As more and more straight men embrace the idea anal stimulation, some are finding their female counterparts not so into the idea. One particular Reddit user says he’s reached his wit’s end after his girlfriend, who used to love engaging in butt play, stopped going near his backend.
“My girlfriend of three years recently confessed she is only into vanilla sex,” the man writes in a Reddit thread. “Although we initially used to peg a few times a year, the frequency has turned to none whatsoever. She admitted she only did it in the first place because she wanted me to like her.”
The man says he is “genuinely sad” about this and fears he is now “destined for very vanilla sex forever.”
To make matters worse, he can’t stop comparing his current girlfriend to his ex, who pegged him every time they had sex.
“It was something that at one point we were exclusively having anal sex,” he remembers, fondly, “me penetrating her and her turning the tables on me. Amazing sex, terrible relationship.”
He say he’s tried everything to convince his new girlfriend to touch his butt, including buying expensive double-header dildos, harnesses and other fancy bedroom gadgets, but she’s just not interested.
“I’m starting to think that this Midwest simpleton girl only pegged me initially to lure me in to thinking she was slightly kinky,” he writes.
As a result, the man says, he’s becoming less attracted to her and has begun having difficulty achieving orgasm.
Oh, and just for the record, he wants everyone to know: “Just because I want something phallic in my ass doesn’t mean I want to have a relationship with some rainbow pride fest stereotypical LGBT type.”
So, he wonders, “what should I do?”
As usual, the other members of the Reddit community are filled with opinions.
“You not only seem bored,” one person writes, “you seem a bit angry.”
“You’re asking her to look and behave like a man would in sex,” someone else responds. “Combined with the fact you say her feminine body isn’t really doing it for you anymore and I can see her reluctance.”
“I feel sorry for your girlfriend,” another person adds.
Others are more sympathetic to the man’s plight.
“In your shoes, I would find a new girlfriend,” one sympathizer says. “Sometimes two people are just not sexually compatible. Neither of them is wrong; they’re just not well suited for each other.”
“If this woman doesn’t ever want to peg you, you aren’t a good match,” another one adds. “Call off the wedding.”
“I would be pretty upset in your place,” a third person writes. “Bait and switch is ridiculous. Maybe you don’t need pegging all the time, but if you need at least occasional kink and she won’t provide it, break up. I mean talk to her first. Just lying there and not giving anything, even for vanilla sex, is not OK.”
What do you think this guy should do? Is it time for him to find a new girlfriend? And what about that “rainbow pride fest stereotypical LGBT type” remark? Sound off in the comments section below…