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Colton Haynes was 13 when he lost his virginity to a guy

In a relatively short amount of time, Colton Haynes has gone from totally guarded to completely candid about his personal life, his sexuality and his past. Now he’s opened up once again, this time about how he lost his virginity — to both a girl and a guy — and it’s quite the share.

The former Arrow actor sat down with Andy Cohen on his Sirius XM radio show Andy Cohen Live, and bluntly dropped a few details about his sexual awakening.

“I lost my virginity at 13 to a girl and a guy,” he said, clarifying that it was not a threesome but two separate encounters. “I’ve never said that before. The girl was two years older than me, and the guy was, I would say, around 16… Everyone participated. It was a real first time. It was exciting.”

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The 28-year-old performer later explained that he had sexual relationships with both women and men throughout his teenage years, despite having come out to himself as gay when he was 14.

He also discussed the pressure to stay in the closet once he arrived in Hollywood, a harsh reality that still faces many young would-be stars.

“I was literally told from the day that I moved to Los Angeles that I could not be gay because I wouldn’t work,” he said. “My management team told me I couldn’t be this way and they tried to set me up with girls… It was horrible.”

Haynes wound up experiencing panic attacks as a result of that pressure to hide his identity, and he finally said “enough is enough” in May of 2016, when he came out.

In March 2017, he announced his engagement to celebrity florist Jeff Leatham.

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