The New York Times spilled some ink for gay youth yesterday.
“The City” section featured a gaggle of 17-year old’s city experiences, including Queens resident Zy-Tasia Gaines. Gaines, pictures with her girlfriend on Christoper Street’s contentious piers, shares some of her painful and poignant memories, such as her peers’ childish rationale:
There was a girl at my high school, and she would ask me really silly questions, like, â€œAngelina Jolie or Jennifer Anistonâ€? Iâ€™d say, â€œAngelina Jolie,â€ and sheâ€™d say, â€œSee, only a gay person would say that.â€ And she goes, â€œRed ice cream or grape ice cream?â€ Iâ€™m like, â€œRed ice cream.â€ She says, â€œSee, youâ€™re a lesbian.â€
Gaines’ parents haven’t been any more supportive. Both seem to think she can “change” into a straight girl.
My father, he still thinks itâ€™s a phase. Heâ€™s like: â€œI think youâ€™re gonna have a boyfriend later on. Iâ€™m not worried about it.â€
But my grandmotherâ€™s cool with it. She says, â€œAs long as youâ€™re not doing pornos and doing anything crazy, getting tattoos on your forehead, I donâ€™t care who you go out with.â€
My mom is just like, â€œWell, I wanted grandkids, and I wanted you to marry a boy,â€ and every now and then, she throws in: â€œI met this really nice guy on the train. Are you sure you donâ€™t want to meet him?â€ And Iâ€™m like: â€œNo, Mom. I have a girlfriend.â€
Though she says she’s [teenage] love with her lady, Gaines does get bogged by insecurities. Her piece concludes, “Maybe I should just be with a boy and make everyone happy.” No way girl, you stay just they way you are – the world needs more lesbians. It’s a totally unproven, entirely biased fact.