College Guy Realizes His Best Friend Might Be His Boyfriend In The Most Adorable Way Possible

tumblr_nrwlrlMzdb1tehpyko1_500Oh, to be young, confused and in love.

While we wouldn’t want to relive those days under any circumstance, there is certainly something universally romantic about fluttering heartbeats, bated breath and intense longing.

And in the case of one Redditor and his best-friend-maybe-boyfriend, it’s all pretty sickeningly cute.

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“ProbablyGay1” detailed his relationship with his pal Ian, presenting evidence that their bond might be stronger than either one is letting on:

This is kind of a weird one.

Ian and I were in the same English class in high school. I assumed he was out of my friend league because he was really handsome-not ripped, just genetically blessed in the facial department-and seemed really smart and cool, so nerdy me assumed that he was super popular.

Ian and I ended up seeing each other a lot. Eventually I decided that it was time to stop being afraid of Ian and try to be friends with him.

About a year after I really started hanging out with Ian, there was a revelatory moment where I realized that I was Ian’s best friend. The whole time I’d known him I’d just assumed that he had a ton of great friends that he didn’t talk about.

I had been so wrong about Ian. Yeah he was quiet, but that was only because he was kind of introverted, and he doesn’t like talking about himself. Also, “too cool” my ass-Ian’s a fucking nerd, just like me. He seen every episode of Pokemon and Digimon AND Yu-Gi-Oh. We would hang out at each other’s houses doing homework and watching cartoons after school a lot.

Flash forward to today. Ian and I attend different colleges, but we talk everyday. Puberty has been kind to me. I’m not on Ian’s level of attractiveness, but I’m pretty confident these days. Lately I’ve been wondering if Ian and I are more than just good friends at this point. Some reasons;

  • Ian HATES being touched. At first I noticed that he was uncomfortable when I’d touch him so I didn’t. After a while, HE started doing it. When we’re alone, he’ll move next to me and put his head on my shoulder. It’s kind of adorable. Now we’re physical all the time-not sexually, but he’ll lean against me if we’re standing together, or put his arm around my shoulder.
  • At first when we slept over one of us would sleep on the floor or couch or something. Now we just share beds. I’ve woken up with his arm around me before. Not gonna lie; my heart did embarrassing things the first time that happened. I woke up before him and just thought about how nice this was, and how lucky I was. He woke up a few minutes later and we looked at each other smiling, and then I said, “Gay.” And we both burst out laughing.
  • We go on each other’s family vacations.
  • Once he went on a research trip for college. When he came back he told me he identified a new type of thing (I’m being vague, his major is weirdly specific). He said he named it after me. I was kind of floored, and asked him why. He said, “Who else would I name it after?”
  • Neither of us have dated anyone recently. Personally, I just haven’t felt inclined. I think maybe it’s because I already feel like I have Ian. I don’t have a gender preference and my friends know this. Ian has always been vague about his orientation.
  • We go places alone a lot, like the beach. Once I was having a bad day and he surprised me by showing up my house and knocking on my window. He drove us to the top of a mountain, and we climbed into the back seat and just laid there together for hours.
  • While we’re in college, he sends me cute messages. Like “I miss you,” “Something reminded me of you,” etc. I found out from his friends that he talks about me a lot, which is a relief because I talk about him to my friends all the time. We mail each other gifts sometimes. He sends me samples of specimens from his research, like cool rocks or leaves. It sounds dumb, literally receiving rocks and leaves in the mail, but you bet your ass I have a whole shelf devoted to that shit. Honestly, Ian could probably send me a turd that he found scientifically significant and I’d treasure it.

I think about Ian a lot. He’s attractive and smart and funny and overall, probably my favorite person ever. It’s embarrassing how much I like Ian. He can make my whole day by texting me.

As you can see, there are a lot of things that can be explained as things that regular straight best friends do, and other things that . . . can’t. (What, straight bros don’t snuggle?)

I’m graduating college this year (he’s staying to get a higher degree) and I realized it’s the first time I can decide where to live, and I also realized that where I want to live is with him. But I feel like if we’re going to live together, I should finally figure out whether we’re boyfriends. Ian’s pretty reserved, so it looks like I’m going to have to be the brave one here.

tl;dr: My best friend and I have some not-so-platonic behavior. How do I ask him whether we’re boyfriends, or if he wants to be?


Commenters offered some sage advice:

Hi there OP, your story reminds me of the time when i hang out with my current girlfriend. (Fyi, I’m a girl too and she’s my first.) We started out exactly like how you guys did and one day we were having a sleepover and I kissed her cheeks. Then she kissed me back and then everything was a blur and then boom she dropped the question and we got together.

I would suggest finding a private time to drop the question to him if not, tell him how you feel about him. Great feelings, heart fluttering moments, tell him all that. From what you posted it definitely sounds like he feel the same.

And one had some very specific recommendations:

Time for a weekend visit.
Hold the hugs a little longer. When you guys are just around and alone hold his hand. Play in his hair if he put his head on your shoulder. Snuggle a bit deeper and longer. Hum contentedly when he puts his arms around you.

If you cuddle in bed and all of the above weren’t rejected your face needs to find it’s way to that wonderful spot between neck and shoulder…be a brave soul and drop a kiss there and then wait. There’s nothing about that move that can be confused. Either things will amp up and you can have a discussion or he will ignore it and then you do the same.

Or you can find your warrior spirit and just take the plunge. Tell him how you feel. Reassure him he’ll always be your best friend no matter what. See what happens.

You guys are too cute and I want to punch you I’m so jealous. Good luck you adorable little bastard.



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  • Jesse Erickson

    Can you drown in adorableness?

  • Sam Oropeza

    Aww, too much sweetness!

  • redcarpet30

    Does he want to fuck him? If he wants to fuck him then he might as well take a shot. IF he can’t entertain the thought of sex with this guy then he’s probably not gay.

  • Joshua Sarria

    I wanna find out what happens!!!!!

  • Shannon Jackson

    Young love. ❤️❤️❤️

  • Ryan Shannon

    I need to know what happened??? Don’t leave me hanging!!

  • Craig England

    I know, I’m going to need closure

  • Fredy Cortes

    Awe! He better find out, I wanna know what happens!

  • Amy Theunissen

    Does anyone know if they end up together ??

  • Jon Kryander

    Would be nice to have your best friend become your boyfriend….You would certainly have alot in common…

  • DarkZephyr

    @redcarpet30: He stated that he doesn’t have gender preferences in that regard so I betting that he does want to make love to him.

  • E Michael Richards

    I’m thinking they are soul mates meant for each other. They are thisclose to realizing this.

  • Shaun Adams

    i think your boyfriends! dont have to ask him, he has shown it in soo may ways! just go with the flow and move in with him! your boyfriends!!

  • BigG

    It’s cute. You should always tell your friend how you feel. Otherwise your lying to yourself and him. Life’s too short to not be honest. The prize can be a relationship, or finding out you completely are wasting your time when the right one is waiting around the corner.

  • Vikrant Lal

    This is so wonderful. They are very lucky to have each other.

  • Captain Obvious

    Teen years. For all we know the entire thing is a one sided invention in his head.

    The only way you’ll ever know is to ask one simple question: “Are you gay or straight?”

    If they say straight then move on. There are straight guys who love attention from gay guys and will gay bait for it but then turn cold when their real friends are around. They’re just like the girls who do this to straight guys. People now call it the friend zone, but no matter what you call it your time is being wasted.

    These lil stories rarely end with two people starting a relationship. Better to find people who are out to form relationships with.

  • Jose Robotic

    It’s only magical because they haven’t identified the relationship. Once he asks him if they’re together it’ll all go downhill hahaha

  • Garth

    We will be waiting for the outcome . Don’t leave us hanging to long . Some of us will go crazy wondering . ( me for one )

  • tdh1980

    Yes, this is cute, but he needs to emerge from the feels long enough to ask the awkward questions.

  • captainburrito

    I was so touched and jealous i actually had an asthma attack!

    I loved this part:
    Also, “too cool” my ass-Ian’s a fucking nerd, just like me. He seen every episode of Pokemon and Digimon AND Yu-Gi-Oh. We would hang out at each other’s houses doing homework and watching cartoons after school a lot.

  • Raul Reyes


  • Curtispsf

    Would it be wrong to tell you that I masturbated after reading this story? If the answer is yes, then I DIDN’T masturbate. OK?

  • Derek Perron

    If this doesn’t have a happy ending then my tears are for nothing and I give up. How friggin cute!!!

  • Giancarlo85

    That was a lot like my first boyfriend. We just thought we were bestfriends and we were a bit too scared to make a move on each other. One day I kinda tripped and landed in his arms… We ended up kissing and just knew.

    The guy in this story just needs to make a move or simply ask awkward questions. Also admitting who he is would be a good start. Love is love. If this reddit story is true.

  • Jim Philbrick

    Sounds like they need to talk soon about using the boyfriend name to describe their relationship

  • silveroracle

    This is so beautiful the kind of thing I would love to have experienced goats unfortunately haven’t totally.
    Good luck to this person and I think you found is ideal soulmate. I just hope that he doesn’t do something to ruin it that would be so wrong.

  • Bill Purcell

    I want updates……

  • Ryan Carey

    I’m not reading all that.

  • Blackceo

    So freaking adorbs. Love it.

  • Caprice Goldberg

    Yeah, I don’t know…

    I’d say get him tanked and schlep him out to a nearby glory hole….

  • Jaime-Arturo Rodriguez Luevano

    My heart fluttered with ❤️reading this. I hope they do become bfs. This story is quite romantic! I wish them both well!

  • Tony Rizzi

    If you’re not making love after several years, it ain’t gonna happen. He’ll break your heart. Get away from him. Tell him to find some wife elsewhere. Honey, he’s not motivated. You’re too available. He should be fighting for you by now! I mean really want you. Move on.

  • Glücklich

    Really? That part had me searching for a rope and wishing my office had exposed beams.

  • Ozzie Cordero

    Mika Alballay OMG! This is so adorable >.< ???

  • alphacentauri

    So what happened?

  • Andre4

    OMG, how nice to be reminded of that time in history when we were young , dumb and pathetically in love. The absolutely cutest article ever.

  • Brian

    They don’t have to penetrate each other. Don’t even call yourself “gay”. Men are at their most powerful when they don’t declare their sexuality.

    Just go on doing what you are doing, without labels, without apologies, and without emotional hand-wringing. Don’t let the GLBT community try to own you with their labels and their alphabet soup of ownership.

    Don’t let women force you into the gay label, either. Women naturally fear strong male-male relationships of any kind, and this is particularly evident in their reactions to men who show signs of being able to swing both ways even if they don’t actually penetrate each other.

  • LadyXandra

    @redcarpet30: They don’t have fuck. Why is that a qualifier? A person can be gay or bi and not be interested in sex. Sexuality and sexual interest is not rigid or set in stone. It is fluid. I think this is a beautiful story and I wish there was updates. I wonder how it turned out for the two of them. This is definitely one of those fairy tale-ish stories that just gives back a little of my faith for humanity.

  • NoCagada

    @Brian: Child…I wish you just go get PENETRATED…jeez…GET LAID!

  • Kazmin Henkin

    Sorry lol I’m not gay for any of my friends.

  • Kazmin Henkin

    Only one gay nigga in the group

  • Eric Vidal

    I’m guessing he realized it when he woke up with his penis in his mouth! I find that is usually a strong indicator.???

  • David333

    Like everyone else here I loved reading your story. First off, you are a very good writer. Secondly, I had a relationship very much like this in high school. I quickly became best friends with a cute wrestler who would eventually be named ‘most popular’ boy in school. We were always locked into each others eyes and he would touch me constantly. Sometimes under the table in Chem class where no one else could see. One day he kissed me on the cheek in math class and the world just stopped right then and there for me. It was the last thing that happened before we took our seats. In another class he sat directly behind me and although he would often whisper things in my ear, he lips began lingering on my ear between sentences. It was like ecstasy to me. But because we were so young, I never thought about sex with him–only that I wanted to be with him constantly and I wanted to kiss him.
    The next week he told me his girlfriend was pregnant (by him). It was such a painful and confusing time. The situation caused him to withdraw from both me and his girlfriend and they broke up, I ended up taking her to prom.
    We weren’t in any classes the following year and eventually went to separate colleges. But on graduation night, I ended up sleeping over his house and we shared his bed. I remember he told me he loved me. But we were exhausted and quickly fell asleep.
    During our junior year at college we met up at a Christmas party at a mutual friend’s house. The chemistry was there all over again. He was telling me how good I looked and eventually we were the last ones there. Before we parted, he kissed me on the cheek which again left me paralyzed. But to this day have never seen each other since then. I regret that I never took the leap of faith and acted on my feelings for him. I encourage you to make the most out of those hugs, maybe don’t let go, or add a kiss or two. Sometimes a physical gesture is easier than saying the words. It sounds to me like you have something very special. Keep us posted!

  • [email protected]

    wow couldn’t somehow give us updates, its a great story and I hope they fall in love and gosh yes would I like to start my life over, I am single and it sucks.

  • Arconcyyon

    Nice pepe conto in conto @ storying ! The in youtube video cine sexo menbrens yes .

  • Robert Craft Jr.

    Seriously….. I need follow up ??

  • Giancarlo85

    @Brian: Another ridiculously homophobic post from you that isn’t even worth a reply. I hope you are ashamed of what you write on here. It’s downright bullying.

    We all get you are misogynist and don’t like women. Women aren’t forcing anyone into anything and nobody say anything about penetration. Do you ever have anything nice to say or are you just going to continue to spread your dishonesty on here?

  • Hawaiian Kane

    Thank you for boldly sharing your story. It’s sweet, tender and wrought with passionate emotions of youth! It truly has the makings of a romantic movie. Oh, how many of us in our youth would have loved to have what you have!

    I am surprised that you are still unsure about his feelings for you. The emotions are apparently there between you two. It’s just a matter of either one of you taking that ultimate step and baring his self to the other. In addition to that, however, after spending many occasional nights with each other in the same bed, and even having lain with each other in the back seat of the car “for hours,” your bodies definitely would have unmistakeable responded one way or another. Did both of you have a hardon? Just one of you? Neither of you? Therein lies your answer, and what your next step should be.

    A word of caution. He soon will be focussing on graduate work. For him, the academic rigors will be primary, and you will be secondary. Should you open up to him now, he may not have room in his life for a deeper relationship. He may just turn the other direction and solely pursue his studies. Maybe what you have presently is good for now until he’s at the end of his advanced academic pursuit.

    I wish you well. As with any budding love story, I am praying for a happy ending. Please let all of us know how it turns out.

  • MarionPaige


    I didn’t read much of the post but, that looks like gay adult performer Cliff Jensen in the photo attached to the post.

  • etseq

    Since when is it news to troll Reddit for stories? Since when is Reddit considered reliable? This probably all made up by some 60 year old pedophile…

  • Giancarlo85

    @Hawaiian Kane: It is all about time management. I met my boyfriend during graduate school. I made him a joint priority. And I had more than enough time for him, while finishing with top grades.

    @etseq: Well then why would he assume the age of a college student?

  • martinbakman

    Sleeping in the same bed would have found my hands wondering, yet it seems as though that wasn’t the case with PossiblyGay.

    I would have sprung a boner at my special friend actually next to me, under the covers, stripped down to his briefs. But, these two apparently aren’t experiencing that.

    So, for me this sounds more like a bromance filled with sweet affection, while not quite a sensual or sexual relationship.

  • Mike Cullen

    Love the last line in the last comment lol

  • Anthony Brookhart


  • Giancarlo85

    Bromances? That is just some softcore porn fantasy. If this story was real, it certainly isn’t that of two straight guys. Straight men aren’t into each other that way.

  • lauraspencer

    @Tony Rizzi:

    Agree with you.

    He says they met in high school and now he is in his last year of college. So this has been going on for over 5 years?!?!?! This sounds like a story from the 1970s or 1980s. With all the gay imagery and acceptance in the US what in the world is the problem in talking about their feelings.

    This was a nice story, but I question how real it is.

  • BadBoyTKF

    I’ve been single for way too long and can only fantasize about something like this happening to me again. Great story and a bit jealous as well. Wish both of them the best on whatever the outcome may be.

  • Ashli Vike

    Saul Sanchez Jr. Joseph Cayanan Eric Borja Salazar

  • Sebizzar

    I usually fanboy over stuff like this but I’m actually getting tired of hearing about these fantasies come true, while my love life remains nonexistent as hell -____-‘

  • JamesG76

    This reminds me of the story Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe. If you haven’t read that book, you’re missing out. It’s fiction but not at all outside the bounds of reality. I believe this kid’s story. And I wish them the best! :-)

  • mr mr

    Might be better for him to keep his friend as a friend. Then go find someone else to have sex with. Sex could mess up the relationship. There are just too many variables and un-answered questions like “Why has your suspicious friend never make a pass at you when the 2 of you are in bed together. It’s ok for you to have attractive friends without fucking them. I have had a few five minute crushes on friends, but never amounted to much. However I did meet up with an old college friend from yester-year . He’s still very attractive, but not as sexually advanced as me. We had a hot night together, but I would rather have him as my friend. Sometimes we spend so much time in fantasy, that we are let down when we finally sleep with this person in real life. That being said, i will always have this hot little memory to think about when times get rough.

  • mr mr

    @Brian: interesting point

  • mr mr

    @Sebizzar: don’t feel bad. This dude hasn’t slept with his crush at all after 5 years. This is not a love story, rather a story of a dude that is such a pantie waist loser that he can’t find anyone else to sleep with, so now he’s making bedroom eyes at his best friend. This dude needs to buck up

  • Rogelio Agatep Biggaw

    Friendship will be compromised if things wont work out!

  • Rustie

    I was blown away by your story…the exact same thing happened to ME!!! Ronald and I were in the same small college in 1973 – best friends for 1½ years; we were inseparable but terrified that if either of us “crossed the line” we might lose the best friendship we ever had. I used to scribble his name on my notebook during class, it was truly the first time I was in love; although I didn’t realize it because he was a BOY and it was 1975. Did I mention that he was engaged? (Yes, to a girl!) Our friends started to notice it before we did. One night, and a few beers later we got the courage and fessed up to each other. Now it is 2015 and I am happily married to my best friend – we just celebrated our 40th anniversary!! It has been a wild ride – how the world has changed!! Go for it baby – you will never regret it because whatever the outcome the tenderness you now share will guide your future.

  • GayEGO

    If you want to find out, take it to the next level and fondle him. If he refuses just apologize and move on.

  • James Sigmon

    To cute congrats to both of them

  • rv2010

    it might not be safe to make a “confrontation” on the issue. Having been through this – it’s a good idea to give him some room to think about this more carefully. A letter will do the trick – one that is well thought out and shares how you feel and what you need to move forward. Or be creative and leave him a video of what you have to say. Some form of non confrontation. I think old school is best – in writing – in your handwriting. You love this guy – and should share that with him. That way he’ll have time to really think about it on his own terms and get back to you – without the bias of a face to face issue. For all you know he feels the exact same way, and I hope he does. But if he does not – best to let him articulate that in a way that is best for him and with time for him to think about the delivery.

  • nickvanallen


  • Keith Feltner

    I’d just like someone to like me…that’s all

  • pscheck2

    @David333: David your sceneiro is as hot as his! In both cases, you guys don’t have balls! Why miss the opportunity of a lifetime (and a lifetime relationship?)by being coy? It’s odd that he said he loved you, but, yet, he did not follow through with a more assertive response after having said that! Obviously, he is (or was) bi, but his interaction with you seems to indicate that he was sexually turned on by you! I supppose that it is too late to meet up with him again, but if it is not, take that chance and let him know you feel the same about him! What to lose? NOTHING!

  • Sean Henry

    Right! Has he updated his Reddit yet? Someone find Ian on fb, see if he’s in a relationship? Biggest cliff hanger ever!

  • seaguy

    Do the old get drunk together and see what happens trick. If they end up having sex then go for it but it nothing happens then maybe they are just good friends.

  • onthemark

    @pscheck2: Yeah. It seems very unlikely that their friendship would be seriously damaged if one of them made a move. Nothing to lose by trying, and also “nothing ventured nothing gained.”

  • pdxbuck

    @Brian: This is the BEST response of all.

  • DavidTheLeo

    Personally, and maybe it’s just me, but I, for one, don’t believe any of this. Period.

  • redcarpet30

    @LadyXandra: Sexual interest is THE defining charecteristic of a gay man! Don’t try to feed me that PoMo queer studies tumblr BS. If he’s not interested in sex then he’s something else, asexual or some such.

  • randmideas

    It may be difficult to say in these cases. Especially now a days. I had a friend like this and got a bit confused at the way he acted. I was scared to come out and directly ask him so I wrote a letter to him trying to see what the deal was. He stopped talking to me and would not answer my calls or texts. I tried to visit him to talk in person and he refused to see me. I never got any feedback from him or any information. I thought that with as close as we were that The worst would have been a “thanks but no thanks” response but that we would get through a shirt stage of awkwardness and then move on. 10 years later and we still have not talked. He is now married (to a woman) and they have three kids.

    I am not saying every case is the same, and I wish these two the best, but it can be a scary or delicate thing to approach. Just be careful on how and when you attemp to approach it.

  • Johnny InOakland

    You lost me at “Oh, to be young, confused and in love.
    While we wouldn’t want to relive those days under any circumstance,,,,,”

    Are you kidding me? I’d love being young, hung, confused and in love again.

  • Mark05

    #RelationshipGoal <3

  • tzutz

    Is there any way we can keep up with this story to see how it unfolds? I’m so intrigued. I want pictures too, but only if his friend is also into men (realistically he’s probably not)…

  • HarlequinFoxfire


    Please don’t confuse romantic orientation with sexual orientation, people don’t necessarily have the same.

  • Corey Walker

    Is there a follow up to this?!

  • Thom Solo

    I think every gay guy wishes for this back in high school….

  • Brian L. Moore

    ❤️loved this story so much

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