disinterested. But seeing a dude cum? That’s the stuff!

I told him his desire to see a guy cum sounded pretty gay and, well, he reluctantly agreed. But did my co-worker have secret bi desires or was I just being a prick? The answer to both is yes and no.

Amy Andre from The Bilerico Project wrote a sexcellent article this week describing the recent success of James Deen (pictured right), an unconventionally twinkish young star whose made a big, girthy name for himself in male-female porn. Andre basically asks, “Who is responsible for Deen’s success? Female porn buyers who like Deen’s look or males who feel the same?”

The entire article is worth reading because it gets to the heart of why straight guys wanna see dicks in male-female porn. But here’s one of Andre’s big takeaways:

Male porn performers look the way they do because porn is usually made with a male audience in mind… if straight men truly didn’t want to be distracted by seeing a man in a film (either because they don’t find men attractive, or because, uh-oh, they do, and can’t handle their own attraction to guys!), straight men wouldn’t watch any porn with men in it…

This doesn’t mean that the straight-identified men watching male-female porn are “secretly” bi… straight-identified men… want to identify with [guys in heater porn]—and imagine themselves attracting such beautiful women—or… erotically enjoy looking at him—the way they enjoy looking at the women he’s with.

…A man can be as straight as an arrow, in terms of consistency of using the term “straight” to identify himself, and still enjoy watching another man sexually.

Whenever I comment on women being hot, straight guy friends will ask me, “Wait… you still find women attractive?” And I respond, “Yeah, I’m gay. I’m not blind.” And it seems straight-identified men, when they allow themselves to admit it, find men physically attractive too. The human body is innately sexy and it seems that a majority of guys feel that they vicariously score whenever a fellow dude scores in the sack too.

I’m not entirely sure how women feel about all this, but they seem every bit as sexual as men in many of the same ways—it’s probably just that they’re less prone to admit it.

Image via Enter Belldonna (NSFW)