“Ask me if I’m gay without asking me if I’m gay,” a Reddit user asked fellow homos on July 7, riffing on the popular TikTok prompt.
And boy, did people cut to the quick with their coded questions.
The question about fathers below, for example, got an “angry upvote”—or begrudging appreciation—from one commenter. And the inquiry about underwear below had a different commenter saying, “Damn, that hit hard.”
Here are some of the questions from the thread:
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- “What face moisturizer do you use?”
- “Why are you walking like that?”
- “I need some VHS cleaner. Know where to get some?”
- “Why are your knees red?”
- “Finish the song ‘Thank You for Being a Friend.’”
- “How do you check your nails?”
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- “Checking out the underwear aisle again? Didn’t you get new boxers for your birthday?”
- “Who’s your favorite diva?”
- “So the GPS says it’ll take 10 minutes to walk there. How long do you think it’ll take you?”
- “What’s your Starbucks order?”
- “Family?”
- “How many minutes are in a year?”
- “Favorite Charli XCX song?”
- “Pitcher, catcher, or midfield?”
- “Gun Oil or Astroglide?”
- “Bette or Joan?”
- “‘I didn’t ask for a free ride.’ What’s the next lyric?”
- “How many years/decades has it been since you last talked to or seen your dad?”
- “Rogaine and wax strips on Amazon subscription?”
- “What’s your favorite Lana Del Rey album?”
- “Have I told you about this guy I work with called Sean Cody?”
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And now for some honorable mentions: “Whenever I encounter someone that I think may be gay, I ask them questions about some of the local gay bars without stating they are gay bars,” one person said. “Works great.”
Another commenter wrote, “I asked someone in my local Pokémon Go group, whom knew I was gay, ‘Hey! So are you a Fairy type, too?’”
adb12
Finish the phrase: “Clang, clang, clang…”
RickHeathen
Finish this phrase:
“What a load of bull__ __ __ __.”
abfab
Here’s one Rick. Why do you exist?
Bengali
It’s ok Rick. I’m sure they’ll all lined up to date you because of your sunny disposition.
SDR94103
I’m with you Rick. screw the two queens below you.
Bengali
Awwww. You’ve got an ally, Ricky. So happy for you. With the two of you things must be getting pretty cramped in that closet of yours.
Cam
@SDR94103, Mario, Rick, etc…
You never can leave one of your posts alone when somebody mocks you on it can you? LOL!!!!!
Sad.
Mr. Stadnick
LOL That is my exact reaction.
bachy
Some of these gay jokes are funny, some just cute, some dumb. Some of them are vaguely insulting. But they are all delivered with a sense of humor that supports gay visibility and opens up lines of communication between gay and non-gay individuals, allowing the uninitiated to poke harmless fun and air their perceptions and anxieties without being censored or shut down.
Now let’s see an article featuring similar jokes focusing on the trans community. Is it even possible? Is it even remotely allowed?
Glynn
As an aging dinosaur I tend to open questions to gorgeous strangers “well my dear , do you/are you……?”. If that doesn’t engage then I ask them, ” are you a friend of Dorothy’s?” or, are you S or M?
As for the trans community, things will get better for them, but sadly it’s taking an awfully long time. Hopefully some day soon (and as Lizo might say ‘about damn time’) they will have their own Streisand or Midler options.
Cam
This post is giving me “White people complaining they can’t use the N word” energy.
I know plenty of trans people, and guess what…..they have a sense of humor just like other people.
But by all means, feel free to explain why them not wanting people to call them by a certain term etc… seems to upset you so much?
still_onthemark
@bachy: Trans people do indeed have senses of humor, although you’d never know it from reading Queerty.
@Cam: Since you know so many of them, can you tell even one, very mild trans joke that trans people tell about themselves?
bachy
@still_onthemark: you’re asking The Grim Scold of Queerty to share a joke? This should be interesting…
Cam
@still_onthemark
Sweetie, than you for bringing out this old screename to attack me and defend bachy’s post.
You always end up exposing your other screenames because you just can’t help it can you? LOL
Your troll game? Sad/Weak.
still_onthemark
@Cam: This is NOT an old screen name. I signed up a month ago. But okay, I understand, you don’t really know any trans people.
JohnMc888
Lol, I’m gay. I couldn’t answer any of these questions except for Starbucks (my father is dead). My Starbucks order is “a large American coffee with room for cream.” How can I improve? BTW, to my surprise some guys do express an interest in me. At this point I prefer celibate for the convenience. That could change, maybe.
GayEGO
Ha ha ha! I remember back in the 1960s when you would ask – Can you tell me where the bus station is? That would open the conversation and you could tell by the response if he was gay or not.
Cam
Would he say “The gay bus station or the straight bus station”? 🙂
sasquatchmike
Somewhat amusing but not much practical help.
Major
Finish this sentence
That’s the night the lights went out in ____________ .
Bonus glitter points for knowing who said it.
linedrive
If the answer isn’t Georgia and the bonus isn’t Reba McEntire, I’m afraid I’m lost. 🙂
dmi210
….Georgia
Vicki Lawrence
Cam
Georgia,
Dixie Carter in Designing Women.
Vicki Lawrence, the song.
Joshua333
The only one I think would work would be the Sean Cody one and some people don’t watch that sort of thing… so.
Mister P
The answer is Georgia and Vicki Lawrence.
winemaker
Has gaydar become extinct? That said it’s always best to err on the side of caution, you never know if the guy’s gay or straight and while some straight guys are flattered at the attention. some can be downright ballistic and the gay guys if you’re their type can be downright effusive and overtly friendly. You have to ask some probing questions without being obvious and take it from there
Cam
Hi Mario, BarryM, etc….
What a shock, the right wing troll account, that defended Gym Jordan on the other posts, recommends not being obvious and contains a dig at gay guys.
Sweetie, stop trying to normalize your screenames, your trolling, as always, is sad and weak.
winemaker
One more thing to ask in the gym locker room if your obsession is near and you’ve checked him out in the shower ( and if he’s smiled at you when showering) and last but not least if he’s changing into tight and sexy undies ask the following: ‘where did you get that awesome underwear’ and if he answers Body Aware, Skivvies or Andrew Christian, there’s your answer. Hope this helps.
Cam
And here the troll account is again, with the post insinuating all LGBTQ folks do in a locker room is check out unsuspecting straight people.
Also, troll, you may want to work on your wording. “If he’s changing into tight and sexy undies”….Really? This sounds like a 60 year old woman trying to write 50 shades of grey fan fiction.
Your trolling is weak, sad, but gave me a laugh, so there’s that.
JJinAus
I think I have more in common with straight people.
Karlis
I’m old and don’t do things like this anymore, but in college if there was a suspicion, my approach would be to ask, so what kinds of things do you like doing during your free time? Leading to any good bars you know of? Etc.
Cam
And if he said “Sex with men” you suspected. 🙂
mg10
I don’t get this one:
– So the GPS says it’ll take 10 minutes to walk there. How long do you think it’ll take you?
Are gay people supposed to walk fast/slow?