WATCH: Gay Couple’s Surprising Engagement In Home Depot In Utah Comes Complete With Flash Mob

Will watching surprise engagement videos ever get old? Not if they’re as joyous as this one. When Dustin went to the Home Depot in Salt Lake City, he thought he was helping his roommate pick out lighting for a party. But when he was led to the lumber aisle,  he discovered friends and family who broke into a flash mob and ultimately a marriage proposal from his boyfriend Spencer — all choreographed to the song “Somebody Loves You” by Betty Who.

Here’s hoping they make it past their wooden anniversary.

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  • AlanZ

    I cried. Congrats and much luck and love guts! My husband and I just married this August after almost 14 years together. When people ask how we do it I always say we are best friends. That’s the start.

  • Joe Dalmas

    This looks totally over-produced. I don’t buy there was a single surprise in it.

  • CalgaryBill

    What are the chances that THD will mention it on its website?

  • EricNYCity

    @Joe… who cares.. it was very sweet. You’re just jealous, cause no one loves your sorry ass!

  • sportsguy1983

    Who the heck proposes at a Home Depot? Really? And seiously people, stop proposing in public for everyone to see and then posting it online. Stop looking for your 15 minutes of fame.

  • TimSimms

    @EricNYCity: Aww, come on now. Joe’s comment was stupid, but yours is just ugly.

  • CalgaryBill

    @sportsguy1983 – big deal. If you don’t like it, just ignore it.

  • Goforit

    @Joe Dalmas: @CalgaryBill: @sportsguy1983: Havn’t you people ever been in love? Are you so miserable that you have to try and ruin others happiness? Grow a fucking heart or at least get some therapy.

  • CalgaryBill

    @goforit – Huh? I was telling a critic of the lovers to back off. How did I put a damper on the lovers?

  • sfbeast

    Loved it. Made me cry. I loved how all of the friends and family were involved.

  • Goforit

    @CalgaryBill: Sorry CalgaryBill I missed your second post. I was responding to your first post about HD. Someone of several someones at the Salt Lake HD had to give thier ok for this to happen. Even if the coporate office didn?t have a clue. Again, sorry for including you with these other idiots.

  • Shortsfreak

    How amazing for these two guys to have such wonderful friends and supportive family
    The vid was great not overdone and really natural with lots of work gone in it too!

    I wish these lovely guys lots of love and luck

    with friends and family like they have they will have a great life together
    Well done everyone

  • Atomicrob

    Well done. Congrats!

  • mz.sam

    Awwwwww…so adorably gobsmacked cheeky!

  • the other Greg

    @CalgaryBill: “What are the chances that THD will mention it on its website?”

    Not on their customer site, but on their internal employee site & print newsletter… yeah it’s possible. They are big on “diversity and inclusion” (even in states like Utah where that’s discouraged by laws & culture). You can be fired for being gay in Utah, but not at THD.

    This event probably had the involvement of openly gay employees, and as @Goforit: points out, it must have had store manager approval, probably higher level too.

  • Cam

    @Joe Dalmas:


    Actually if you have been to Utah or know lots of Mormons you will know that this is not uncommon. Mormon kids are sort of taught to go overboard for simple things. i.e. don’t just ask a girl out, remove the distributor cap on her car, then put a bunch of balloons under the hood of the car attached to a sign asking her to the prom.

    Or, if you are a girl and asking a guy out, she would have different friends come up to him throughout the day each with a cupcake with one word on it that when they are put together would have a message.

    Trust me, this was pure normal in Utah. And THAT is the problem that the Mormons are having with gays. These guys were obviously raised Mormon. And Their families and friends are obviously ok with them being gay and most likely have left the church.

    The Church doesn’t know how to deal with the fact that Devout Mormon families keep having gay kids!!

  • ncman

    How did a gay man leave his house wearing a shirt with vertical stripes and shorts with window pane checks?

  • twoguysbrooklyn

    I love the Depot. I like looking at the tile aisle and the kitchen section. And the nursery? ; fagetaboutit.

    And there are always hot contractors in the lumber area and the rent-a-tool corner.

  • balehead

    There was no surprise…the whole thing looked fishy….

  • TinoTurner

    I believe in love and I’m currently with an amazing guy that I hope to be mine forever one day. However, this is such a vulgar display! What about intimacy? Why the need to have a movie (shot from 3 different angles) made? This is the definition of over the top and as someone said, desperate for their 15 minutes. Yeah Yeah Yeah….its their money and they can do whatever they want, I know…but that doesn’t mean that theyre not attention seekers for this.
    My man better take me to a lake or a vineyard and propose…so I can accept and hold him for hours while we cry tears of joy….Not fucking spend thousands of dollars at a stinking home depot.

  • Thom in MD

    @TinoTurner: I see no difference with this than I do with a straight man proposing on a giant screen at a sports event. Some people like letting the world know they love each other. I hope your man does propose to you in a private setting. Mine did.

  • erasure25

    @sportsguy1983: yea, go back in the closet! And get off my lawn too!!! :\

  • Deepdow


    Um, this wasn’t vulgar lol.

  • TinoTurner

    @Deepdow: It was a vulgar display of wealth and a pathetic way of getting attention. Why do people need to broadcast their feelings when these poor people just came to HD to buy some WD-40?

  • TinoTurner

    @Thom in MD: Proposals at sports events don’t require the cost that this “made exclusively for youtube” video did.

  • orcanyc

    Just lovely, Congrats!!!

  • sportsguy1983

    @erasure25, bite me!

  • contos

    @TinoTurner: What I find vulgar and pathetic is when people have to take something beautiful and try to make it into something ugly. There are plenty of valid things to be upset about in the world. Criticizing how a gay person goes about proposing to his partner, on a gay web site, in an manner that was completely filled with love by everyone involved is pretty low. I am beyond tired of the commenters here who have nothing better to do with their lives than to badmouth good people and to be judgmental of others. You reap what you sow. Why don’t you try learning about kindness and compassion. Cynicism is ugly.

  • fagburn

    I was kinda hoping he’d say ‘no’…

  • nature boy

    Beautiful… wish them all the happiness in the world. Nothing negative can be said about this celebration of love and commitment…. and that so many friends and family are supporting the couple and willing to put all this time and effort into their friendships and familial relationships. Queerty critics– begone. You have no power here. Love conquers all.

  • Deepdow


    Here, here.

  • Deepdow

    Uh, I meant hear hear :p

  • fredhotman

    Beautiful. Very moving. Wishing you a happy future.

  • loua61

    @contos: I could not agree more. I do not understand why people are so mean ,weather it was fake or over done or cheesy, or trying to get 15 minutes of fame, it was what the man proposing wanted to. And when fagburn said he hoped he said no was just ugly and jealous. Be happy for other people and wish them well with any luck it will come back to you with good luck and happiness. I thought it was beautiful and to be brave enough to do it at home Depot with all the straight men there I thought took balls.

    Pray for me my gay brothers that I find someone who wants to build a life with me. I’ve had a couple of relationships that have failed and and it’s my time to find one that’s a winner. It’s what we all want, let’s be happy for those who have already got it.

  • Hermes

    @Joe Dalmas: Oh I do, there have been quite a few flashmobs, some of them not even marriages that have shocked the person. You don’t expect it. There was one at Disney where the girl didn’t even know it had anything to do with them until the guy joined it at the very very end from standing with her and then proposed.

  • Hermes

    @TinoTurner: Proposals at Disney do, and there have been some flashmobs there. Why do you care? Exactly? I think its cool.

  • balehead

    The real talent will be in seeing how long they stay married……

  • Brian

    A lot of these comments sound like sour grapes to me. Guess the adage “haters are going to hate” is accurate. I wish the best for this young couple and found it very romantic.

  • crowebobby

    I find the most encouraging thing about this video is the four very young boys sitting on the right side. To me they indicate REAL progress. They are at the age when males have always been most susceptible to some degree of gay panic. The fact that they are so obviously on board (with no trace of embarrassment) is not only a sign of their acceptance, but makes me think their peers are probably not foaming at the mouth homophobes either. I may be wrong about that last part, but I hope not.

  • jwrappaport

    Isn’t Home Depot more appropriate for a lesbian proposal? Heh. Heh.

    @TinoTurner: You should be nominated for the most joyless Queerty user of the year. Good grief.

  • GayTampaCowboy

    I don’t get how so many folks are bitter, jaded and miserable that they have to watch a video like this – which CLEARLY the guy who put this all together put a great deal of time to coordinate (and capture on film for BOTH of them to be able to look back and enjoy later) – and not just enjoy it for what it is…an outward sign of love and a promise of a life-long commitment.

    I say that videos and actions like this by happily-committed gay couples add unique validity to the argument FOR FULL MARRIAGE RIGHTS FOR GAY COUPLES!

    I love it!

  • xando

    I love how the moment somebody shows any reservation about the overblown nature of these kinds of proposals, a whole bunch of knee jerk responses come right out of the wood work labeling that person hateful, self-hating, closeted, lonely, a loser and bitter.

    Are we really so childish and bitchy that we can’t accept or see how someone might see something that should be an intimate moment of commitment between two people turned into a circus and a vaudeville show as maybe overblown and perhaps even garish. It doesn’t mean that the person who thinks that is some hateful jerk who should have his gay card stripped.

    I personally find very public overproduced proposals to be the very definition of classless and yes straight men who propose to their women on the jumbotron in front of thousands of people are being tacky too. There is nothing intimate about it, you’re just unzipping your pants and showing everybody just how big your [email protected]*k is. Love is wonderful and it is beautiful but a flash mob proposal is just tacky.

    Living as openly gay, holding hands with your man(or woman) maybe even kissing him in public because you want to and because it feels good (Not because you’re trying to make a point) to me is the best way to show that being gay has every right to be out in the open as anything else. The rest is just show business.

    I know I would cringe if I were proposed to like this. It’s not that it can’t be in public. Please go ahead, do it in the middle of 6th avenue if you’re compelled. But leave the professional camera crew at the studio. If it is to be our moment then I sure as hell don’t need for it to be on youtube.

    Let the hate begin.

  • Brian

    It pleases me to see that just from the YouTube likes vs. Dislikes, a whopping 82% support this video. Really warms my heart that we have come such a long way to acceptance.

  • Brian

    @xando: I completely respect your opinion, but at the same time, I have very glad that you are in the minority.

  • Brian

    Sorry, “have” should be “am”

  • amac

    Meanwhile, a couple of lesbians are waiting for this circus to end so they can GET THEIR LUMBER ALREADY.

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