Now that so many people are getting comfortable with the concept that there have always, and will always, be gay people walking amongst the herd, non-binary sexuality and identity is the next phase of acceptance.
And luckily, there are some high profile advocates bringing attention to the fact that not everybody’s attractions fall on a neat, easily explainable scale.
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Like Nico Tortorella, who plays Sutton Foster’s younger boyfriend on TV Land’s Younger. Earlier in 2016, Tortorella came out as “sexually fluid,” and that’s got the good folks at Access Hollywood a bit confused. Where’s Billy Bush when you need him? (Nowhere, that’s where. Here’s hoping he stays there.)
The hosts ask Tortorella about his podcast The Love Bomb, and what his non-label label means, to which he responds: “It means I do whatever I want whenever I want it. And I don’t really have a problem with it!”
Fair play, Tortorella.
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He added: ““I think everybody has the right to do what they want and be the person that they want to be as long as it’s affecting positive change in the world. I just love people.”
As for whether he finds it harder to date men or women, Tortorella said that females are the trickier sex. No big surprises there.
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Tortorella told Elle Magazine earlier this year:
Look, a lot of people don’t think that the way that I live my life is a real thing, that it exists, that having a broad spectrum of sexual orientation is even possible. I get told all the time on social media. God forbid you open up a Reddit article. But it comes with it, you know? I’m not trying to redefine sexuality or humanity or say that my answer is right and yours is wrong. I’m just happy with who I am. I am driven by love and I have been in love with a handful of different people, men and women. It’s like, if you go to a bookstore and you know exactly what kind of book you want, you have to look it up in the system because it’s in a specific section of the bookstore. I fit into a handful of sections in the bookstore.
h/t Towleroad
Aromaeus
Translation: I’m gay but I don’t want to ruin my chances of landing a big time role so I’m going to be ambiguous about it just in case.
Thud Hardbutt
@Aromaeus: Thats a tad harsh fella.
notcisjustmale
Oh so he’s an edgier variety of bisexual. It helps with his hipster cred.
da90027
Never heard of him who is this Taco Tortilla?
ryantbo
so what we used to call slut is now just sexually fluid? And how does that differ from bisexual?
enlightenone
@Thud Hardbutt: Actually on point conclusive of what this guy says in the article “…men and women” = bisexual!!!
pixguy
@Aromaeus: Have to agree on the harsh comment. Human sexuality has never been black and white (gay vs straight). Its filled with various shades of gray in between.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
I’d say “Sexual fluidity” is more about those people who have a desire that dramatically fluctuates between the sexes..t
terry2
YOU’RE ALL -TO PRIMITIVE – TO UNEDUCATED – TO NARROW MINDED- TO INFANTILE – TOO TRAINED – TOO DUMB – TO “get it”.YOU TRY.BEST YOU CAN DO AT THE LEVEL YOUR AT.
Stuck playing In your sandboxes – you see only through those BABY eyes – THE ONLY ONES YOU GOT – THOSE PRIMITIVE IMMATURE UNCONSCIOUS BEGINNERS YOU HAVE GROWN..Someday you MIGHT SEE THE BIGGER PICTURE.LIFE as a grown up.
THAT IS A BIGGER IMAGINATION- Grown with a bigger mind and a bigger heart- A GROWTH OF SPIRIT A LONG WAY OFF FOR YOU.
BECOMING THE PERSON YOU CAN BE AND SHOULD BE – very different from the bimbos you happen to be right now – AND NOT KNOW IT.
GOOD LUCK IN CHANGING – STRETCHING – GROWING – IF YOU DARE IT.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: it fucking won’t let me post the rest of thiat. Godamn it.
mujerado
@da90027: – What do you mean by “taco tortilla”? Nico and Tortorella are both Italian names, so your ugly little nickname is inaccurate as well as bigoted.
mz.sam
@da90027: And you never will because he’s Italian not Chicano. Buh, bye Felicia.
Brian
Women use sexuality as a marketing ploy. They are sellers by nature, and will attempt to extract rewards before they consent to sex. Faking it is common among women as they don’t need to be aroused to have sex.
Men have much higher and more constant sex drives than women. Men will have sex in the mud if they can and, unlike women, don’t need to be drunk to do it.
Men cannot fake their arousal, either.
Vallin
I LOVE his “What-ev-ah-what-ev-ah…I do what [and who] I waont!” rollin’-stone attitude. But yeah, hypergamatin’ women (there’s another kind?) are shit-test slippery. So this advanced “Woody Allen bi” strategy makes sense to me.
DefiantOne
@da90027: Hahaha, I know Nico (great guy) and even I think Taco Tortilla is funny.
Also, he is gay.
baggins435
Why is it so hard for people to accept that bisexuals exist? I’m full throttle Kinsey 6, never even kissed a girl; but if there are totally straight and totally gay people, why can’t there be people all along the route between them? I don’t know what’s more annoying, gay men saying a self-identified bisexual is too scared to admit to being gay, or a straight person who says if you ever touched another guy’s “D” just once in your life, then you’re gay.
talktalktalk
I’m sorry WHO? I couldn’t care less who he sleeps with — why on earth is he on TV talking about it, because I can’t imagine anyone else cares either
isxios
@baggins435: Because it intrudes on their neat little view of the world, a view that allows them to never have to think about anything in any deep and meaningful way. Why ponder grey when you can just label everything black or white?
salumbre
And why not? I have met a lot of people like that. Bisexual and generally fluid people always get bashed, but it does not make them less real.
And I don’t know who he is, either, but he is hot and he sounds smart and fearless. More power to him.
Heywood Jablowme
A sexually fluid guy sounds messy, like he gets sexual fluid all over the place.
jayjay333
@baggins435:
Besides my life experience, there are plenty of academic studies that suggest that while females can be truly bisexual – men are – for the most part, not. A guy that says he is bi is a guy who is afraid of coming out of the closet as gay. Besides the academic research on the topic, in my 23 years of being out of the closet, I have never met a guy who said he was bi and then remained bi after a few years of announcing that. I would love to meet a guy who is TRULY bisexual. That would be like finding the chupacabra:
See one study below:
http://www.thetaskforce.org/static_html/downloads/reports/070505NYTBisexuality.pdf
jayjay333
@isxios:
http://www.thetaskforce.org/static_html/downloads/reports/070505NYTBisexuality.pdf
Hank
I only believe for seeing, otherwise it is just gay bait marketing.
CaliKyle
Im all for sex with whomever turns you on at the moment but Nico Tortorella is an annoying, pretentious, tiresome twat who seems to be using his sex life as a gimmicky self marketing ploy on social media and elsewhere. He’s nowhere near as attractive or intelligent as he believes he is although that never stops him from reminding everyone around him how hot, edgy, brave and brilliant he is. Boys got delusions.
CaliKyle
@terry2: This mess of word vomit sounds exactly like something Nico himself would spew. So frustrating that the inane are so ignorant of their own inanity.
CaliKyle
@Brian: Something about your comments almost always makes me wish I could watch my sixfootone lesbian sis beat the holy hell right out of you. All anyone could do is laugh and tell you how much you deserved it.
Aromaeus
If he was bisexual he could just say bisexual, not this sexually fluid nonsense.
Brian
“Bisexual” is a horrible word. It conjures up porno scenarios such as threesomes. Ewwww.
The worst thing about “bisexual” is that it distorts. Identity politics is a political distortion of human sexuality but calling yourself “a bisexual” is a doubling down on distortion. It falsely suggests that you are equally attracted to men and women.
REALITY: most “bisexuals” are NOT equally attracted to men and women.
PRAISE: I therefore commend Nick for not submitting to the distortion of the word “bisexual”
BillSam
@Aromaeus: Brilliant, just brilliant! And so true!
Jack Meoff
In reality what is the difference between bisexual and sexually fluid? It is just a new word for the same thing because every new generation likes to think they are more enlightened and more progressive than the last so they think up new names for the same thing.
Basically anything that people talk about these days in terms of sexuality has been around and happening for centuries to one degree or another but people like to think they are somehow breaking new ground. Get over it and move on.
ErikO
@Jack Meoff: There is no difference, he should just say he’s bisexual as that’s what the term means.
drelocks15
Who cares? His body. His thing.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
I think “fluid” (horrible word but whatevs) term is of utilility in describing, say, a guy whose sexual identity is not as stable as some bisexuals is and can go through periods of not being attracted to one sex or the other..and with no gaurentee that it will come back around again. What else would you call these guys at any point along this timeframe..straight, gay or even bi seems less than the full truth if at the time they’re not feeling the requisite tingles.
Brian-E
@ Jack Meoff
I disagree with ErikO’s response to you.
Two reasons people may have for calling themselves sexually fluid rather than bisexual spring to my mind immediately. There may be others.
(1) “Sexually fluid” avoids labelling your sexuality at all. It can mean that the person simply isn’t sure about their sexuality at the moment, and/or that the person feels that their sexuality may not be stable in any given category and may change or crystallise later.
(2) “Bisexual” implies an attraction to men and women. But some people are neither male nor female, so “sexually fluid” avoids explicitly excluding them. An alternative term which avoids this exclusion – and this is a label, contrary to (1) above – is “pansexual”.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
*guarantee
Also the above description might overlap with the concept of so-called “bi-cycle”
Jack Meoff
@Brian-E: What a load of crap.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Gay blokes or monosexuals generally, authoritatively sounding off on the legitamacy or otherwise of bisexuality or sexual fluidity is so fucking hilariously, cluelessly ironic.
Edumacate yourselves or respectfully STFU
Oh and introducing the Bi cycle:
https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/comments/4jwwga/how_long_is_your_bicycle/
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
*legitimacy
Hussain-TheCanadian
“Sexually fluid” to me means you’re a straight man who talks alot about “possibly” sleeping with men (usually to a female audience), but never do because…………you’re straight.
Its an ego thing.
BillSam
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: No offense, but this bi-cycling sounds like an awful lot of silliness for people who will just about do or say anything to keep themselves from, god forbid, thinking they might be gay. There are no doubt genuine bisexuals in the world, but this bunch just sound like highly confused delusionists.
Jack Meoff
@BillSam: Amen to that. People seem to want to call themselves anything but gay or bi these days.
Brian-E
@BillSam:
Why would someone who identifies as sexually fluid, thereby opening themselves up to rejection and ridicule from gay and bisexual people as well as straight people (witness a majority of comments here), be someone who is trying not to think they might be gay?
I think Nico Tortorella sounds pretty sure of himself to be prepared to expose himself to this abuse. Don’t you?
mz.sam
Nico’s ‘fluid’ code speak means he’s a sex slave for boy-gynas.
kent25
There’s one thing I know about these sexually fluid guys, The LOVE a Big old Dick, The bigger the better and they like to dress in women’s clothes and are some of the Best Bottoms you’ll ever meet. Nico’s no different, he like giving Head while wearing a bra and panties and lipstick . After he’s given you a slob job he ‘s on all fours begging you to put it in him , I know the type