As more and more straight men embrace the idea anal stimulation, some are finding their female counterparts not so into the idea. One particular Reddit user says he’s reached his wit’s end after his girlfriend, who used to love engaging in butt play, stopped going near his backend.
“My girlfriend of three years recently confessed she is only into vanilla sex,” the man writes in a Reddit thread. “Although we initially used to peg a few times a year, the frequency has turned to none whatsoever. She admitted she only did it in the first place because she wanted me to like her.”
The man says he is “genuinely sad” about this and fears he is now “destined for very vanilla sex forever.”
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To make matters worse, he can’t stop comparing his current girlfriend to his ex, who pegged him every time they had sex.
“It was something that at one point we were exclusively having anal sex,” he remembers, fondly, “me penetrating her and her turning the tables on me. Amazing sex, terrible relationship.”
He say he’s tried everything to convince his new girlfriend to touch his butt, including buying expensive double-header dildos, harnesses and other fancy bedroom gadgets, but she’s just not interested.
“I’m starting to think that this Midwest simpleton girl only pegged me initially to lure me in to thinking she was slightly kinky,” he writes.
As a result, the man says, he’s becoming less attracted to her and has begun having difficulty achieving orgasm.
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Oh, and just for the record, he wants everyone to know: “Just because I want something phallic in my ass doesn’t mean I want to have a relationship with some rainbow pride fest stereotypical LGBT type.”
So, he wonders, “what should I do?”
As usual, the other members of the Reddit community are filled with opinions.
“You not only seem bored,” one person writes, “you seem a bit angry.”
“You’re asking her to look and behave like a man would in sex,” someone else responds. “Combined with the fact you say her feminine body isn’t really doing it for you anymore and I can see her reluctance.”
“I feel sorry for your girlfriend,” another person adds.
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Others are more sympathetic to the man’s plight.
“In your shoes, I would find a new girlfriend,” one sympathizer says. “Sometimes two people are just not sexually compatible. Neither of them is wrong; they’re just not well suited for each other.”
“If this woman doesn’t ever want to peg you, you aren’t a good match,” another one adds. “Call off the wedding.”
“I would be pretty upset in your place,” a third person writes. “Bait and switch is ridiculous. Maybe you don’t need pegging all the time, but if you need at least occasional kink and she won’t provide it, break up. I mean talk to her first. Just lying there and not giving anything, even for vanilla sex, is not OK.”
What do you think this guy should do? Is it time for him to find a new girlfriend? And what about that “rainbow pride fest stereotypical LGBT type” remark? Sound off in the comments section below…
davidwhornii
I actually was approached by a good female friend who has admitted that she has explored both men and women, to meet with her boyfriend who wanted to experience what it was like to be topped by a man. I didn’t ask, I am assuming he may have already gone the “toy” route and felt it lacked a certain warmth shall I say…..anyway, I declined because part of the deal was to be a three way with them both. I felt that this would cause undue anxiety and discomfort between friends. I did suggest another great guy that may be approached with the request. So many articles in magazines these days, even mainstream, talking about this subject….No matter what people say about the press, written or televised, the power they have is amazing.
Gus Anderson
HELLO……you can do that by yourself.
Christopher Hayward
Dude if your Lady is willing and able. Have fun with her, this makes her feel sad.
Michael Golden
Hott BoyPussy. Mmmmmm
Bob Ashworth
Go peg yourself.
Billy Budd
It is perfectly normal to feel pleasure in the butt, even if you are straight. What makes you gay is if you masturbate thinking of men. If you feel attracted to men. I wish all straight guys would experiment with penetration. They would become less prejudiced.
Chris
Well this “rainbow pride fest” suggests that he DTMFA and find someone who is GGG.
Good sex is an important part of any relationship; and if she’s denying it to him while they are dating, it will get worse after he’s been hog-tied with a bunch of rugrats and other products of breeder society.
sfmike64
I’m with the Reddit commenter who said to break up with her. If they’re not sexually compatible and she only pegged him to get him to like her, this is not salvageable.
There are lots of women who’d be into pegging him, go find one. Woman on man anal play isn’t remotely gay, since it doesn’t involve two men or two women.
I will say that I love this dilemma. I’ve often said that there would be less war if more straight men were in touch with their buttholes and the great pleasure to be derived from them.
Bob LaBlah
Personally I think your girlfriend needs a new man and not the other way around.
Dennis Sandoval
that ass better be clean
Bauhaus
““Just because I want something phallic in my ass doesn’t mean I want to have a relationship with some rainbow pride fest stereotypical LGBT type.”
He doesn’t just want something phallic in his ass. He wants to be fucked by a woman – regularly. Most likely, only “some rainbow pride fest stereotypical LGBT type” woman would be willing to oblige him.
Tdude25
I will peg your back door for you anytime you want
Celtic
If that’s his bum, I will and can do more than merely peg it for him. Hmm. Anal stimulation for the male is totally natural because of our prostate. And, I am of the solid opinion that only another man knows how to work an eager, hungry man hole. That said, guys who like it up the butt are both gay and straight. Some straight guys have their “buddies”. Other straight guys are happy to indulge with a gay guy. Women with strap on “devices” work for other guys. Frankly, another guy should be driving that plug. If a man is str8, he does not suddenly turn gay if another guy is topping him. We Americans are so binary we simply can’t get our heads of our asses; or, out of someone else’s.
garryo
Um, when someone refers to their bedmate as a “Midwest simpleton,” I don’t think the primary problem is what’s being inserted(or not) where, or by whom. Contempt rarely leads to success of any sort in a relationship. I hope she has the sense to move on.
Paco
“Just because I want something phallic in my ass doesn’t mean I want to have a relationship with some rainbow pride fest stereotypical LGBT type.”
Uh huh. Sound familiar? I’ve heard that line way too many times from closet cases that can’t come to terms with their sexuality. How long before he goes on Grindr with a masc4masc profile?
I agree with Bob. She is the one that needs a new man. She is getting strung along until he finally comes to terms with himself. It can’t end well for her even if she gives him what he wants.
Paco
@Billy Budd: Doesn’t seem to be working for this guy and his “stereotypical LGBT” comments. Seems prejudiced to me.
Sidney DaviesWinter
Then fcking ask her too. You’re a scumbag for looking for others to do it on the side.
Curtispsf
There MUST be an “Ann Landers” type drag queen on Queerty’s staff who knocks back several gin and tonics and then, with a cigarette dangling from her lips, thinks “What story can I make up next to get us some click baits”. I call BS.
Robert Guillermo Hernandez
a post here, a bit back, showed a JAPANESE RIM store … ASSES out a GLORY HOLE and the FEMALE picture above …
Brian
Women will often do anything to please their man but even this has its limits.
Marky
Train wreck.
1EqualityUSA
I totally thought this article was about you, Bri’. Really. I did.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
The Meatloaf clause.
I would do anything for love….
throwslikeagirl
Considering how rudely he refers to gay men, why on earth should I care about his sexual woes?
rickhfx
The whole story gives me gas.
ChuckF
Enjoying anal stimulation doesn’t make anyone a disco rainbow limp wrested queer. Masculine gay men as well as straight men enjoy taking it up the ass and when they do nothing happens except the smile of their faces
Billy Budd
@ChuckF: Chuck is absolutely right. I am totally masculine and I love being fucked. Especially if the dick is not oversized. Otherwise it hurts too much. I like having my prostate stimulated, but not destroyed.
Billy Budd
I must add that quite a few guys enjoy sharp anal pain. The secret is not minding that it hurts. I have had sex with guys who asked me to fuck them as hard and deep as possible.
Celtic
@ChuckF: Totally hole-some to take it up the bum. And a bottom can adjust for the larger ones with patience and a good top.
brandlover
Hey, we all know how good it feels to have the prostate stimulated and the best way to do that is up the ass. If the accompanying photo is him, I’d be happy to give his hot butt all the attention and stimulation he wants!
Xuan Hoang
Sexually incompatible is his problem. He just needs to communicate about sex with his partner before jumping into sex
Dave Downunder
I can’t believe people are taking this obviously fake article seriously with all the comments. Reddit posts are 99.9% fake. I’m with Curtispsf, someone at Queerty is putting these posts on reddit for the sake of articles.
GC1985
Click bait fake article about a closeted gay man dating a girl… If the story is real lol. Fake fake fake fake!
GC1985
@ChuckF: lulz. A “straight” guy who has sex with a man isn’t straight!
bottom250
Honey you can explore my back door.
drivendervish
Since when is anal sex considered kinky? Due to the prostate all men whether gay or straight can enjoy anal stimulation. Enjoying it is natural and doesn’t mean your gay unless you start fantasizing about having men stimulate you in that manner and/or anal stimulation becomes an obsession that you can’t get off without.