What’s with guys who think sending a picture of their junk is an appropriate way to start a conversation? That’s what one university student wants to know.
“Recently, I made a short-lived decision to give the dating apps another go,” Tim Mottishaw writes in a new op-ed titled Dick pics don’t make for a good first impression. “I’d forgotten about one of the big things that drove me away last time: dick pics as a greeting.”
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Apparently, Mottishaw is not a fan of dick picks and he wants the gay men of the universe to know: “Sending me a shot of your Mr. Willie is not going to get you anything but blocked.”
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“Apps like Grindr, the biggest culprit, have a certain element of ‘this is what it is; people are on here to hook up’ to it,” he says.
But does it have to be like that? he wonders. What about just a good, old-fashioned, “Hey. What’s up?” to get a conversation going? Whatever happened to that?
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Mottishaw admits that he’s “no angel” and that he has definitely sent his fair share of naughty photos to other guys, “yet that also doesn’t excuse the pic as a greeting, or without request.”
“Feel free to send and share sexual pics,” he says. “There are some relationships where that’s acceptable for everyone involved, and even some fetishes and kinks that rely on it, and that’s OK. What isn’t appropriate is using a dick to start a conversation with a stranger, no matter how ‘horned up’ you may be.”
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Finally, to all you potential suitors out there, Mottishaw says the best way to get a response from him is to “say ‘hi,’ comment on my profile, and above all, ask me before you send one.”
What are your thoughts on unsolicited nudie pics?
NateOcean
Clearly I’ve been mis-informed on this matter.
dean089
When? About 20 years ago. Timely article.
ChrisK
I kind of agree. Best not to send it out as your first response. However, I can see the practical side of it too. What if your looking to get fucked by something substantial. Don’t you think you might want to see it first.
Guys that get bent out of shape over it are usually just insecure about their own junk.
DMRX
Contrary to Mr. Mottishaw’s belief, I think that “Hey. What’s up?” is even worse as an opener.
Prax07
How about opening with “Hey I read your profile, wanted to say Hey” instead of “What are you looking for” and a dick pic?
Chris
Some guys are direct and to the point, so to speak. Other guys like to chat a bit, first.
I sort of fall into the latter group; so when/if someone starts by sending or by asking for a junk shot, I say that I’m not interested. And leave it at that. No need to turn it into anything more than it is.
Just remember, once your pic is out there, it’s out there…..
TinoTurner
We’re all doomed. I’m an attractive, sexual person but the idea that someone is bending over, squatting over their phone and taking photos of their hole is….sad. No matter how sexy the guy is, no matter how horny I am….that won’t fly. Because I’m not into seeing/sending dick pics…..it seems like I never get laid…but at least I have my self respect.
ChrisK
@TinoTurner: The fact that your getting all prissy about it is more the reason. You sound like an uptight twat. I don’t send them but I don’t really care if someone does.
Me2
It’s the internet, kind of comes with the territory. That’s why there’s also a “block” button. This is really a non-issue for most people. Just lower your expectations when on these apps and you’ll be just fine.
o.codone
More people should send dik piks to me. I’ll curate them and publish a little picture book. Bedtime visuals for fa*gs. Color coded. Brown, black, white, yellow, red, mixed. In that order. Start with the luscious, uncut, brown fatties. Eat my way through to the end. Okay, I need to hook up. Right now.
Mike
Please. These uppity queens. If you want conversation and inner beauty don’t get on Grindr. Perhaps Match or Christian Mingle?
TinoTurner
@ChrisK: And you sound like a “common” homo with no self-respect.
stevetalbert
If someone is using a sex date phone app, then one should expect dic pics. To be “insulted” shows immaturity and false prudishness. Those are casual sex hook up sites and no different than meeting a stranger at a gym locker room shower or nude beach and just saying hi in passing. Just because you trade dic pics doesn’t mean you have to meet. Have some respect, Jesus.
stevetalbert
Fyi. If someone texted me “hey what’s up?” on a phone hookup app, I’m assuming they want to see a pic of it up. Why else would some9ne say something that would otherwise be so lame and cliche?!