The patriarchy is falling and straight men the world over really don’t like it. Go figure.
In a new op-ed titled Has straight sex become shameful?, writer Theo Hobson whines that straight people, particularly straight men, are now being “marginalized” and shamed into no longer having sex.
“Heterosexuality is marginalized by our liberal arts culture,” Hobson claims, saying that it “scorns the crude mechanical drudge of heterosexual coupling.”
And that’s. Not. Fair!
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Hobson says he was recently watching a TV show where two women gave each other orgasms “without the aid of a dull old man.”
“It was well written, well acted, and I make no complaint about the soft-porn content,” he writes. “But it did make me think: our culture has gone a bit weird.”
“It seems that its liberal creative wing no longer finds sex sexy unless it is grinding an edgy political axe,” he explains. “If it lacks this edge, it is crass, banal at best, oppressive at worst. Sex in which straight men play a role now feels…inappropriate, dirty.”
But it’s not just TV. It’s happening in movies, too.
“In cinema too, it is gay love that has an aura of depth and mystery (Call Me By Your Name is one of a long list). You might say: well, there’s more drama in love (or plain sex) that’s edgy and forbidden, but that’s not really good enough: art should be able to find the drama in the mainstream.”
All this, Hobson believes, is “a major cultural problem.” And it makes him UNCOMFORTABLE!
“There is something unhealthy about a culture that cannot celebrate what is mainstream, for fear of seeming crude or oppressive,” he laments. “We have slipped back into seeing most sex as dirty, shameful.”
Dirty and shameful? More like achingly boring.
Hobson concludes by reminding his straight brethren that heterosexual sex is “fundamentally good” and that people should continue having it both on and off screen.
“Sex is nothing to be ashamed of,” he assures his fellow heterosexual males, “even the straight sort.”
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crowebobby
Ahhhh, Tim, thank you so much!!!
Teddy Ready
Awww !! What a Whiny little Attention Seeking Closet case. Sorry Bozo, but the point of debate that you attempted to deliver does not hold a substantive rationale nor makes much sense in reality. First of all, the majority of mainstream Movies on the Silver Screen, Netflix, and Commercial Television has not only been based to a “Heterosexual” population but strives to encompass a general audience that is not defined by a sexual category at all. To emphasize that you feel marginalized by Society for being a straight man by the Movie Industry, I think most Filmgoer’s would surmise that you have been selecting Movies of homosexual content to watch and forgot that “gay” themed Movies are still in a Minority. LOL. Should that make you wander?
PinkoOfTheGange
has this guy never seen…anything on HBO or skinamax? How about 50 Shade of bad writing and worse (somehow) movie making (3 times)? Is he whining about a couple of androids in Bladeruner 2049? Does that bother him too, or is that cool because all the parts are right?
Wow we get one movie ever few years that goes somewhat mainstream and the world is coming to end.
Bryguyf69
PinkoOfTheGange – to answer your question, there’s a very good chance that he has never watched HBO or Cinemax. Theo Hobson is a British theologian who likely has no access to either channel. And despite Queerty’s characterization, he’s hardly clueless or homophobic. His point here is not to complain about the cultural demand for gay sex but rather, how straight sex more seems uninteresting.
Hobson writes quite a bit about homosexuality. Here’s an example of his progressive nuanced views. It’s actually a good read, and gives ammunition to gay activists.
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/belief/2009/dec/14/bible-homosexuality-gay-rights-morality
JaredNorthcutt30
Achingly boring is why I stopped having gay sex.
PoetDaddy
Well, gosh, maybe you should make a little effort to keep yourself from being so boring.
pudman56
First of all he’s full of shit and secondly, now he knows how it felt decades ago, years ago, and today for many.
JaredNorthcutt30
Am I, though? I haven’t had sex since Oct. 2017. Gender transition, HIV, guys only interested in penis. I can’t say I miss it.
AxelDC
Amazing how 5% of the population can make life so unbearable for the dominate 95%.
artgolden
Yawn.
breal
Life seems so unfair to straight males
DCguy
Translation: This guy sees having to admit other people exist, and not being able to legally attack different people as an attack on him.
jjose712
Is he really that stupid?
Sorry but straight sex is absolutely everywhere (and that’s ok), the fact that it’s not only straight sex is the only thing that changed
richrob810
When I was younger and first joined the army during the Korean War in 1951 straight men wanted to fool around with me. I was smaller hopefullly not unattractive but did no encourage it. I say straight because they were mostly not really gay. Straight men enjoyed sex with gay people until AIDS and that scared the crap out of everyone. It is a shame because I would love a straight man whose wife could not have sex or who never wanted to replace her with another woman.
DCguy
Or they were bi or closeted.
Tête Carrée
@richrob810
I guess you should love them, or at least be appreciative that they didn’t murder you when they were done with you and then used the gay panic defence to get off scot-free. So much more exciting than those fruity gay queens.
Kangol
Straight male heterosexist privilege, on whiny display yet again. He’s upset because instead of 100% of all depictions of sex being between a man and a woman, and patriarchically celebrated, there are now occasionally other sexualities shown on screen once in a while? Just watching TV and going to the movies this past week I think I’ve seen FIVE sex scenes involving male-female couples, some of them almost rape-ish, not a single one has been publicly condemned or even noted in the press, and I don’t think this is about to end anytime soon with filmmakers from Hollywood, Netflix, Amazon, etc.
ray444
Absolutely! I don’t know what movies this guy has been seeing but straight couples in movies and TV series don’t stop fornicating for much of anything. And if he’s really so bored with recent depictions of heterosex maybe he should write his own movie and MAKE straight sex interesting and provocative and forbidden and edgy and whatever else he’d like it to be. I recall the year Brokeback Mountain came out Roger Ebert wrote a glowing review of it and some straight doofus griped in the comments section something on the order of, “Damn it, can’t we have any movies with straight sex any more? Do they have to force this gay stuff down our throats?” So ONE mainstream major film with well-known stars about a gay relationship comes out–exactly one–and suddenly people are squawking that the 99.99999% of movies that still feature only straight relationships aren’t enough for them. Whine, whine, whine!
Doug
Yet another whiny, privileged straight male launching into dramatics because he’s slowly losing his place at the top of the heap. It’s the same way a lot of them react to women’s rights and minorities. I agree with him, straight men are getting dull and boring.
Bryguyf69
No no no. Please read my post about Theo Hobson. He’s hardly homophobic, heterocentric or whining for white privilege. The only thing he is whining about is how heterosexual sex is no longer culturally interesting. That doesn’t mean he thinks gay sex isn’t interesting or less valid than straight sex.
If you think he’s homophobic, read this:
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/belief/2009/dec/14/bible-homosexuality-gay-rights-morality
Tête Carrée
@Bryguyf69
Are you Theo’s mom? Or his sock puppet? I hope you have this in cut-and-paste since you’re repeating it so often.
Bryguyf69
Theo Hobson is a British theologian, and despite Queerty’s characterization, he’s hardly clueless or homophobic. His point here is not to complain about the cultural demand for gay sex but rather, how straight sex now seems uninteresting.
Hobson writes quite a bit about homosexuality. Here’s an example of his progressive nuanced views. It’s actually a good read, and gives ammunition to gay activists.
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/belief/2009/dec/14/bible-homosexuality-gay-rights-morality
kuma6963
Ok I read the article.
He’s more than “hardly homophobic”
If this article was supposed to show how ‘progressive and enlightened’ this guy is, It fails.
He’s a Prat
martin_erickson
I determined he was a fool and a whiner taking a slightly different tack to cover homophobia when he complained about “…liberal arts culture…” Liberal Arts, people, are NOT liberal politics, liberal society. He clearly does not know whereof he speaks. IMHO, one of the great deficiencies in our society is the higher education attitude that de-emphasizes Liberal Arts education in favor of increasingly ISTJ-oriented majors that lead to workplace output maximization, white collar equivalents of sweatshops, such as highly technical areas of study and my “favorite” the MBA, with its beancounting, middle- management, no-corporate- “ladder” emphases. Let us return to teaching pathways to peaceful, reflective living by introducing MORE Liberal Arts in schools and higher education before society blows its collective head gasket, trying to outdo it’s own productivity [rough draft, so sort of choppy, sorry]
Bryguyf69
Kuma6369 – oh? You don’t think his views are progressive for a Christian theologian? Seriously? You obviously know nothing about the field.
paul dorian lord fredine
simply put, he’s whining because he can’t get laid because of the gayz. poor guy, get a blow-up doll.
Agent9902
In antiquity, the art, intellectual, wealthy, ruling class were at the top – center of the Greco/Roman era world. Sexuality was without labels or roles back then, but with enough historical information, one could logically translate our modern gay sensibility into a somewhat understandable reading of the “gayness” of the ancient philosophers, poets, artists, and lawmakers who dwelled in that center/top geographical position in their ancient city/state – be it Greece or Rome.
Mindful that our modern democracy was based on these ancient models, it follows that gay sensibility and it’s allies are alive and well in modern times. Procreation of the common flesh was how Plato described heterosexuality. “Procreation of the soul” was reserved for the thinkers, the poets, the artists. The people in the elite and cultural center. In modern times, we preach equality to the masses. Americans are equal. This causes great turmoil because we are all, in fact, very different. Classical antiquity assures that heterosexual sex is in fact very dirty and common. It’s something commoners do – in order to fortify the borders to protect and defend the ones in the center.
Since we don’t have a hierarchy like ancient peoples, we are constantly fighting about whats right or wrong. My point is, and my response to this article – straight people should accept their common fate with dignity. They need to birth them babies! We, on the other hand, will continue to produce art, literature, and humanities. The statue of David was literally the child of Michelangelo. This child is still with us today, outliving any common child of the common flesh!
JohnMc888
Not as pretty as you portray. The famous so-called commandment in St. Paul against hmosexuality uses a Greek word that actually mans “rapers of boys,” not homosexuals. In the Greco-Roman world rich men could rape boys with impunity. This custom still goes on in Afghanistan, where you don’t even have to that rich to do it.
Kangol
“In the Greco-Roman world rich men could rape boys with impunity.” If you are talking about Ancient Greece during the age of the great emperors, this is absolutely untrue. You had to be a person of status and a citizen, and there were social requirements for educating the eromenos, etc., and rules about sexual relations; an enslaved person, a man of lower status, etc., did not have the same rights. It also was quite different in ancient Rome; freeborn male minors could not be approached, and male partners, including enslaved people, prostitutes, and entertainers were the choice of many adult males who wanted adult partners. There were a range of rules about how people could behave and who could have sex with whom. An excellent guide to homosexuality and sexual practices in Ancient Greece and the Hellene world is K. J. Dover’s Greek Homosexuality (Harvard University Press, 1989); a great guide to homosexuality and sexuality in the Roman world is Craig Williams’ Roman Homosexuality (Oxford University Press, 2010). An fine overview for both is Homosexuality in Greece and Rome: A Sourcebook of Basic Documents, Thomas Hubbard, editor (University of California Press, 2003).
ShowMeGuy
Theo Hobson acts like a MTV’s Jersey Shore auditions reject.
simulations
C’mon, people! Queerly is like the Fox News of queer media. The facts will be twisted to add to the salaciousness of a good story. The Daily Mail is a more credible publication. Read the original article. Hobson never once says anything about straights being shamed into not having sex or that he is uncomfortable with portrayals of gay sex. He’s just lamenting his boring sexual orientation both on and off the screen. That’s the price you pay for mainstream acceptance, my man. But he’s not a homophobe. I’d dare say he loves the gays more than Queerty does!
JohnMc888
Good comment.
daver01
If he thinks straight men and straight sex are being marginalised, he should remember that gay sex was a criminal offence in the UK until as late as 1967!
Mr-DJ
I’d say Theo Hobson has issues and he is trying to find someone ELSE to blame it on. Talk about your snowflake! Own it Theo. Take responsibility…!
JohnMc888
Lol, where does this guy hang out? Where I live heterosexuality is busting out all over. Maybe he’s an aspiring comedian.
Josh447
This article is obviously a shill.
hansniemeijer
What used to be “normal’, sometimes at all cost, is declining. I am not shedding a single tear for the shrinking dominance of the patriarchy.
GayEGO
Oh my! Hobson is feeling what we have felt for centuries about being excluded from “normal society”. Gender has not changed, civilization learning who we are has changed to make us part of “normal society”.
lambchopp59
Here’s the worlds smallest violin playing “My heart bleeds for Theo”.
robert_moore
Poor Theo can’t get laid, and he thinks it’s because liberal creative writers have made straight sex shameful and dirty. More likely, he cannot get laid because he’s such a prat. All the straight people I know seem to be just as sexually active as they always have been.
radiooutmike
He upset because only 99% of sex in the media is heterosexual? Ugh.