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HE'S GOT THE LOOK

WATCH: Does This Guy Look Gay To You?

By Editors October 5, 2013 at 1:10pm · 41 comments

Do people look gay? Do they dress gay? Do straight people have gaydar? Vlogger MarkE Miller trots around his college campus to answer these pressing questions and becomes his own guinea pig for this hardhitting investigative expose fun look at how male students view gay people.

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41 Comments

  • El

    From we’ve learned ‘gaydar’ is not all based on appearance, the is another component…

    October 5, 2013 at 2:10pm
  • QJ201

    I dunno, put a dick in his mouth and let’s see.

    And they all look gay…like Sean Cody, Corbin Fisher, Fratmen, etc. gay.

    October 5, 2013 at 2:10pm
  • tardis

    Cool video…awkward as hell!

    October 5, 2013 at 3:10pm
  • yaoming

    He seemed to encounter a high percentage of gays.

    October 5, 2013 at 3:10pm
  • indigofem1

    I’m a lesbian femme…my entire life guys tried to pick-me up and after hearing that I’m a lesbian they said that I don’t “look” like a lesbian…for years I didn’t know what it meant…lesbians – and gays – aren’t an ethnic group…we come in all kinds…then another lesbian told me that her girlfriend, also a femme, got the same “you don’t look like a lesbian’…she explained that straight people think that all lesbians are butch…ridiculous thing to think, but there you have it…for some reason lipstick lesbians aren’t considered “lesbian” enough…

    October 5, 2013 at 3:10pm
  • Katbox

    @El: It’s called grindr.
    @indigofem1: So gay women DO come to this site. Interesting…

    October 5, 2013 at 4:10pm
  • Aaron

    NO DISRESPECT whatsoever, MarkE is an attractive and humorous YouTube personality, but I think he’s over-accentuating his voice and straight? persona. I think this video is more about him congratulating himself on not coming across as feminine while seeking validation from random straight men.

    October 5, 2013 at 5:10pm
  • gymmuscleboy

    @Aaron: I think you hit the nail on the head

    October 5, 2013 at 5:10pm
  • esrose

    Yes, yes, yes. And what does that mean anyway? I really find this offensive. First of all, if he is trying to look butch as some suggest, it isn’t working. Second, what is this all about? Try again. Does he look gay? No, no, no. Try that one on. If you can slightly adjust your eyes, he looks like a nice young man asking a weird question. It is very very awkward. I can “make someone look gay” with my head in an instant. I would guess that there are now a lot more people watching guys to see if they are gay or not.

    October 5, 2013 at 7:10pm
  • iMort

    Excuse me but as an older gay man I feel that the line between gay and heterosexual has become so blurred as not to matter anymore. I think that we must accept the fact that humans evolve. To me most young people seem gay. Good or bad i do not care. Forget labels and just be yourself. My gaydar went on the fritz 15 years ago and I love it. Bless you all.

    October 5, 2013 at 7:10pm
  • iMort

    Oh yea. Who cares. He is too cute. Great babies or a sweet lover. It is all good.

    October 5, 2013 at 7:10pm
  • TheNewEnergyDude

    Love the fact that these young kids don’t seem to care if someone’s gay and are quite cool with it.

    Love the fact that these young kids are coming out so young…and are secure in themselves.

    Amazing how far we’ve come in 20 – 25 years…

    October 5, 2013 at 7:10pm
  • Stache1

    @Aaron: I’ve watched his other videos and I didn’t detect any over compensating that you refer too. Get him drunk with some of his less the masculine freinds and that might change though.

    October 5, 2013 at 8:10pm
  • nephilim71

    This is so lame…what difference does it make if others think you look “gay” or “straight?” Perception is relative.

    October 6, 2013 at 12:10am
  • Mark

    There’s a softness, a prettiness, a well-groomedness there, plus of course the HUGE need for affirmation as a male. That spells gay.

    October 6, 2013 at 12:10am
  • Mark

    “Based on my narcissism, do I seem gay to you?”

    October 6, 2013 at 12:10am
  • Lazycrockett

    Its like asking does this make me look fat to a complete stranger, who’s gonna say yes?

    October 6, 2013 at 1:10am
  • yaoming

    Maybe he should have asked: “Do I look straight to you?”
    I guess he still can.

    October 6, 2013 at 2:10am
  • SFHarry

    This video goes on too long. I stopped 80% through it. I sort of felt like he was trying to confirm that he doesn’t look gay which I found offensive after a while. It felt like the interviewees really could care less and he was so proud to reveal the “shocking” truth that he actually is gay. So what if he did look gay. There is nothing wrong with looking gay.

    October 6, 2013 at 3:10am
  • Bozen

    “Does this guy look gay to you?”
    Yes. Look at his body language and eyes.

    “Do people look gay?”
    Yes, some more-so than others.

    “Do they dress gay?”
    Yes, some more-so than others.

    “Do straight people have gaydar?”
    Yes, some more-so than others.

    October 6, 2013 at 4:10am
  • John Harper Jr.

    I said “GAY” to myself a few seconds into the video.

    October 6, 2013 at 4:10am
  • balehead

    This is more about self promotion than the issue…..

    October 6, 2013 at 8:10am
  • Miss Understood

    I don’t get it, I thought he seemed very gay. Not Richard Simmons gay, but gay. My first assumption upon meeting him would definitely be gay. Nope, I’m not always right, but usually when I’m wrong it’s because They’re European.n We’re trained in American Mannerisms, foreigners from almost any countries can accidentally set of my gaydar.

    October 6, 2013 at 11:10am
  • gaypikachu

    this guy really loves himself

    October 6, 2013 at 11:10am
  • indigofem1

    I don’t know if other women come to this site…but I take offense at the “gay” term…I prefer to call myself “lesbian”…

    October 6, 2013 at 12:10pm
  • indigofem1

    OMG…one’s gaydar can quit??? Tell me it’s not true…

    October 6, 2013 at 12:10pm
  • crowebobby

    Okay, I’m prepared to be torn apart for this, but I think he looks gay simply because of the softness of his expression at all times — it’s somehow different than timidness or gentleness or femininity: he looks totally submissive to me (and I don’t mean sexually). I’m not saying all gays have this quality or it’s a negative quality,just that to me he has it and I would assume he’s gay no matter what he was wearing or how he was groomed.

    October 6, 2013 at 1:10pm
  • viveutvivas

    It’s like someone saying to a black person they don’t sound black and intending that as a compliment. Clueless.

    October 6, 2013 at 2:10pm
  • Dxley

    What’s to “look gay”? And fuck! We have girls in here? -______________-

    October 6, 2013 at 2:10pm
  • jmmartin

    People only look gay if you want them to be.

    October 6, 2013 at 8:10pm
  • Rockery

    @Aaron:

    Exactly. This exercise is pointless other than to make himself feel great for qualifying for “straight-acting” . He is a disgrace

    @Lazycrockett:

    DING DING DING

    Most people will not say yes even if they think it, especially when they see a camera is recording them. A better way to find out is to have him far away just doing something regular and have someone else from a distance ask “do you think this guy over there is straight or gay” it’s not perfect but I’m sure he would have got a lot more gay responses that way (but we know he isn’t trying to actually get data, this is just self glorifying and more so self PROMOTION)

    October 7, 2013 at 6:10am
  • indigofem1

    YUP!!! You sure do!!!

    October 7, 2013 at 7:10am
  • krystalkleer

    umm there’s more life press’n things to think about than if someone’s a pole smoker or not! http://getoffmydress.blogspot.com/2013/10/huffn-and-puffn-and-blooown-house-down.html

    October 7, 2013 at 10:10am
  • Jason b.

    This is the second video from this guy that I attempted to watch through till the end, but for the second time I find something icky about the way it was done. Can’t put my finger on it but I suspect it’s the lone approach that makes it so self serving for its creator. I love good sociological experiments, polls or situational scenarios using real people. If he would have had a separate person filming and at least one other guy with a different look to take some of the spotlight off the main guy it would have been more interesting. However, as it stands the self promotion and his pride in his ability to fool folks is on the verge of a quiet dis-approval of more obvious gay attributes or stereotypes.

    He is pretty to look at so he needs to improve his technique so that people can tolerate his material.

    October 7, 2013 at 10:10am
  • GeriHew

    @indigofem1: “Gay” is a non-gender specific term; “lesbian” is.

    However with regard to identifying sexual orientation the term “lesbian” is somewhat less specific than the term “gay” the way most people use it.

    Also with regard to men hitting on you, the word lesbian turns a lot of men on and piques their interest. The term “gay woman” generally doesn’t.

    October 7, 2013 at 12:10pm
  • the other Greg

    They all look gay to me. But he says right at the beginning of the video, “I’m not here to entertain you guys.” That’s for sure!

    October 7, 2013 at 1:10pm
  • Thomas

    @Jason b.: I’m similarly uncomfortable when watching these ‘vloggers’ try to do anything requiring more than middle-school intellectual curiosity. Their ego ultimately obfuscates the complexity of the question they set out to address, and it all boils down to some self-referential anecdotes and self-confirming biases. If he’s “not here to entertain you guys” then what is he trying to do? If he think he’s going to educate us then he’s doing a pretty terrible job at it.

    He’s pretty. But that makes him as utilitarian as an adult film actor to me.

    October 7, 2013 at 2:10pm
  • indigofem1

    Point taken…I’m European and in my country the word “lesbian” is an insult…when I speak my native language I call myself “gay”…as far as lesbians turning men on…you’re definitely right about that…except men don’t know I’m a lesbian…according to straight people I don’t “look” like one…go figure…

    October 7, 2013 at 6:10pm
  • sportsguy1983

    He should ask people if he looks like a d-bag looking for attention.

    October 8, 2013 at 10:10am
  • Curtispsf

    He should have just asked “Hey, would it be OK if I sucked your dick right now?” That would have yielded more “GAY” answers.

    February 11, 2016 at 6:02pm
  • baggins435

    There were 6 kids in my family; the three oldest of us are gay. My next younger brother was the first to come out back in the mid 80’s. I used to visit him a lot when he lived in another state. He would have his friends over and they constantly tried to tease and embarrass me with over-the-top flirting and innuendo. They were always surprised to find out I was also gay. In the 90’s I was working on a government project overseas and it turned out that out of 100 employees for my company, more than 10 were gay/lesbian, and 20 were left handed. They were also surprised to find out I was gay. I have never felt I acted any particular way. I never played sports, but we all grew up fixing cars and helping dad with repairs and projects. We all use power tools and can build most construction type projects. I live in Utah right now and the first thing I learned was this game called “Are they gay or Mormon?” Of course, the gay bars are crowded every night of the General Conference the Mormons have twice a year in Salt Lake City, so the game probably should be “Are they out or closeted?” Most of the guys who hit on me seem to be married. My gaydar sucks, so I quit trying to guess many years ago.

    July 26, 2016 at 8:07pm

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