Sorry, all you pops out there, but not all gays are into daddy-son play.
One Reddit user, for example, asked the r/askgaybros subreddit for “daddy” alternatives to use during sex. “Love the vibe of the name but hate being reminded of my dad when I’m balls deep,” that user wrote. “Any suggestions?”
More like many suggestions. But some terms of entanglement from that December 13 thread might be more laughable than lustful.
Here are ideas from that thread, ranging from the royal to the ribald to the ridiculous:
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“My ex was very big on using ‘sir’ publicly and privately. It was an expression of respect, admiration, and, in intimate moments, of lust much more appropriate than ‘daddy.’”
“My king.”
“My liege!”
“M’lord!”
“Your grace!”
“My prime minister?”
“My elected representative of the people.”
“Me hearty! (‘Arr, whose ass be this?’ ‘(Gasp!) Yours, me hearty!’)”
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“Inseminator.”
“Sperminator.”
“Have fun with it. ‘Daddy’ gives you the heebie-jeebies? Try out ‘sir’ or ‘mister.’ Formality can be fun. ‘Captain’ is a personal favorite, though I guess ‘corporal’ or ‘sergeant’ might be more popular with the pedestrian crowd. ‘Father’ could have some mileage on it, and be sure to have him call you ‘son’ just to keep it creepy. And if all others fail, you can’t go wrong with the ‘comrade,’ or even the basic ‘bruh.’ Honorable mentions are ‘chum’ and ‘pal.’”
“Paternal figure.”
“Sire.”
“Boss.”
“Plough commander.”
“Commander BallsDeep.”
“Oedipus.”
“Coach.”
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“English ain’t my first language, so I’m gonna go with ‘big guy.’ Just don’t say too often, or it starts sounding weird.”
“Buddy, bucko, ol’ chap, mate, pal, fella.”
“Captain, sport, champ, gov’ner.”
“Papi, chef, master chief, sergeant, Lrrr, ruler of the planet Omicron Persei 8. The possibilities are endless if you have some imagination.”
“If you are a Stranger Things fan, you can call him ‘papa.’”
“You can try ‘mommy.’”
bachy
Using the name of their favorite superhero can be very effective. But you can’t say it “ironically” (like some of the above recommendations). You have to be sincere.
It’s hard for some people to pull off, but irony, sarcasm, camp or snark should never be used in sexual situations (if at all).
thisisnotreal
no disrespect to people who actually like that kind of thing, but daddy/son stuff has always made me uncomfortable. and i cringe every time i hear a hispanic woman call her man papi, or a straight man call his gf/fling/wife baby girl. idk maybe its cuz i grew up with a pedo father (who am i kidding thats probably why) but any kind of father/son father/daughter based roleplay just immediately makes me cringe to listen to. your my sexual/romantic partner, i dont want to think of you in the same way i think of my own father and im not looking for you to replace him either.
Cato
I hear you. My family dynamic was rather messed up, so the first time a boyfriend wrapped his arm around my neck and said, “Bend over, here comes daddy”, we had a long talk. The second time he said it, he got a sharp look and “Don’t ever say that.”
The third time he did it, I broke up with him. He was confused why I was so sensitive.
still_onthemark
A lot of us older gay guys had fathers who BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF US! And when we were young adults, “daddy” talk wasn’t a thing yet, maybe for exactly that reason.
MSM
I like to be called Babe. That works for me. It can sometimes slip to “baby” which is OK too, in the heat of passion.
Pier
Offensive and oppressive in every way possible.
mash19
All of those are cringe worthy. What’s wrong with just using somebody’s name?
storm45701
I’ve been called “sir” quite a few times by the younger set. Not into it, but I just gave up trying to be the word police.
Vince
If both parties are mature that’s one thing. Call yourselves whatever you like. However, if the older one is paying the bills then he’s always considered the Daddy. As in Sugar Daddy.
If you’re say middle aged and you prefer twenty somethings or twinks then you most definitely are the Daddy.
SELA Rising
I’ve never taken to the word, and now as I approach the age of “daddy”hood I do think its a bit weird. It also creates questions for me.
My dirty talk can get elaborate, I like to create a story around it, sometimes involving a third person (not really present).
For example, lets say a cousins hot husband came over to help fix something around the house. Later that night I can bring the idea of him into the dirty talk with my own husband.
“You liked when Sam came over didnt you? I noticed him looking at you while you were up the ladder. No he was! Yeah, then when he moved past me to get up on the ladder with you I felt his bulge. Why do you think I left. I wanted to give you some alone time with him. I saw the way he handed you the hammer. He was playing with it and gripping it tight. He did that on purpose, he wanted you to see. You like his hammer don’t you, you want to get pounded by his big meaty hammer. yeah, take his hammmmmmmmer!!!!”
Now lets consider someone calls me “Daddy”, should I follow that vein of fantasy and be like “you like that son, you like when I come into your room and caress your throbbing tumescence in the morning?!” or “You like daddy taking you to the bathroom to pee?, whip it out and drench me!!” maybe “oooohhhhh yeah, squeal for daddy like you did when you got your first GI Joes”. Even the basic “do what daddy says” causes discomfort.
Maybe I’m just not that inventive or creative, but I can’t imagine a line of dirty talk involving daddy/son that doesn’t sound pedophilic.
Someone please provide some verbal volleying that doesn’t sound pervy, predatory or gross… or do you just use the word “daddy” and suspend all imagination?
bachy
Every time I use the word “Daddy” in a sexual context, it doesn’t mean I want my partner to roleplay as my father.
In the same manner, every time I use the word “Baby” in a sexual context it doesn’t mean I want my partner to roleplay as my infant offspring.
I think both terms are most often used as slang to confer a sexy/intimate/vulnerable dynamic. But I do see how “Daddy” especially can be a charged term.
thisisnotreal
for me personally i think the distinction is that when i call someone baby they are the only one im calling that. parents dont refer to their own children as baby, yes they may BE a baby but parents will usually default to honey or sweetie or just the kids name. but basically all of us grew up calling our fathers dad or daddy and not his name, there was (at least not for me) no other term to call my dad besides that. so daddy refers to basically one person in specific when you are growing up whereas baby or “a baby” is more of a concept if u get me. i hear the word baby and i can either think of “a baby” or i can think of someones romantic partner. but i hear daddy and i can only think of a father figure because it doesnt have as broad of a meaning.
bachy
@thisisnotreal: Fair enough.
Seth
I’m not into gimmicks, even vocabulary drag.