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Family Adopts 15-Year-Old Gay Teen Who Was Disowned By His Family

15-year-old Michigan teenager Corey Nichols (pictured) knew he was in trouble when he heard his father say, “If any fag lived in this house, I would shoot them in the head with a shotgun.”

In an interview with the local radio program Out In Santa Cruz, Corey said he kept his sexual orientation hidden from his family, afraid of what his conservative parents might do if they knew he was gay.

Growing up, he claims his father used to beat him. He also told Corey that gay people weren’t just sinners, they were sin itself, and that they were killed when they reached a certain age.

One night, Corey got drunk and developed a fever. His parents, suspecting their son might be gay, ignored him. Days later, at 2 o’clock in the morning, he was delirious and suicidal. He went online to chat with his friend Aubrey.

“I am desperate.  Things here are so bad, I want to slit my wrists.  I am not kidding,” he wrote to her.

At that moment, Aubrey’s mother, Mindy, happened to see what was on her daughter’s computer screen. She immediately jumped into action.

“It was like I was possessed by someone else,” she told Out In Santa Cruz. “I knew I needed to act, and to do something, but everything I did was against my nature and not how I usually act as a person.”

Mindy and Aubrey went over to Corey’s house and picked him up. When they got back to their home, Mindy was horrified to see Corey was almost blue from pneumonia. For the next two weeks, she and her husband Dale nursed him back to health. During that time, Corey’s parents allegedly never inquired about their son.

After recovering, Corey returned home. He confessed to his mother that he was gay. She passed the news onto Corey’s father, who flew into a rage.

“He was yelling and screaming about how a fag was living in his home and he can’t believe the devil was in his presence,” Corey told Out In Santa Cruz“I locked myself in my room when my brother came home. The first thing my father did was tell him about how his brother was nothing but a worthless fag.”

Corey claims when his parents and brother tried breaking down the bedroom door, he took refuge in the bathroom. After they had gone to sleep, he slipped out of the house, never to return again.

With nowhere else to turn, he returned to his friend Aubrey’s house. Her family once again took Corey in, this time permanently.

“Initially we set Corey’s bedroom up in our basement,” Dale explained. “We gathered what we could since he didn’t bring anything with him. His first bedroom in our home was made of walls with moving blankets tacked to the ceiling. There was a bed, a nightstand, an old dresser and a box fan. That kid was so freaking happy … Made me cry to see Corey with next to nothing and be happy about it.”

Weeks later, Mindy and Dale filed a petition to formally adopt Corey. On the day of the court hearing, Corey’s birth family didn’t show up to contest the adoption.

“I want the world to know that Corey is a beautiful human being,” Mindy told Out In Santa Cruz. “I want the world to see Corey’s pain and know it is not necessary. Sexuality is such a small part of who we are. First and foremost Corey is a loving, genuine, caring, intelligent human being. Who he is attracted to and who he marries is of little significance.”

Since going public with his story earlier this week, Corey’s birth family is claiming the whole thing is a lie. On Monday, Corey’s brother James posted the following message on his Facebook page:

For all you that read my brothers little pity story on here, it’s a joke and I’m honestly in shock someone has enough nerve to lie about shit like that. Yes some is true but the major key points are false. If anyone has a problem come to me my brother is a fake and a coward. He has the power to manipulate a person better then anyone I know.

Corey’s sister, Hailey, replied to the post by writing:

They knew exactly what they were doing. Funny how Corey’s “story” was published the day after gay marriage becomes legal in some parts of MI.

To which James responded:

Exactly fucking homos. You know why every homo is successful. Because they our selfish and all they care about is themselves.

Corey’s mother, Angie, then inserted her two cents:

I cant believe it myself, we never kicked corey out, he left. he was in no danger from his dad, he would never hurt corey, he just don’t believe in gays he don’t support it, he has his beliefs.

To which James replied:

Karma is a bitch and it’s coming his way.

“Standing up for what is right is not always easy, but it is always right,” Mindy told Out In Santa Cruz“Our family fell in love with Corey for Corey… His sexuality did not change who he was. I also want the world to know that we are a family. I want people to understand that genetics are just science. Families are built from unconditional love.”

Dale added that he occasionally sees Corey’s birth father around town. “He knows how to put on a front,” he explained. “He smiles and acts like nothing is a big deal. He says, ‘thanks, appreciate what you are doing for my boy.”

Dale will nod his head and move along, then quietly whisper: “I have news for you. He is not your boy. He’s my son.”

Hear Corey and Mindy’s full interview with Out In Santa Cruz below.

h/t Evol=

By:           Graham Gremore
On:           Mar 27, 2014
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    • redcarpet

      Paraphrasing John cleese: The problem with people this stupid is that they don’t realize exactly how stupid they are.

      “Thats just his beliefs” is not an excuse for disowning your son. And it doesn’t change the fact that they DID NOT contest the petition for adoption. That is enough said right there.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 5:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Apparatus

      “You know why every homo is successful. Because they our selfish and all they care about is themselves.”

      I can’t with Teh Stupid.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 5:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ack747

      Corey said he kept his sexual orientation hidden from his family, afraid of what his conservative parents might do if they knew he was gay.

      Note to Queerty: “conservative” and “religious” are not synonymous. The father was yelling about “devil’s spawn,” not gay political platforms.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 5:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SteveDenver

      @ack747: You make a good point: there are kind, tolerant, loving religious people: it’s just difficult to hear them over the loud, bigoted people who use religion and conservative politics as their shield.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 5:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • waynehastings

      There are people who are conservative religiously as well as people who are conservative politically, so the family has been described correctly. They are religious conservatives as opposed to religious liberals. (I would presume they are also politically conservative and vote Republican, but that’s just a guess.)

      Mar 27, 2014 at 5:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SteveDenver

      If I were Dale, I would ask, “Exactly what do you think I’m doing for Corey?” since the family seems united in avoiding any shame. Let’s see: they didn’t show up to contest the adoption. That speaks volumes.

      Corey’s “birth brother” certainly seems hot-headed (and borderline illiterate). It clearly hasn’t occurred to him that being foul mouthed and aggressive supports Corey’s version of events, not his.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 6:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Charlie in Charge
      Charlie in Charge

      The good news here is that there are people like Mindy and her husband in the world with the love and courage to do what his birth parents did not.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 6:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tookietookie123

      The reason we gay people are more successful isn’t because we’re gay, it’s because people have treated us like crap our entire life, so we strive for something better, and we excel in our endeavors to better ourselves, something homophobes can’t quite comprehend on part of their stupidity. What that kid’s family did is indescribable. They shouldn’t be allowed to reproduce and I hope they get what’s coming to them. Stupid homophobes.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 6:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • vive

      @jonjct, LOL, I also wondered about the no shirt.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 6:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • oldbrit

      Corey’s birth family didn’t show up to contest his adoption. That’s in court records and easily proves Corey’s birth family are a bunch of hateful bigots who use The Bible as an assault weapon. They’re fake Christians who wouldn’t recognize Jesus Christ if he came back to Earth and bit them on their bigoted asses.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 6:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • sethzhere

      You can be conservative and be loving to your gay child as well.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 7:10 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Aromaeus

      This story pains me so much, more than normal because it seems his entire immediate family is against him. Usually with stories like this the child’s siblings aren’t as bigoted as the parents but this is just disgusting. Props to Corey for leaving what seems to be a very toxic environment and I’m happy his friends’ family opened their home to him with no question.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 8:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Aromaeus

      Side-note, that boy is 15 you thirsty old fags need to sit down somewhere. Disgusting.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 8:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • derek mcgillicuddy
      derek mcgillicuddy

      I hate people.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 8:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Billy Budd
      Billy Budd

      Religion subverts nature. It makes people hate their own offspring.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 8:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Billy Budd
      Billy Budd

      Religion is poison.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 9:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tardis

      Jesus Christ. This sounds utterly horrendous. To think of the countless other LGBT youth in similar circumstances. I’m glad this kid got out.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 9:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • nudedude

      i congratulate him for surviving as long as he did…..how sad for his family…..fred phelps may be dead….but the hate he spewed still lives. corey is free to live

      Mar 27, 2014 at 9:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • numbsoul1

      So nice to hear that this kid found a family that had the strength to offer him a home with unconditional love and acceptance. It is so sad that in this day and age, with all of the things that these kids are growing up around and dealing with from day to day, that they should ever (even if for just a moment) doubt their own self-worth because of their own family’s personal or religious convictions. For heaven’s sakes…..do these families not watch the news? Be happy that your kid is healthy, intelligent, kind, and has enough empathy instilled in his or her being to care in the slightest what you as his or her parent or anyone else for that matter thinks about them. It makes no difference whether they turn out to be gay, straight or bi; These days we should only be wishful and pray that they happen to find someone, anyone, to share the up’s and down’s of their lives with and who will love them as you always tried to and who will do their best to treat them well. These stories sicken me. What is wrong with people?

      Mar 27, 2014 at 9:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • seaguy

      His despicable parents ought to be charged with child abuse and abandonment for failing to get him treated for the pneumonia and for basically abandoning him after learning he is gay. What vile evil people do that to this poor kid. Thank god he had a friend who had good parents willing to take him in and adopt him. His parents should not get off scott free from doing what they did. If they are so religious I hope they realize they are going to hell for this.

      Mar 27, 2014 at 10:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • David Gervais
      David Gervais

      What’s with you? A young man escapes an abusive environment and people are happy for him. What are you trolling about?

      Mar 27, 2014 at 11:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • David Gervais
      David Gervais

      Doesn’t Michigan have a child protection services agency with the authority to prosecute the parents for child endangerment, negligence and whatever else might apply?

      Mar 27, 2014 at 11:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Harley

      @David Gervais: apparently not if that abuse and negligence was part of their “deeply help religious beliefs”, which is now the code words for “BIGOTRY”.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 4:44 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • davegun2

      @Tookietookie123: I’m an old gay guy. When I was young I realized I had to do better than just what was expected, professionally. US Navy and in my career afterward. I did that so my superiors felt I was valuable to them. That way I could come out at some point. So yea, gays are more successful. We had to be.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 6:06 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam

      Several funny things.

      The birth Family claims the kid is a liar….and then proceeds to confirm every single thing that Cory said. They confirmed the dad is homophobic, they themselves made anti-gay remarks etc… Stupid people are funny.

      And to all the Log Cabiners with your feelings hurt coming on here crying that “Conservative” doesn’t mean anti-gay, then I suggest you take that up with the Republican Party. Being anti-gay is actually written into the Party platform, and the “Conservative” wing of the party is the wing that is pushing homophobia.

      If you want to take the word back then I suggest you make some noise against the people in your party who have appropriated the word, don’t complain on here because people are using the word to accurately reflect the reality of politics today.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 6:41 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • blondeboyz

      Another reason why people that believe in a fake religion will cause bad things to happen. That is why it is so very important to keep this crap out of public schools and politics.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 8:21 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SteveBmke

      Wow so many issues in one story. Glad there were people around to help this young man when he needed it. As you can see from his younger family’s comments, that is why hate will never die out-it just moves from one generation to the next. That is how Religion survives. Hate & Religion are more a learned behavior than Gay could ever have been claimed to be. Corey should focus on his facts, make a UTUBE video to all those other 15 year old gays and let them know there is hope in this world. Conservatives: that title carries a wide range. I am Fiscally conservative, I think most people assume that when you say conservative it implies to “morally” conservative meaning: Guns, God & White Men 1st. Queerty should do a better job of writing but then again I read it because it is the Gay Star or Gay Enquirer not the NY Times.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 10:04 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • CoachS

      I’ve had several 15yo players come out to me and ask me for advice. Invariably, their biggest worry is how their parents will react. I live in New England and with one exception, I’ve said “Dude – mom and dad are gonna have your back no matter what”… and the guys that chose to come out at home have had supportive parents. This story was a nightmare that turned into a dream. Made me tear up. Thank the Great Spaghetti Monster for people like the family that helped this young man. The other thing I’m sure of is that, if a parent weren’t supportive, my players’ teammates families would pick up the slack… because they “our not selfish” (also they’re straight AND successful – go do a “right bit o’ thinkin’ on that for a piece” James.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 10:10 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kathukid

      It simply blows my mind that any parent would reject their own child because they are gay.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 11:28 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Desert Boy
      Desert Boy

      @sethzhere: – A concern troll.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 12:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jessie R
      Jessie R

      The brother’s Facebook screenname may or may not be james.nichols.16752 and the mother’s may or may not be angie.nichols.399, do with that what you will.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 1:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Aromaeus

      @David Gervais: What the hell are you going on about?

      Mar 28, 2014 at 2:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • IcarusD

      That poor kid. I hope his adoptive family sues his birth family for child support and gets the local District Attorney to sue for child abandonment. Probably won’t happen, though, since the family is claiming he’s lying and left on his own accord.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 2:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Curtispsf

      At first, I wondered to myself if things had just moved too quickly for the birth family from Corey coming out to the adoption process from his new adopted family. After all if hate and bigotry are learned, can’t it be unlearned with time?

      And then my perspective shifted to Corey who no doubt had spent a lifetime of hiding in fear from a family who gave every indication they could not love a gay brother/son. At that point, I realized that giving this family time to come to their senses was irrelevant;; a child’s life hung in the balance. “And by their deeds you shall know them,” said Christ or the Flying Spaghetti Monster. Indeed, their conduct spoke volumes, from no medical care to not contesting adoption proceedings.

      Perhaps in time, their can be some contact and healing with the birth family; however, what’s most important right now is that Corey is surrounded by people who love him.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 3:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • loverboi1902

      No child should fear their own family. Religious or not. If they choose to hide behind religious practice then do as Jesus says in Mathew judge yet you be judged. IE ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME. If his family truly loved him they would of been in court. They could of approached this problem differently. They could of let it be known in my house this….. will not be allowed. Since you are gay and I do not approve of this course in life your taking here are the rules. To show I don’t support that life style. Yes I am gay. Yes I do read the bible. Yes I do know that God condemned people for this. But God condemns many sins that are going on today. When its time for my life to be judged the Lord is they only one I will answer to. Props to the family that took him in. That is being a true Christian.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 5:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • robirob

      “His first bedroom in our home was made of walls with moving blankets tacked to the ceiling. There was a bed, a nightstand, an old dresser and a box fan. That kid was so freaking happy … Made me cry to see Corey with next to nothing and be happy about it.”

      For some reason that part sticks out for me the most. Not the pain that Corey’s biological family put him through, but him being happy and his story having a happy end.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 5:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Captain proton
      Captain proton

      uh guys, this happened back in 2011 – the 15 year old is 19, has a cute boyfriend and a steady job. You can stop feeling sorry for him now.


      Mar 28, 2014 at 6:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • chubnal79

      something smells fishy here with the family’s statements. If you really cared about your son/brother, regardless of whether he was the truth or not…and especially if he wasn’t, you would have shown up for a court proceeding. I know that these proceedings are delivered by certified mail, attempts by phone calls and posted in the local news paper as measure of serving notice to the family of the proceedings.

      If you didn’t show up….it’s because you didn’t care. Me and my family had a falling out years ago, but my mom knew where I was at all times and was concerned of my well-being event when we had no contact with each other for 3 years. She knew of every place I ever laid my head to rest and I never told her. So to not show up, makes me believe Corey’s story A WHOLE LOT MORE.

      Mar 28, 2014 at 9:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • glittercomments

      @ack747: I come from one such loving open family. My grandfather is a minister in the United Church of Christ and he marries gays and lesbians in his Church. The message of love and acceptance exists in the religious world as well (there are plenty of good pastors out there!!!)

      Mar 28, 2014 at 11:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tricky ricky
      tricky ricky

      I live in michigan. after reading this story, then reading the original story someone provided the link to (thank you), I really don’t know what to think. the bits added by the other article make the story seem implausible. if the family lived in a trailer home then it would have taken about 20 seconds to break down the door and get the kid. also, at 15, he could have become an emancipated minor. how could they adopt him so quickly? nothing is mentioned about social services being involved (if it’s a legal adoption there are going to be caseworkers). how did an adoption go through so quickly? how is it that they adopted him without the parental rights of the birth parents being terminated? how did they nurse someone w/pneumonia back to health without seeing a doctor and getting treatment which would have required parental consent? this story has to be verified independently. it just seems a tad implausible. even the comments from the brother and sister are a little too good to be true.

      Mar 29, 2014 at 9:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Aaron

      Replace the story’s picture with that of a young Jamaican boy, this story would have received a lot less attention. We can all empathize with stories of abandonment and living in an intolerant environment but boy, if you are young, white, and attractive, the empathy level will push even further.

      Mar 29, 2014 at 9:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • coltonblack

      The story is touching and moving. I feel a lot of empathy for the kid. Messed up family!

      Mar 30, 2014 at 2:50 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jimy9992000

      I’m gonna call bullshit that that’s a photo of the 15-year-old in question and also go out on a limb and say this is another sensationalized fabrication, like the homophobic religious objection notes left on receipts in lieu of tips to gay restaurant servers, except wait, the customers didn’t write them, it was fake news. Who the fuck is that anti-gay and pro-gun in Santa Cruz anyway? I’m not here to fuckin’ roleplay, damn it, I want actual news related to queer shit that actually happened.

      Mar 30, 2014 at 3:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mezaien

      Corey, my man you are great and God, (not the Christian God)will blest you man. I have adopted three brothers no gays, but I know what it`s like.

      May 1, 2014 at 5:47 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ligacaoteen

      How to say for my parents that i’m gay: http://www.ligacaoteen.com.br/amigo-teen/como-assumir-aos-meus-pais-que-sou-gay/18078/

      Jul 7, 2014 at 11:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Zarius Corten
      Zarius Corten

      On a related side note:

      Jul 27, 2014 at 12:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • daveedo

      I just discovered this article, and I can confirm that this story is basically accurate. I have a connection to the boy in question, I unfortunately may have had a hand in the proceedings. I was a senior at Holly High School when he was a freshman, and a little embarrassingly had a huge crush on him all year long — he, being a fairly popular and very good-looking athlete (as well as being three years younger) always was very sweet but rebuffed any kind of flirtation (but always with a kind of knowing wink, I obviously could tell he was gay). That best friend of his was dating my best friend’s now-husband for most of the year, and they had a messy breakup that caused our friendship to go awry as well, and it was immediately following the end of the school year of 2010 that these events occurred. I heard the details secondhand but they were approximately the ones recounted in the story above. As for him in 2014, I last saw him at a home football game on a weekend home from college with his friend/sister, and he seems very well-adjusted after the years that have passed. He’s a wonderful person and I’m happy for him.

      Dec 17, 2014 at 5:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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