Each week online comedian, voice actor and chest hair model Sam Kalidi creates a comedic post for Queerty readers. This week he wonders if his straight friends as entertaining as the gay ones. He welcomes your hate mail. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook,Instagram and at your local glory hole.
https://www.facebook.com/sam.kalidi/videos/10153806836181622/?l=4171156702893516016
Christopher Oetker
I don’t enjoy small talk with ANYONE, regardless of their orientation lol
Richard Holaday
No.
Jon L'Roy
Small talk can be annoying regardless of who with.
John Kuehnle
Yes, most of the time, my coworkers don’t treat me any different
Julie Banks
depends on the small talk and the individual
Stefano
Yes, why not?
Gary Hecklinger
Not really
onthemark
The worst part of any job!
roroking
LOL this is such a blatant rip off of this post
http://shaderiahcarey.tumblr.com/post/129813632516/when-people-think-youre-straight-and-they-start
hire a better comedian!
JerseyMike
Small talk is just that.. Small talk.. why be uncomfortable with saying how are you, how was your wkend. for me small talk is for people i don’t know or people i have not invested any time in.
Marky
NO.
Because straight people will go on and on and on about straight-related stuff (opposite sex dating/relationships) and then as soon as you mention that you went to see a movie with your boyfriend, for example, it’s like they become shocked or disgusted because you mentioned something that reminds them that gay people exist and may even exist within their peripheral vision–everything within which they consider to be their personal domain for some strange reason… I think it’s a straight-people thing, the auto-ownership entitlement issue.
It’s incredibly annoying, so I just focus on work now.
Masc Pride
I do. It’s how you get to know people. Friendships start with small talk.
@Marky: Bitter much?
Steve McSheffrey
The ‘he welcomes your hate mail’ explains a lot about the quality of the posts. I’d indulge him but I don’t want my click to be misinterpreted and the series kept going on the site…
Glücklich
@JerseyMike:
@Masc Pride:
Same for both your comments.
Client-facing, our CRM suite has a whole section to keep track of any and all tidbits of “small talk fodder” gleaned from all interactions: hobbies, sports teams, where their kids go to college, vacation homes, spouse’s job, anything we can put to use later as a convo starter. It sounds creepy but it’s for those who know when and how to use it (no Dale Carnegie rehearsed crap) and it works wonders. I just need to keep reminding the fresh-out-of-school set NOT to mine social media for this stuff; it must only come from live interactions.
Blackceo
It depends. I have always had very rigid boundaries when it comes to co-workers and because of that people think I’m standoffish. Oh and because I have resting bitch face. But, my coworkers are not my friends. We have to co-exist for a business purpose. I’ve seen way too many people have loose boundaries with co-workers only for it to bite them in the ass later.
I never really initiate small talk, but can engage to a point if I am approached with it. But I don’t have a poker face. People know quickly by the expression on my face when to stop talking to me so I usually shut any foolishness down quickly. But “small talk” for me usually consists of sports or tv shows and politics. I don’t get into my personal life and people know to basically only ask how my fiance is or how the wedding plans are coming. Nothing more than that. We are here to run a business.
Black Pegasus
@Marky: agreed! I’m really getting tired of straight people and their hetero-privilege .
Ken Spragg
I don’t enjoy small talk with *anybody.* Because it’s always so *small.* Ask me about anything in the news, or about politics, or something ‘meaty,’ but gawd, I’m not fuckin’ riveted by the weather; I’m a shift-worker so please don’t assume that just because it’s Friday that I’m about to have any kind of ‘weekend’ (much less a long one); and if you try to strike up conversation with a pun, I’m sitting in my hands to stop myself from cutting you.
Bauhaus
I enjoy the pleasantries of conversation. I’m not loquacious, but I’m not taciturn, either.
AtticusBennett
the straight co-workers enjoy small talk with us gays because we’re just flat-out more interesting to talk to!
Bauhaus
@AtticusBennett:
Wouldn’t say I’m more interesting, just not judgmental.
jheryn
Stupid question. Small talk is nothing deep or engaging. So who cares if you have small talk with anyone no matter what they sexuality?
What good do question like this do for our community? Nothing.
There would be sh*t storm on here if Queerty had posted an article about someone turning that question around asking, “Do you enjoy small talk with your gay co-workers.”
Questions and inferences like these are what keep both sides at odds. They bring difficulties to the surface, they don’t help.
woodin
small talk is fine with anyone. Certainly beats the gay carousel conversation on the the next guy stats whose walking thru the door or sitting in visual distance.
dave lopes
what a nonsensical question.
what about small talk with blacks, whites, moslems etc.
Masc Pride
@Bauhaus: Interesting. I’ve seen you direct some very judgmental comments at some of the members here. Many, many, many times. Like regularly enough to call total BS on you not being judgmental.
Bauhaus
@Masc Pride:
I’m willing to bet that the only time I’m ever judgmental with members on here is when one of them defends the closet, or is against our civil and human rights.
bottom250
No I don’t want to hear about your wife or girlfriend soooo gross.
Aromaeus
It depends on the person but overall I get exasperated having small talk with straight people. They are just extremely boring or lack a lot of perspective.
rickhfx
@Marky: One str8 said to me “there is no such thing as homophobia” ! Isn’t that special?
Dave Downunder
Small talk is OK until it veers towards sports then I am bored shitless.
GC1985
@Masc Pride: Coming from you that’s ironic… you are extremely bigoted and judgmental towards feminine gays.
I keep the workplace professional. I take it some here (including yourself and Marky) know how to do that? Keep your personal life out of the workplace completely.
Masc Pride
@Bauhaus: No, it’s usually always super personal and never over anything even remotely important. I also want to point out how you went from describing yourself as “not judgmental” to describing circumstances in which you feel completely justified in being judgmental. Just sayin’
Bauhaus
@Masc Pride:
I’m critical of those who’d deny me my civil and human rights, and of those who defend the closet – on here and off. That doesn’t make me a judgmental person; it means I have self-esteem, I’m not ashamed of being gay, and I’m not a coward. I’m aware of my many flaws – judging those while engaging in small talk and polite conversation isn’t one of them. Projection is unbecoming.
Masc Pride
@Bauhaus: Well since you’ve admitted you’re still judgmental when you deem it appropriate (right after claiming you’re “not judgmental”), it’s important to acknowledge that the way you’ve interpreted things has often been quite different from what was actually said. Lots of room for error there.
But again, I’ve mostly seen you reduce many conversations to name-calling when civil rights (BTW, civil rights are “human rights”) WERE NOT the topic of discussion. Maybe you’re turning over a new leaf? If so, I commend you if you’re not as judgmental as you once were.
Bauhaus
@Masc Pride:
Out of frustration and bewilderment over comments made on here, I have resorted to less than polite retorts (“Brian” doesn’t count). I reserve the right to use a sharp tongue in response to those who put down T, effeminate men, and others. I *have* softened in tone, as I realize internalized homophobia is insidious, but I’m still unwavering when it comes to our rights, and indignant when I see obnoxious put downs of others.
We will never see eye to eye on any issue, as we are fundamentally different.
Masc Pride
@Bauhaus: Well I already see you establishing circumstances in which you feel entitled to “break character”, so it should be interesting to see how long this new you lasts. Again, the new you will have to be mindful that sometimes you interpret simple differences of opinion as putting others down and/or internalized homophobia. In fact, unless blatantly derogatory language has been used, you should probably hold off on reverting back to your old ways.
BTW, I wasn’t counting comments from Brian. However, it seems the newly “not judgmental” you would simply choose to ignore Brian instead of going tit for tat with him.
Bauhaus
@Masc Pride:
Last comment. I won’t respond to you after I post this comment. I take no pleasure in interacting with you.
Blatantly derogatory language need not be used to convey bigotry, as you well know. Same for put downs. You aren’t as clever as you think you are. If you don’t want what you say to be misinterpreted as bigotry and put downs, stop saying things that give that impression.
Masc Pride
@Bauhaus: That last reply is SO you (the old you, that is). As I stated, since what people deem offensive or critical can sometimes be open to interpretation, there’s no need for people to censor expression that is completely free of blatantly derogatory language. You saying that I’m not as clever as I think I am is obviously a put down–which the new you is supposedly against–but you have a right to express that opinion if that’s how you feel. I don’t expect you to censor your opinion just because I disagree with you. The new you shouldn’t expect others to censor speech that isn’t vulgar like the old you did. You also still seem to view disagreement–no matter how mannerly–as a free pass to return to your old ways. It seems the old you is winning your internal struggle.