It seems like gay guys just can’t get enough of “straight” guys!
Related: “Straight” Guys Are Having More Bisexual Sex Than Ever Before, Study Finds
From some Reddit gays jumping at the chance to hook up with a “straight” married man, to the phenomenon of straight guys giving “Bro-jobs” on the side, it seems like we read/talk/think about straight guys more than other gay guys!
Related: Straight Dudes Sound Off On Letting Gay Men Explore Their Armpits
How about we take this to the next level?
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What that is doing to our own relationships with each other is purely speculative, so we pose the question to you, Queerty members:
Has The Gay Community’s Obsession With “Straight” Guys Gone Too Far?
Billy Budd
QUEERTY’s obsession has gone too far indeed.
etseq
Click bait alert – one of your writers is the one who is obsessed with straight guys.
Josh in OR
Yes.
I’m sick to DEATH of seeing ‘straight guys’ discussed ad infinitum by gay bloggers as some kind of holy grail. I’m sick of seeing ‘straight guys’ fetishized as some kind of ideal in porn, leading to people like Vadim Black being forgiven the HORRIBLE things he’s said about the sad gay men he calls his fans, while at the same time using illegal drugs to stay hard while doing something he finds to be disgusting.
News flash: No straight man is going to fuck you without either heavy drugs or money, or some combo of the two.
News flash #2: If you DO bag a ‘straight guy’, and drugs and money are not involved? You’ve bagged a bisexual who isn’t comfortable admitting he’s bi.
We need to stop fetishizing straight men and learn to accept the reality of bisexual men, both for our own well-being and theirs.
MarionPaige
when enough media report something often enough, it becomes fact, at which point trying to correct a misrepresentation becomes like trying to turn an Aircraft carrier around. What this topic needs is an historical prospective, when was “the straight guy” first marketed as desirable to gay men?
I’m almost positive that, in the 40’s / 50’s, “straight guy” actually meant more like what would today be called Tops. Military MEN were viewed as desirable because it was assumed that they all had to be straight and Tops. Then,
With the advent of The Gay Strip Club Circuit and home video market, some people realized some gay men would pay more for something they thought was rare and hard to get. Strippers and Go-Go Boys could get more money if they claimed to be straight. And, adult production companies realized that models marketed as straight sold more videos. Today,
Twenty-Something Kids are carrying around this straight guy baggage in their heads, probably without even knowing of its origin.
IDoNotHaveToAgreeWithYou
Actually it’s the idiot millennial transgenders that have taken over all the gay sites that keep pushing articles like that. No one is asking for them.
IDoNotHaveToAgreeWithYou
And why do you keep posting LGBTQ Nation articles off of a sudden? That is nothing to anti-gay trans agenda site.
Theonewhoismany
I feel a point has been reached where coming here for LGBTQ news is futile, rather I should come to this site if I desire to know or research what is new in heterosexual male culture/ sociality.
dean3000
I get it now. These gay news sites are run by people who despise gay men. Just like pink news in the uk, It’s run by a self hating pig
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
The cynicism in this post is almost too much to stomach and all without even the merest trace of irony it seems ..which is quite an achievement in itself I guess. So, yeah, well done
heavylifter
@etseq:
“Click bait alert – one of your writers is the one who is obsessed with straight guys.”
+1000
heavylifter
@Theonewhoismany:
“I feel a point has been reached where coming here for LGBTQ news is futile, rather I should come to this site if I desire to know or research what is new in heterosexual male culture/ sociality.”
But its all propaganda so you aren’t getting any sight into heterosexual men.
What would a bunch of bitter, sexually frustrated queens and blue haired man hating feminist “Gender Studies” majors know about men?
They are not men, too toxic and ugly to have ever been desired by a real man.
So why do they believe they know all about men?
Xzamilio
Queerty has become Tumblr…
onthemark
@etseq: “one of your writers is the one who is obsessed with straight guys.”
Make that THREE of their writers! The other two come to mind immediately. Actually I’m a little surprised at this one.
allegiance2none
NEWSFLASH! Get it through your thick skulls – Straight men want cawk just as much as you want a nice juicy snatch! There I said it. That is all.
Twitcher
Some of these articles are just stupid and speak to the lack of research done behind some articles. This is a stereotype.
MarionPaige
there is a post at The Mic Network that says:
“we can either spend our time researching and writing great content or, moderating comments.”
ChuckF
I’ve been around long enough to know this is a passing complaint. It’s been are gay men fucking too much? Then it was is the Internet ruining dating for gay men? And the perennial complaint the leather scene isn’t what it use to be. The more interesting question is what motivates a straight man to seek our sex with a gay man? I’d like to think it’s because we do sex better.
AnitaMann
Straight guys are repulsive. Given where they put their dick, I don’t want anything to do with them.
PretenderNX01
Well, right under this article is links to other articles on Queerty titled:
“Hetero Guys Open Up About Their Gay Porn Fetishes With Each Other”
“Two Straight “Bachelorette” Contestants Fall In Love, Confess To Hooking Up In The Shower”
“Ranker.com Lists “Good” Reasons For Straight Guys To Go Gay”
So maybe it’s just you Queerty.
Smart86
Queerty is obsessed with straight men. That’s why I start to read The Advocate to get my gay news. I see enough straight men privilege on my TV, I shouldn’t have to be putting up with them being worship on a “so-called”, gay news site. Get your act together queerty, stop lusting over straight men!
Brian
Part of the obsession is due to the fact that gay-identifying men miss the type of bonding that exists between straight-identifying men.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Rob Smith was one of the better writers (or less worse ?) here even allowing for his slightly sanctimonious Tumblr tendencies 🙁
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
I guess they must know what they’re doing…I mean they see the click thru numbers and all…so I guess it’s OUR fault ?
DCguy
Actually the only place I see this obsession is here in articles like this or in articles trying to claim that closet cases or bisexuals are “hetero flexible”.
I never hear actual real people obsess iver straight guys. Maybe the question should be, “Wy are the blog sights obsessed over something that their audience isn’t?”
bottom250
Straight or gay I love them all in me.
Zekester
Queerty has made the mistake of assuming that THEIR obsession with straight men is a problem in the greater gay community.
The one thing this gay man HATES about Queerty is your sick obsession with “straight” men who are supposedly lining up for gay sex. Here’s a little mantra to keep in mind. If a man is voluntarily having sex with you outside of a prison and you’re not raping him or paying him or supplying him with drugs then he isn’t straight; at most he is some degree of bisexual.
Zekester
@DCguy: Exactly! And I’ve never seen any other blog with this sick obsession.
Marky
@heavylifter: “What would a bunch of bitter, sexually frustrated queens and blue haired man hating feminist “Gender Studies” majors know about men?”
Exactly.
Dirtybird_Mary
Gross, gross, …the whole thing is gross. I don’t have any obcession w/ str8 guys AT ALL, & cannot relate to this story at all.
Dave Downunder
It is diabolical that Queerty are asking this question when they are one of the worst offenders of feeding this so called obsession. Every week there are several bullsh!t articles about straight men in some form or another on this site. Yes, there is an unhealthy obsession with straight men in the gay community and irresponsible publishing isn’t helping.
The gay community seems to keep telling itself that straight men are more worthy of our attention while on the other hand shouting out about self pride. It is one of the biggest mixed massages our community faces. So many self hating gays chasing straight men as their goal or trying to pass themselves off as straight like that somehow makes them more attractive or worthy. So many gay men call themselves straight or bi in their online profiles these days. It’s sad but I don’t see it changing any time soon.
Dirtybird_Mary
@Zekester: absoLUTEly !! I agree w/ Zekester!!
Dirtybird_Mary
Everyone is almost unanimous in their replies, which is somewhat relieving & incouraging.
Apparently no one knows about or shares Queertys beliefs about str8 obsession, & it giving shit (rightfully so) to Queerty for another dismal & ridiculous ‘news’ article, which insults all of our intelligence.
Dirtybird_Mary
* encouraging ….(oops)
Dirtybird_Mary
* oh & ‘IS giving shit’ … Not, “IT giving shit”
(Sorry I’m typing in a moving vehicle)
Dirtybird_Mary
? fuck.
martinbakman
It’s all about wanting a real man, right Kweartee? 😉
GC1985
If they are straight, they don’t want you. Yes, queerty you need to get over it. I would love to see more articles on feminine out gay men who are proud of themselves (unlike heavylifter).
Kangol
Queerty, I hate to say it but you’re a huge offender! Please just learn how to quit the whole “straight man” obsession. There are more than enough current and past news topics that deal with lesbians, and gay, bi, intersex, queer and trans women and men.
Chris
I come to this site to learn the news involving gay and bisexual men-and-women. I do not come here to read about straight men being fawned over by someone whose infantilism has yet to end. So,YES, Queerty’s obsession with straight guys has gone too far.
Hermes
I would say no. I’ve had a partner for almost 25 years, we have kids. He is bi – and honestly, more straight than gay – if he had not met me it is likely that he would have ignored his gay side and just lived as a straight man. In my teen and early 20s though I has a bit over a dozen friends with whom I had sex regularly – while a couple are bi, most are straight – and yes I do know what the word means. Straight is less straight-jacketing than we have always thought I suspect. There is nothing wrong with it – and its fun. I actually come here at least largely for the cute stories, and those include the gay/straight ones. I’m sorry that some people have too many hang ups to enjoy them, I don’t.
Be well.
JerseyMike
Fcuk them..
DCguy
@Hermes: stated : “In my teen and early 20s though I has a bit over a dozen friends with whom I had sex regularly – while a couple are bi, most are straight – and yes I do know what the word means.
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No, you don’t know what it means. If they were straight they would have had sex with a woman. If they ended up in straight relationships, then they are bi and in an opposit gender relationship.
The desperation to make bisexuals disappear is ridiculous, even your comment about your partner who wouldn’t have been with men “Except that he met you” sounds a bit delusional.
Not trying to be a jerk but your entire post screams of bi-erasure (Still can’t believe I agree with that term) and defending non-straight people desperate to label themselves as straight.
Mykey
@Dave Downunder: I completely agree with you! What about the gay-baiting by self-identifying straight guys on social media and celebrities, which queerty keeps posting for us and gay men swoon for! Some gay men have an obsession for straight boys, how about the gay-for-pay pornstars who have a large following in the gay community. I may be masculine, but I don’t call myself straight-acting or whatever inane term to define butch gays! I also have no problem with feminine men whatsoever, they are just being who they are!
Bill
Sadly, it seems that generally, gay men are the MOST interested in the guys that are LEAST likely to be gay, and the LEAST interested in the guys that are MOST likely to be gay.
Ultimately, it can’t help but lead to a lot of frustration.
I don’t see any parallel with lesbians, it’s just another twisted male thing.