Fred Karger Restarts Quest For Maggie Gallagher’s Elusive Husband, Raman Srivastav

Back in 2010, gay GOP presidential candidate Fred Karger wrote an open letter to National Organization for Marriage founder Maggie Gallagher, asking her to reveal the whereabouts of her husband of 20 years, Raman Srivastav.

Now Karger, whose campaign is all but dead, is raising the issue again. He’s sent another open letter asking why she never wears a wedding ring or brings Raman to public functions:

I was on Thomas Roberts’ show MSNBC Live with the founder of the National Organization for Marriage, Maggie Gallagher. We were on MSNBC so she could try and defend the treasure trove of “Confidential” NOM documents that had just been uncovered as a result of the 2009 investigation that I got launched against NOM in Maine.

Maggie and I were in separate studios although we met afterwards for this photo and a chance to visit. I asked Maggie if she was still living in New York, and she told me that she moved to Washington, DC nearly three years ago. What about her husband Roman [sic] Srivastav?

She allegedly married this East Indian man 19 years ago after living as an unwed mother for 11 years. No one has ever seen Maggie with Raman. Wonder if they really did get married? If so, maybe so he could get a green card?

Queerty put in a call to Gallagher to check about Raman’s whereabouts, but it went straight to her voicemail. We’ll update you in the unlikely event she should respond.

We also gave GOProud Jimmy LaSalvia a ring. Said LaSalvia: “I only met Maggie Gallagher once in 2010 at CPAC. She came over to say hi and that was about it. I don’t know much or anything about her family.”

Nobody does, Jimmy. Nobody does.

No pictures of him seem to exist, and Maggie has never brought him to a political event, unlike NOM’s other “family-oriented” leader Brian Brown, who trots out his clan at every opportunity.

Anyone who has pictures of Raman or evidence that he exists (or doesn’t) can send it to us at [email protected]. Now that we’re thinking about it, researchers just confirmed that many anti-gay crusaders have repressed gay feelings. Is it possible Maggie Gallagher is—gasp—a lesbian?

Or, even weirder, since apparently no one has seen Raman and Maggie together in the same room, could it be they’re actually the same person?

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  • Pitou

    They probably separated SEVERAL years ago because he could no longer live a lie about his true sexual orientation and THATS the bone this cow has to pick with the LGBT community.. I betcha!!!

  • Philip

    You think some of your life sucks? Imagine being married to that harridan. Wow.

  • dvlaries

    I can well imagine any man who banged this creature wanting as low-profile an existence as possible.

  • Jack Jett

    I ask this in the most non-bitchy and sincere way possible………………..Does Maggie suffer from Autism or some form of retardation? She looks off.

  • Raymond Weaver

    “Raman and Maggie together in the same room, could it be
    they’re actually the same person?”

    Why am I thinking Norman Bates?

  • bystander

    At least get her to nail down where she was supposedly married, then contact that locality’s agency that keeps marriage records…

  • 1equalityUSA

    If it was a “fruitless” barren coupling, we should have it annulled, made invalid against her will, while accusing her of unspeakable crimes against pets, children, and siblings.

  • DouggSeven

    I don’t appreciate witch hunts on anyone or bating she might be a lesbian just because of an unknown spouse. That’s a bit of a stretch. She’s probably not with the guy anymore but not because she’s a lesbian but that she’s a fatty in her 40s(?) who most likely can’t find a mate.

  • Hephaestion

    I feel quite sure that Maggie hasn’t been with her “husband” in 20 years. I am sure theirs was a marriage of convenience for a closeted lesbian and a closeted Indian man. I bet Maggie doesn’t even know how to pronounce her “husband’s” name.

    Virtually ALL leaders of anti-gay organizations are closet cases. ALL of them. No normal straight person EVER obsesses over gay people.

  • Chad

    Normaly I would say that I could not care less about someones spouse or their personal life. But being that Maggie makes a living telling other people how to live their lives because of “traditions” yet she does not even follow said traditions.

    She is nothing more than a hypocrite a very dangerous one because she is so public. And since I have to live my life according to HER beleifs. I think she should pony up the info on hubby. She has made her personal life fair game.

  • cwm

    @1equalityUSA: Maggie does have a child, born out of wedlock. Which–Maggie would agree–should result in her son being declared a non-person, subject to all sorts of legal discrimination. Or: it is what she’d believe, if she weren’t a hypocrite.

  • DouggSeven

    @Hephaestion: I don’t know if I’d say ‘ALL leaders’. Christian brainwashing is a powerful tool and they are led to believe they are doing god’d work, like a prophet if you will.

  • SearchCz

    I spend most of every day with my spouse … but that’s not the kind of marriage Maggie defends !

  • Feinstein

    The answer is a very simple one, and I’m surprised Karger has not figured it out yet. SHE DEVOURED HIM!

  • B

    No. 1 · Pitou wrote, “They probably separated SEVERAL years ago because he could no longer live a lie about his true sexual orientation.? And the evidence if this is what? His name?

    If you must resort to trash talk, at least target Maggie. To learn how to do it right, rent the film My Man Gottfried (the dialog is a bit dated due to the film being an old one), but it will get the point across):

    “Who’se that dizzy dame over there”

    “That’s my wife.”

    “My apologies.”

    “What do you have to be sorry for? You didn’t marry her!”

  • David Ehrenstein

    What about Maggie’s gay son? He’s a lot more interesting than her alleged husband.

  • Cam

    I’ve been saying the same thing for ages.

    1. She believes in traditional marriage but why doesn’t she use her husbands last name?

    2. Why doesn’t she wear a wedding ring?

    3. Why doesn’t she show her traditional marriage?

  • rf

    @Pete: Christwire is a satire site, but that was pretty funny so thanks for the link. lol

    Raman was not on the deed when Mags bought her NY house and he’s not on the current tax record, nor does he appear on any of the mortgage docs in between then and now online. Of course there could be any reason why a husband wouldn’t be on the wife’s deed, mortgage, and tax record (all public information online thanks to Westchester County). But it certainly isn’t traditional. Her NY house appears to still be for sale, looks like its been 2 or 3 years (I saw a comment about it from last year). The listing says its a legal 2 family, wonder if Rammy was living in the rental apartment and she just pretended he was her husband??

  • Charli Girl

    Oh please please please guys do NOT send
    that woman our way!!! As a gay female, I’m thinking she
    will have a hard time finding anyone on our team either!!!!
    Poor thang, she does look a lil off doesn’t she?
    Must be all the hate shinning thru????

  • B

    No. 17 · David Ehrenstein asked, “What about Maggie’s gay son?”

    Here’s a youtube video of him: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=3VbAqqS11Gg

    It’s some sort of workshop for a musical production. I’ll leave any comments about him to others, hopefully qualified music critics.

  • B

    Re No 22. I might add that according to http://joemygod.blogspot.com/2012/03/tonight-maggie-gallaghers-son-debuts.html Patrick Gallagher “identifies as straight” but works at “a gay cabaret and nightclub in Manhattan’s West Village.” If straight (I presume he has no reason to lie) he’s obviously gay friendly. He was apparently performing at an AIDS fundraiser as well. Some of his collaborators (most of them?) are gay, and it isn’t surprising that a straight person in that position would want to support them and would have been “inoculated” against stereotypes due to working with a number of gay individuals on what I presume would be a daily basis.

    So, don’t blame him for the behavior of his mother. You don’t get to choose your mother.

  • Riker

    Margaret is fair game. By that, I mean “The homes, property, places and abodes of persons who have been active in attempting to: suppress GLB/Ts are all beyond any protection of Ethics, unless absolved by later Ethics or an amnesty … this Policy extends to suppressive non-activist wives and husbands and parents, or other family members or hostile groups or even close friends.”

    Stole that directly from the official policies of one of the most violent and anti-gay religions and modified it to fit my needs/.

  • 1equalityUSA

    B, what did we ever do to you to deserve her son in a musical workshop? My partner said, “Ew, he’s emoting!” When I cut it off, a few minutes of silence passed and she said, “It’s still in my head.” I haven’t quite forgiven you, B. Throwing Muses, take him away. Fish, Fear, Pearl, Hook in Her Head, anything but Gallagher’s spawn. I just wonder how many NOM dollars went to this kid’s past time. Get a job….well, no, maybe not. We don’t need anymore Nomsters on the loose.

  • drewa24

    In the picture accompanying this article…um, where is the hair on the right side of it’s head? Are those clothes homemade? Did it stroke-out recently, because it’s lilting to the side.

  • FunMe

    I think Fred should hire a private investigator and find out. Actually, the GLBT organizations should start a fund and let’s find out what this HATE monger hypocrite is really all about.

  • 1equalityUSA

    We could light torches and storm the gate with pitch forks in our….oh, this was done.

    Or we could oppose John Boehner’s lap-dog appointment of Robert P. George to the international Religious Freedom commission by clicking link below, signing up on the White House website, return to email box, and sign the petition this NOMster’s appointment to spread gay hatred worldwide. We need 25,000 before April 27th.


  • danny

    This is an embarrassment, and Fred Karger should be ashamed of himself for starting this witchhunt. This makes us look like the crazy people who demanded to see Obama’s birth certificate, and we’re better than that.

  • Chad

    @danny: I agree, but as I have said earlier, This woman has made a career out of getting our rights taken away based on the principles of “traditional marriage” yet nothing about her life or marriage is “traditional”. It’s childish and embarasing but she has made herself fair game.

  • Mike Hipp

    I would say that the asymmetrical haircut alone tags her as a doughnut bumper.

  • 1equalityUSA

    She leans so far to the right that her hair is confused.

  • Scott Rose

    @danny: You’re totally wrong. Fred Karger initiated law suits against NOM. They’ve had the good effects of, for example, having judge after judge after judge rule that NOM’s claims are without merit. Through those court judgments, NOM’s hateful strategizing was revealed. And, there absolutely is something “suspect” in Gallagher’s marriage. If you never talk about the topic, you’ll never find out what’s really going on. You’ll never get the public to say that Mrs. Traditional Marriage isn’t even in one, and is motivated by hatred and gay-bashing lies, not by any interest in promoting fulfilling relationships. She wouldn’t know a fulfilling relationship if it bit her on her bottom. What Fred is doing, in talking about Gallagher’s non-marriage marriage, is to highlight that she is all about gay-bashing bigotry, and not at all about promoting healthful marriages with good content to the relationship between the two spouses.

  • Jim

    A top North Carolina Democratic Party official has reportedly been identified as the accused perpetrator in a sexual harassment claim made by a former staffer.

    Jay Parmley, North Carolina’s Democratic Party executive director, has been accused of sexual harassment by Adriadn Ortega, a former communications staffer for the state party…

  • Chad

    @Jim: I’m shocked, a democrat? I have come to expect behavior like this from a republican, but democrats?? WOW

  • Riker

    @Chad: And why do you think that a Democrat would never do anything underhanded and unethical? Remember Jim McGreevy? John Edwards? Bill Clinton?

  • Chad

    @Riker: because most often when an anti-gay politician gets caught with another male its a republican

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