Harsh Reactions

Is the Gay Struggle Over? The “Post-Mos” Think So

Some Toronto "Post-Mos"

We at Queerty are no strangers to criticism. But now it’s time for us to throw the spotlight on some other publication’s comments. Have you read Paul Aguirre-Livingston’s “Dawn of a New Gay” in the Toronto based publication The Grid? It’s a lengthy article (well, by Queerty’s standards), but well worth the read. Here are a few quotes to get the idea:

“Forty years after… the infamous Stonewall Riots in New York City, a new generation of twentysomething urban gays—my generation—has the freedom to live exactly the way we want… Our sexual orientation is merely secondary to our place in society. We don’t need to categorize or define ourselves as gay, and who we sleep with—mostly men and, hey, sometimes women—isn’t even much of a topic of conversation anymore… Say hello to the post-modern homo. The post-mo, if you will.”

He goes on to describe what he calls the “post-mo”:

“Post-mos don’t hang rainbow flags in their windows or plaster them on their bumpers. We don’t march in Pride and we probably never will. (After-parties only, please.) We don’t torture ourselves to fit in with other gays. In fact, most of us have come to resent the stereotypes and the ideals associated with preceding gay generations. It’s not that we hate gay culture; we just don’t have that much in common with it anymore… And herein lies the central question for the post-mo: Is there even a gay struggle to be had anymore?

Further on:

“We hated Toronto Pride for its negative stereotypes and its promotion of marginalization and hyper-sexed fools on floats. I didn’t own anything rainbow-coloured nor did I want to, and I stopped going to those youth meetings because, hey, I’m just a boy who likes other boys, and what else is there to say, okay? Soon, everyone else stopped going too.”

So, anyway, it continues like that with several photos of “post-mo’s” who with the one potential exception are all white and in their early twenties. Despite its obvious sense of entitlement and pitfalls of ignoring the very real cultural and political obstacles we still face, it’s a provocative read.

And then there were the comments. From The Grid, we can pick out comments like:

“I would never step out in front of a community based on diversity and say “Hey everyone! This is the right way to be gay!””

“On behalf of the femmey bois, the butchy girls, the freaky, the weird and the wonderful; shame!”

“What a wonderful article about Hipsters with internalized homophobia.”

After it spread a bit, the editors of The Grid posted an article about why they published Aguirre-Livingston’s article, why the photos were taken, and mentioned the overwhelming response. They say:

“We knew that not everybody would like or agree with what Aguirre-Livingston was saying, but the gay community, like any large group, is not a monolith—it contains multitudes of perspectives and we believed there was room for one more.”

So how about it, Queerty readers? Is “Dawn of a New Gay” a justified thesis? Are the reactions deserved? Is there anyone out there who in fact believes Aguirre-Livingston was perhaps right in writing this article?

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Photo credit via The Grid